Have you ever been around a kid and it made you not want to have one?

Question

Have you ever been around a kid and it made you not want to have one?

Like a very bossy strong-willed 2yr old that stresses you out and you decide you'll never have children if they're this bad? Before you met this kid(she's not yours she's your neice or your friend's) you had this dream of having many children until you baby sat this one.

Is this normal?

Answer 1

It's normal. Be prepared for this if you become a parent. Contrary to popular belief kids are not cute 24/7. This is not reasons to not have kids but you should remember this if you decide to have your own. They can be very rewarding but also require a lot of endless work. If your not able or willing to except this then don't have them. Also remember no matter how good of parenting skills you have there is no guarantee of having a good kid. I think a lot of people have kids with no idea of what they are getting into. I think you are better prepared to decide if you want kids then most and realizing this will help you be a better parent.

Answer 2

I think it's completely normal. Kids are just like anyone else in that there are some we like, some we don't like, some we can't stand at all, etc. If you have spent some time with a kid that you really don't like, it will probably scare you for a while because you won't be able to stop from wondering what will it be like if you ahve a kid like that? But, I think it just doesn't turn out that way. Parents are incredibly blind in love with their own children. I think many parents will agree when I say that lots of kids are lucky that they're so cute because otherwise some of them would never make it to adulthood. Nature made them cute for a reason. And nature also made parents sensitive to their own child's cuteness for a reason.

Answer 3

Don't talk about my kid that way! Just kidding. Alot of their attitude and behavior is based on how they are raised. teach your child right and wrong and teach them manners. They pick up on this at a very early age, so the sooner you start the better. Not all kids are like this, mine is 4 now and yes he is a little bossy at times but you have to tell them that that is not the way things are. you be the parent...don't let your kid be.

Answer 4

yes it is very normal , but it is different when it's yours. At least it is if you love them enough to take the time to teach them right from wrong and spend quality time with them. I have a 3 yr old little girl and she is so sweet most of the time but when I go out and I see kids yelling and telling their parents to shut-up I thank god mine is not like that. Also I have been around well behaved kids that just got on my nerves but if you think about it they probably act like that because they are like their parents if it was yours it would have more of your personalty . Don't let a few badly behaved kids change your mind about wanting then . My little one is the BEST thing that has ever happened to me even on the worst of days when I'm so tired I can't see and she is crying I have never thought maybe I shouldn't have had her . She is my world

Answer 5

Yes.

I was a nanny for six years and the mother always joked that it was the best form of birth control ever. (Her kids were wonderful, so I never had problems with them) I have come across children that are just out of this world horrible...but then I start to think that it is the parents fault for not controlling them better. All parents, in my opinion, should work hard at making sure their children act with some sort of decency while out in public. It's only fair to everyone around them...and I think it would make the job of parenting just so much easier. I mean...a child that behaves out in public!? What a concept.

I guess, just don't allow one child ruin your desire to have children of your own. Just use the mistakes of that child (and parent) to work hard at raising yours in a manner you see as good.

Answer 6

I am "Chldfree" by choice. I had a vasectomy when I was 21, and never had them. My girlfriend did the same. I know quite a few adults in their late 30's, though 50's that chose not to have children.

Almost all of us have one thing in common: We had to care a younger siblings, or cousins, that we had to take care of.

Most of us has to do parenting for problem children when we were children. I think that is why we don't want our own.

Answer 7

I have a niece that drives me up the wall and she is 3, it's the parenting I know but the kid is going to be a terrible adult I'm sad to say. I have rules in my home and she does not treat me like she treats her parents which is good. I see tons of children like her with lame parents.

It seems to be running rampant these days, bad to no parenting I mean.

Answer 8

yep- Kids are little people- they have their own distinct personality and mannerisms. You are not going to like all of them.
But- a 2 year old is only 2- She is a baby who is still getting use to words and communication. Cut her a break- cut yourself a break =) She may be an angel next time you see her. ultimately- think off ALL the kids you have met and liked! Pick this rotten apple out of your barrell and enjoy the rest of the bunch

Answer 9

Everyone regardless of gender has had this happen to them...some are more traumatic than others but they all do happen sadly...the kids are usually not to blame it's mostly the parents who suck at parenting. So with that logic in hand just have them kids of yours and raise them so they don't become a kid that will deter others from having one.

Answer 10

haha...yes, it's normal. That feeling has come and gone with me. I have 3 younger siblings (one step, 2 halves) and they are the BEST birth control ever! But sometimes they are so clever and sweet, and I wonder what it would be like if I had one of my own...

Don't let one kid turn you off completely...but at least you recognize the stress involved, so you'll be prepared!