I was not with my childs father when he pasted but we were still really good freinds, I am still so hurt by this whole thing nd really don't know how to control my emotions his girlfriend when he past is already on to her next but I feel as I owe him more respect than to lay up with some other man I still love him and miss him so much, I just want one more hug, one more kiss just one, Am I crazy?
2007-10-02 15:31:27 · 14 answers · asked by totally confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Totally Confused you are not crazy at all. Everyone grieves fpr different lengths of time. Eventually these feeling will subside. I am imagining that he must have remained close with you also and would appreciate these feelings that you are currently experiencing. But the sad fact of life is that he has passed and now your little one is left fatherless. If possible try and remain positive about your feelings and when he/she asks questions about her dad you can give her a good response rather than bad mouthing him so many others do. You may have already gone through the denial stage or resentment stage and trust me when I say that this grieving will eventually leave you. Hopefully someday when you are prepared another man can come into your life for both you and your child. But until then remember good thoughts and also that you are not alone with these type of feelings. A lot of others have experienced exactly the same thoughts after losing someone close. Best of luck.
2007-10-02 15:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no your not crazy. even though you 2 werent together there is still somesort of bond between you 2. You must of loved him to have a child together. Even then you could of hated each other but it would still hurt inside. If it hasnt happened yet you are going to have your ups and downs. on day you will be just sitting there watching your child play and you are going to start crying probaly because your child has features of its father or the child does something you 2 talked about the kid doing.
Im sorry for you and your kids loss. you will know inside when its time to move on.
2007-10-02 22:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No love your not crazy it's OK to feel this way he was the father of your kids. Just look at the kids and you will see him and think of all the good times you had with him. As for the one more kiss and one more hug give that to your kids and tell them it's from daddy and at the same time you will feel like you are hugging him. All the best to you and our kids.
2007-10-02 22:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tina E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not crazy your in mourning, it will take time for you to move on. What you are experiencing right now is a grieving process once you get through it you will be fine. Just take it one day at a time. If you have to cry then cry don't hold it in, a lot of people go through this when they loose a Love one whether a Friend or a Love one.
2007-10-02 22:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lightbright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not crazy, you are in grief. It takes many forms and the only cure is time. Remember him with fondness. No guilt, no going back and changing anything. Acceptance is the beginning of the healing process. Good luck.
2007-10-02 22:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not crazy just hurt. That is love although i said tonight that love don't hurt. in this case it does because you lost some one you were close to. soon this shall pass. you will think about him and it won't hurt as bad. when you lose some one i do not think you ever get over it.
pray and believe it will pass.
2007-10-02 22:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Rejeana L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in a different way. There are no hard and fast rules as to how you grieve, how long you grieve, how you should behave when you're grieving. You grieve in your way.You have suffered a loss and your child has suffered a loss. My guess is you're feeling it for both of you. Try not to judge his girlfriend, it may just be her way. Try to take care of yourself and be there for your child who just lost his/her? dad.
2007-10-02 22:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by goodcook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy It sounds as if you just had more feelings for him than his last girlfriend. But you may have also shared more memories with him too. time will heal your pain. God bless you!!
2007-10-02 22:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jeri E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. I would feel that way also.
I am sorry for your loss.
2007-10-02 22:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by cabingirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not crazy it seems you have some decency unlike some people
2007-10-02 22:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋