i really want to move but my parents wont allow me?

Question

i cant stand where i live. i hate it. how can i convince my parents to let me move in with one of my family members in another state? i cry everyday but they dont even care. i hate the people at my school and all the drama.

im turning sixteen in november

my parents dont even listen to me when i talk to them. and when i cry because of things that happen at school they just ignore me and act like nothing is wrong. when i try to talk to them they just start telling me how i have to finish school here.

Answer 1

You would have to have a juvenile court judge award custody of you to your relative.

What makes you think your problems won't follow you if you had the chance to move?

Many kids your age feel just the same as you. I hated school when I was your age. This is normal.

What is not normal is running away. What is also not normal is cutting school or failing in school.

Yes, your parents care. They may know more about the kinfolk you want to move in with.

If you hate your school, then do really well in your classes, go to summer school and get ahead in your classes and if you do really well, you could graduate a year early.

Look into Running Start type programs in your state. This is a great program in Washington where a bright, motivated student can take college classes that will earn you both highschool graduation credits and college credits. Many kids get an associates degree at eighteen.

Or you could just go on a fast track and graduate at seventeen.

Good luck. You are not the only kid feeling the way you do.

Answer 2

Whether you are 7 or 17, you still have the same rights, which is NADA. You can move anywhere you like after you are 18.

You are old enough to get a part-time job and start banking some savings so you can move somewhere else 2 years from now. If there are no jobs at local shops, or fast food, then consider making your own gig... babysitting, dog walking, or whatever. I know kids that created their own gigs by doing something as simple as charging a flat fee for picking up the doggy-poo from people's yards twice a week... 10 houses at $6 to $10 a week can be good money. The trick is to get your chores at home done, and keep your studies/grades up so you don't get in trouble.

High school ALWAYS stinks. Even the so-called popular kids have problems. Some of it is raging hormones and some of it is due to a complete lack of maturity.

Listen, you can distance yourself from the drama. Start by analyzing what each relationship for what that person brings to the table. If all that person brings is stupidity, grief, drama and what-hot, you need to spend your time with someone else. Then you need to understand what you yourself bring to the table. What attracts certain people to you, and why are you attracted to certain people? People are generally a mirror of our own issues. When you get used to doing this type of analysis you can streamline your life and make it better.

Answer 3

Maybe there is a reason that they want you to stick it out where you are. Try asking them to send you to another school, but keep this in mind....no matter where you go, you will be the new kid and sometimes that is harder than just sticking it out where you are. As for crying about it every day...basically you need to resign yourself to the situation, meaning deal with it. Your parents are your guardians until you turn 18. Stay. Learn as much as you can. Focus on getting the grades you need for college, tech school or whatever it is you want to do after highschool. There are really very few people that like school, so make the best of it.

Answer 4

May be it depends on the reason why you're moving? Is it only because of your school and the kids there? If so, your parents might be trying to teach you to never run away from a difficult situation. They may want you to face up to it, and be who you are, and not let anyone put you down or run over you. Know what I mean? School is tough I know. I went thru a bullying stage where kids bullied me for three years until I stood up to them. Then no one bothered me anymore. But during that time, I wanted to crawl in a whole, or move away out of state and not face it any more. My mother forced me too and I'm glad she did because it made me a stronger person inside. You may have a different situation than I did, but sweetie, don't run away from it. Face it. Conquer it. Be true to yourself and be strong. Some kids are so horrible to others. More so these days then back when I was in high school. Wasn't that long ago, but I know it's tougher now because I had nieces and nephews in high school not too long ago.
Have you tried sitting down with your parents and talk to them about how you are feeling and why you are wanting to move? They don't want to lose you, so they will not agree to you moving away from them. Especially in a different state. But if you tell them what is going on, may be they can help you face this. OK? Chin up sweetie. Everything will be fine. Take it one day at a time.

Answer 5

First you need to grow up and realize that you do not get everything you want in life. You need to learn to make lemonade if life serves you lemons. Your parents love you and are providing for you. Do you help around the house or do you just complain about things at school and who knows everywhere else. After working for over 40 years to rear a family, I felt a bit taken for granted at times - working hard, making money to see it all spent to begin the cycle again. You see, what you take for granted, your parents are working hard to maintain let alone making your life a bed of roses. The only person who can make you happy is you yourself - you have to decide to be happy, and then work at it. If you spent as much time trying to help and see what you have at home instead of trying to tear down and minimize your parent's inputs, you would be a happier person. Your hormones are racing right now, but one of life's big challenges is to harness our energy into positive thoughts and actions. Join the world team and make a contribution to your family instead of being a stumbling block. You will find that with a new attitude, people will actually listen to your comments and ideas. Good luck, but someone needed to tell you this for your own good.

Answer 6

I know how tough it can be in a school where you don't get along with the other students and live in a place that you don't like at all. Unfortunately, you can't make your parents listen to you and I feel for you on that part. They probably think they're doing the right thing and don't realize how much you're hurting inside. I know it's not much consolation now, but someday you'll be old enough to do what you want.

Answer 7

I know you *think* you know what's best for you, but think about this for a moment.....

Your parents work and have a house, correct? If they move, they'll have to find new work and new house. Do you realize how much work is involved in making this happen? How are your parents going to find a new job in a new place that pays as much as they are getting now?

Have you thought about what it would cost to pack up everything and move it across state(s)?

Also, are you aware how big of a responsibility it is to have you, a minor, living as a dependent? Do you think it's fair for your extended family member to having have to accept you?

I think you are being selfish by thinking of only you. You need to make the best out of your current situation.

A good thing is, in two years, you can do what-ever you want. Move out on your own if you want to. Then you can pay all of your expenses and assume responsibility for everything you do. I'm not kidding. It's not as easy as you think.

Answer 8

You can't convince them, 1) they are responsible for you, 2) not many people will take someone into their home and remain happy for a long time, 3) your parents want you close to them, is that so hard to understand?

You're a teenager, and you sound spoiled. You say they don't care, do you care about how much you hurt them everytime you say you want to leave them?

Can you support yourself, or are you just expecting a) another relative to pay for your crap, b) your parents to just give you up, and still pay for your crap?

Stop wasting everyone's time, including yours, get a job, save up money, and when you're 18, you can move out legitimately, not like the selfish brat you sound like.

Answer 9

of you are truly unhappy then you should sit down with your parents and have a talk. tell them how you really feel. of corse there going to need some convincing because they dont want there daughter to just go away. ask them if you could maybe go to a relatives for a little while and try it out. if that doesnt work ask if you can trade schools. your depressed and they should understand thatt. if your parebts make you stay dont streess that just akes it worse. talking always helps. if they say no at first dont argue. simplay do something that shows them your responsible enough then ask agian.

Answer 10

I'm not sure but i think u can get emancipated at the age of 16 or 17 pending on the state u live in try to look it up or go to the law category in ask = ask the question about emancipation good luck