Professor-student dating question. Help! Does he like me?

Question

I've taken a class and currently in a class with a professor who is older than me but I'm 22. Last semester at the very beginning (we only had 2 classes by this time), I saw him at a bar and we casually talked. After that night, he knew my name and started acknowledging me. I would stop by his office and chit chat with him. Anyways, this past summer we emailed each other and dropped innuendo hints that we were interested. Nothing happened and now I am in a class with him again. He always acknowledges me, stares at me, smiles at me....you get the picture. Well, anyways, just the other day I went to his office to discuss a paper I wrote. He brought his puppy and said he brought him just for me. Then, the dog had to do his duty outside and he asked me if I wanted to go with them. I really like him and I want to tell him in a more subtle way. So, for my first question, do you think he is interested? How do I tell him that I like him? Don't answer if you are opposed to this...

Answer 1

Well, you didn't mention how much older he is than you. He may think of you as a daughter?

I think you'll have a much easier time with this once you're out of his class-- you can go full speed ahead then. (Hopefully this is only a 1-semester class?)

Even if he IS interested, he might be holding back while you're in his class. Depending on whether or not he has tenure, and depending on your university's sexual harassment/ consentual relationship policy (try looking to see if there's a faculty handbook online), he may be forbidden from dating a student while she's in his class, or he may be forbidden from dating a student, period. Some schools say that if a prof. dates a student, he's supposed to alert the admin. immediately and make other arrangements.

If it's just a 1-semester class, I'd keep being friendly, and then when classes let out in Dec., ask him if he'd like to join you for dinner sometime.

Anothing thing... try not to talk about him with other students at all. I know when you like someone, you want to talk about them, but even if you try to act casual, you'll probably "glow" and/ or gush... someone will pick up on it. You don't want to be the subject of rumors.

Good luck... go slowly!

Answer 2

Don't answer if you are opposed to this? Wow, does that mean you only want people who agree with what you're doing to answer? Well, I happen to think you can date anyone you want, regardless of where you meet them, as long as you two can keep your mouth closed and maintain a teacher student demeanor, at school.

I'm sorry, but I actually don't think it would be in his best interest as a teacher to date you, if you are in his class though. If you got a good grade, people would say, it was because you two were dating. It would make things complicated for him at work and you might only be setting yourself up for disappointment and heartbreak. I know for a fact that it's dangerous and just strange getting involved with a teacher outside of the classroom, then having to turn in paperwork to them the next day. I wouldn't read too much into his actions. He may just be trying to be nice to you, but then again, you never know, so I could be wrong. Pull him to the side, or email him and tell him how you feel and ask him if you two may or may not have a future in the cards. I think teachers are incredibly sexy! Such a turn-on! Maybe because I still haven't fulfilled that teacher/naughty student fantasy yet. Ahhhh well. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

oh my gosh sweety I've been through that!! but i can't answer your question, it's extremely hard... it depends on how he is and believe it or not how old he is... if he's around your age, he could be interested, if he's over 50 he also could be interested if he's between the ages of 35 and 45, those guys... they know how to play their cards right and can probably get with anyone they want. My advice is don't tell him anything, not unless he initiates a conversation of the sort. If you get into a more meaningful, deep relationship where you get to know him and he gets to know you, and nothing physical really happens, the chemistry just finds its way through, but if it's a guy who just wants to use you, you'll know when he's not interested in what you have to say. there's where you have to stand strong and believe that you're worth more than that, anyway, it's about all i can say, and good luck!! if you want my email's guli_tica@yahoo bye!

Answer 4

I think dating and schoolwork don't mix, so if he is interested I'd not take a class with him teaching again. I'd also not pursue it until the class is over, because if things get complex one's going to hurt the other.

As for 'is he interested', he's giving enough signs that he likes you. Why not just ask him how he feels?

Answer 5

i have a huge crush on my tutor too. but too bad i dont think he likes me and he dont even know my name, but luckily he can always recognize me and smiles to me. well, just wanna share with you..
ok, and is your professor still a single? and does he talk to every girl students just like the way he talks to you? if the answer is no, you have a big chance in my opinion. i think he had already gave you hint that he likes you too.
dont worry much, if you like him, just go ahead and confess. this is exactly what i am going to do! i left only 2 more classes with my tutor , and i had decided that i will give him a present and tell him about my feeling. i dont care if i fail but atleast i try, isnt?
goodluck to both of us!

Answer 6

He probably knows that you have a crush on him and thinks that that is alright, but he also probably doesn't want to lose his job and his reputation.

Answer 7

Ask him out girl what u have to lose???