My 3 year old grandson has always been a bit "labor intensive" and "high maintenance". What I mean is, as an infant, he was much "needier" ( ie: couldn't lay him down to sleep, he wanted to sleep in my arms... and as a toddler, would wake during the night and want me to rock him). He isn't near as self entertaining as my daughters were. He is really a sweet, loving, and smart boy, but... he now seems to be getting really "wild". He is so rough! Sometimes, if I know he is in one of his wild moods, I better get out of his way! He'll run me down! I'm getting discouraged because I notice that I am losing patience with him and am raising my voice... a lot! I don't want to be hollering at him, especially since it doesn't do any good. If I try to get down on his level and talk to him, he's just wiggling around and laughing, and acting silly. Sometimes he is so fueled up I wonder what on earth he ate. I want him to have some self control. How do I handle him?
2007-10-02 16:33:18 · 13 answers · asked by jahulobo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
To answer Rooster Cruze's question-- Unfortunately, his "parents" are very serfish and not good parents. That is why I am raising him. He is honestly the absolute joy of my life. Maybe he wasn't a planned child, but, I couldn't even imagine life without him. He is the sparkle in every day!
2007-10-02 16:54:30 · update #1
I am a father of 3 boys 1 girl. 3 boys 12 and under is no fun when the are in the mood you are talking. I also am a cub scout leader. I can 10 cub scouts down off the walls in about 4 minutes. The thing that always works for me is having a race RUNNING just a small track around a tree in the yard ( this can also be timed (with one child) with a watch trying to better his own personal time. keep going betting him he can beat his last time. This will only take a couple of minutes of your time and is guaranteed to bring him down to a tolerable level. I would also bet that you cant find a child specialist or doctor to say that it would be harm-full to his health and your mental health. SO SIMPLE NO BRAIN-ER. if you stuck inside i bet you could find some other exercise to wear him down.
good luck
2007-10-02 17:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by STEVE T 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I have a 4 year old that is the same. She was not a needy baby. I did nurse her so I guess she was held a lot. When she hit 3, she began to be a "wild child". I thought she may be insane...lol. She ran wild all the time and is still high energy. I got tips from her doctor and preschool teacher. It seems she is a highly motivated and intelligent girl. Your boy may need more intellectual stimulation. I have found that introducing her to new ideas like art and crafts. We do a lot of things together like cooking and cleaning. She has jobs to do and understands her limits. I have learned that using a chart with our daily expectations that she can put a star by each day has made her excited about doing what she is asked. I remind her of her chart and we do time out. Also, find out what he ate. Leave out sugar. Find out if he has allergies. Good luck. Pretty much saddle up and hold on for the ride.
2007-10-02 23:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by LucyLou 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I hate to break it to you, but it sounds like he's a typical 3 - year - old boy. They can be spirited, to say the least. I would advise you to make sure he knows the rules, and deliver consistent discipline when he breaks them. But don't forget to catch him behaving; positive reinforcement is key! When he follows the rules, point out how happy you are that he's acting like a big boy. When he gets "fueled up," it often means he has excess energy to burn off. Again, that's typical little boy behavior! It sounds like you aren't really used to this, since you mentioned having daughters but no sons. I certainly understand how this may be a bit of a shell shocker! So when he's in an active mood, make sure he has plenty of positive ways to exert his energy - playing ball outside, riding a tricycle, playing tag, jumping on a small trampoline, etc. I know they can be exhausting sometimes, but when you try to look at it in a positive light, it really can be fun!
2007-10-02 23:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
thank god he has a grandma like you...i mean that sincerely, he is a lucky boy. look at what he is eating and drinking. the preservatives in food and drink can set some kids off. is he bored ? give him something to do, does he interact with children his own age a lot ? maybe that would help. my kids were never like this so I'm not one to be dishing out the advice but hang in there and " good on ya " as we say in Australia.
2007-10-03 00:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i would pay attention to what hes eating and drinking lots of sodas and sweets might be causing him to act that way my niece used to do that my sister in law would let her drink dr pepper after she stopped giving it to her she calmed down also make sure he has at least an hour a day to run around outside to work off his already full energy
2007-10-02 23:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by sarah r 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He might be one of the kids that the Feingold diet will help. It is a special diet for kids with behavior and learning issues. A friend of mine told me her nephew was on it and within a week it was like he was a totally different child.
2007-10-02 23:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He's BORED!!!!! You have to channel his energy into something positive, he's at a perfect age for beginner bikes, sports and all types of other energy burning things. He's very hyper and aggressive, sounds like an athlete to me! Don't holler and yell at him, get him something to do, he's bored and bored leads to destruction!!!
2007-10-02 23:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I made up my mind before I had children that I would not let them control me. As soon as it was needed I started administering discipline. It worked.
2007-10-02 23:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have him evaluated by your doctor. Then if you are not satisfied with what they tell you, take him to a specialist. He may not be able to control his behavior.... or he may just be an energetic child. Having him evaluated would be the only way to find out. Good luck.
2007-10-02 23:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Who's the boss? It looks like hes the one in charge. Why are you asking this question anyway....where are his parents.
2007-10-02 23:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋