Confused on what to do!
It's almost been 9 months since a friend of mine and I spoke. We never met; it was all online; text message; snail mail (letters). We met through a mutual friends of ours. I was a prospect at her college, so thats how we started talking and it turned int a friendship. She sent me Xmas letter ;gifts. I sent her a gifts etc. Basically she said something that bothered me (she questioned my sexuality), but she was very clumsy and rude about it too. She didn't see nothing wrong with asking, but she never apolgized. She said I had traits that she learned in her bio class- described one. I gave her a chance & after that she changed. I had to basically start the conversation & I felt like she wasn't the same person I met. I never let her know why I stopped talking to her. I didn't think she'd care. But should I go clean & tell her everything?..even after all of this time?..*She is graduating-so would it be wrong for me to at least congratulate her?..*-to keep "peace"
2007-10-02 17:23:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
SHE GOES TO A MILITARY, I plan on it too.SO THATS WHY I'M OFFENDED. DON'T ASK; DONT TELL. I'M NOT -BUT HOW DARE SHE,.
2007-10-02 17:28:26 · update #1
no. i think you should leave it alone. questioning someones sexuality clumsily is not cool. she could have at least apologised. traits learned in her bio class.....wtf...no man. leave it.
2007-10-02 17:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by darkling 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide what is most important to you.
If it's worth it to you, to leave things as they are, then so be it.
But personally, I think that If I valued someone I wouldn't lose that over a misunderstanding. And even if you were/are hurt by what she said , then don't you at least have an obligation to tell her why you're no longer speaking to her? It's always been my belief that it's not fair to hold something against someone of THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW!
Especially since you mentioned going to the military, there's a chance you may not have this opportunity again!
Worst case scenario, you get it off your chest and then she blows you off. Then you move on, and will at least have some closure. But best case, you and your friend get beyond this and put this to bed for good!
2007-10-02 17:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dwell with the past. Stop thinking about it. Congratulate her, there is nothing wrong with that. Both of you are still young in the past, expect some changes. Be positive, this time you are both molding your maturity and your ways and views in life are better than before. She might have learned to respect individuals, we can never be sure. One thing I am sure about is that she has changed! So don't judge her yet...
2007-10-02 17:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Asteria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask yourself why you want to talk to her still or congratulate her. I don't know the context of what she said, but if she doesn't strike you as a very important or dear friend, I would just let it be.
On the other hand, if you really miss her, I'd congratulate her and maybe eventually mention it to her. Ask her if she ever wonders why you don't talk anymore.
2007-10-02 17:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough said! Move on with your life. Chalk this up as an experience. Quit torturing yourself any longer!
2007-10-02 17:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Pinyon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about congratulating her. Keep what peace? She's not trying to reconnect with you.
2007-10-02 23:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take my advice...
If you don't contact her and say something....you will always wonder.
2007-10-02 18:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mustbe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋