i used to really like my bf and weve only been going out for three weeks, and i already want to get rid of him. i dont feel the same way i used to. i also kind of like this other guy.
my bf is kind of irritating. he follows me everywhere, when i told him he doesnt have to. i see him everyday in most of my classes so i dont want him to hate me. Ive never broken up with a guy b4 because he is my first. i have know idea what to do. please help.
oh yeah and is it weird that i wanted to go out with this guy for months and i finally got him and i dont want to anymore. is that weird.
i feel really bad.
but this other guy is really sweet. but hes only in my art class. he comes and sits on my chair with me and helps me with my artwork. im pretty sure he likes me, but he does all this in front of my bf. So i have to act like im not interested in him, but i am. im sorry i keep blabbing on. anyway, any advice is greatly appreciated, and thank you so much
cheese xoxoxo
2007-10-02 14:11:10 · 16 answers · asked by ♪ladida♪ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing wrong with wanting to dump your boyfriend because you and him aren't right for each other. You've only been going out 3 weeks so its not as big of a deal. Just tell him that you don;t think things are going to work out, but you still enjoy hanging out and want to stay friends.
You probably wanted to go out with him for so long because you didn't know him. Then you got to know him over the past 3 weeks and realized that he wasn't who you thought you were.
You say you like this guy in your art class a lot. Just some advice: you may want to get to know him before you start dating him. You didn't with the first guy and look where it ended up. Maybe hang out with him for a bit so you can get a better sense of who he is. That way you'll know for sure if you want to date him.
And try to remember that it's okay not to date someone. People in high school are always so concerned about going from one guy to the next. But there's really nothing wrong with being single. It let's you learn more about yourself.
Good luck.
2007-10-02 14:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the point in staying with him if you dont like him? You wouldnt be a bad person b/c you just dont feel the same anymore. So if you dont break up with him years from now your gonna marry him b/c you dont wanna say no and be a bad person? Just say hey (boyfriends name) I really dont feel the same anymore can we just be friends? You dont even have to do it yourself get a friend or give him a note. Heres the thing tho after you and him break up you cant just go out with that guy you like cuz the your ex will think that you cheated on him. So give it about a week or 2. Anyways goodluck
2007-10-02 14:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Pookie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you would not be a bad person if you broke up with him...just do it in a kind way. Explain to him that you don't want to date right now...and that he is following you too much...maybe dating/going out...is not what you want to do at the present time...BUT!!!...don't jump into anything right away with anyone else...get to know a guy more by just everyday communication, classes, etc. Patience is the key to soooo many things...I don't know your age, but we somehow learn, in time, that patience is sooo important and you can find out sooo many things. Be yourself, and be open to everyday communications...no, you are not a bad person...you are just real...just be honest with yourself and others....honesty hurts, but it's in the way that you say things......
2007-10-02 14:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by katherine c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats not weird that you wanted to date him for a while and no you don't thats normal and just say hey look i really like you and all but you really need to stop floolowing me around everywhere and that you want a breack from him and you don't want him to hate you but u just need a breack and you hope you two can still be friends good luck and hope this helps
2007-10-02 14:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Baby girl! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being a bad person by doing that but its kind of cold maybe your b/f is a very jealous man he is afraid to lose you or you should ask him why he follows you around alot or everyday dont break up with him but try to talk to him ask him why. dont break his heart open his heart but if you really feel like breaking up with him you have to be for sure you want to do that you have to be really sure you want to or yuo will definetely break it if you are going to break it off with him try to do it in a way he could understand but tell him why your breaking up with him he deserves to know why like i said break it to him easily so he could understand and please follow your heart.. do the right thing once you make that mistake you cannot go back and correct it.
2007-10-02 14:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your young...just tell him that you don't want to go out with him anymore. The chances that you will not hurt his feelings are nil since it appears that he is infatuated with you (I.E. Follows you everywhere).
It is not weird that you no longer find him fascinating. It was the 'chase' that excited you not the 'relationship'.
Just date around. Nothing serious. Keep your options open.
Good Luck!
2007-10-02 14:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by CajunAsian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait, let me get this straight, you don't feel the same as you did 3 weeks ago? what did you grow up since 3 weeks ago?
Are you serious?
(Why is it that every adult site is taken over by teens?)
2007-10-02 14:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by Numb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you are clear about your feelings and you are honest, you cannot be a bad person. Comm'on! Is it better to stay with him and pretend, when you are actually thinking of somebody else?!!
Don't be ridiculous.
2007-10-02 14:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thats completely fine. sometimes you really like someone then realize youre not compatible. youre obviously not going to ruin the kids life, its only been three weeks. just tell him its not working.
:)
2007-10-02 14:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jenna M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the sooner the better it will hurt him but it will hurt more the longer you wait and you may not want to let him know why he may try to hurt the other guy you actually do like
2007-10-02 14:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by justinjedi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋