I'm really angry at *someone*. How could I calm myself down before I do something I'll regret?
2007-10-03 01:18:03 · 9 answers · asked by Phil Jo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Remember this: Whatever it was that they did, you like to think that you would not do the same thing if you were under the same circumstances as they; but you can't be certain, because you don't know ALL their circumstances. It's easier to lay down your anger if you realize that you MIGHT act the same way if the circumstances were right.
For the future, remember: We all act impulsively and do things we regret. If this person makes a habit of it, and their actions keeping trashing your life, keep your distance.
2007-10-03 02:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath! I hate the way I feel when I'm angry, so I know how you feel. Distance yourself from that person for awhile, if you can. Sometimes I've felt good just writing out exactly how I feel. You can show it to the person, save it just for you, or burn it, if you like. Sometimes even just going for a really brisk walk to get some of that anger out will help. Is there someone else you could talk to about the situation, preferably someone not too close to the other person? My house sometimes benefits from my anger, as I can whip through and clean it in no time when I'm ticked off! LOL!
2007-10-03 08:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by N L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have! You've stopped to consider your anger, and you've even reached out to ask others to help.
A cool-down time is superb for gathering your thoughts. Consider the position of the other person, walk a mile in their shoes, consider the possibility that whatever they did might be a big misunderstanding.
Wait for a calmer moment if you get one, to address your issue privately with the person.
2007-10-03 08:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by susiegasser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the situation with the until you're cooled down. Then address them on how you felt later if it is relevant to do. If it has something to do with how they treat you, address it and ask them to change that particular behavior. If it's their personality, you could tell them how it upset you and then suggest that they not do that specific thing towards you. Their decision is their own, so If they're not going to change it, don't get upset, accept it and make your own decision to avoid the person.
2007-10-03 10:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Answerer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget---are they paying rent to live in your head? Just learn from your dealings with them and move on....it's not worth the aggravation to seek revenge or get back at them and just drags you down as well. People are human and make mistakes, sometimes we don't see eye to eye with others and it's best to just drop it and get on with your own life. Realize that you're not perfect either and if you can't get along with this person, it's best to just avoid them. You'll be happier doing just that.
2007-10-03 08:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by paul h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change focus.
Example: Watch a speech by GW Bush....
or
Think of how much in taxes is taken from your pay each week
or
Get arrested, spend a night in jail, and you will surely be more angry at yourself.
No room for hate in this world.... too much of it already.
2007-10-03 08:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by G L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the situation.
Avoid the person for a few days.
Think about it, write about it, and when you feel calmer, talk to the person.
2007-10-03 08:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by carlottavaldez007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't figured that out either, I have to fight letting my hatred for george bush and cohorts consume my thoughts every time a soldier dies!
2007-10-03 08:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by ReBelle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me,, no... If they have gotten to that point then I may forgive them because I would want them to forgive me, But I will NOT want them in my life again..
Unless of course it is my daughter..
2007-10-03 08:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋