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Question

im 12 years old im middel school and i have a boy freind. he is 12 too. and well i whent over to his house and I was talking to him and he started takeing off my shirt. and kissing my neck. I got scared and said gotta go. And at his house he brings his freinds over. and he brings me in the restroom and he says go out there in your bra i tell him to stop. but then he says i will
tell the whole school all of your secrets! so then his freinds starts saying damn your hott. then he sits by me at school at lunch and starts rubbing my vagina. i tell him to stop he says it will ok
and rubs harder. i dont know what to do he is nice sometimes. He is not the guy i had my first kiss with he thinks we should go to the next level
im not ready

Answer 1

You sound very smart and I think you are too good for your boyfriend. You say he is nice sometimes, but that means he is also not nice sometimes. If he really cared about you he wouldn't be trying to get you to do things you don't want to do. You shouldn't be with him if he makes you uncomfortable. If you dump him you will have a chance to meet lots of other people and find someone you really enjoy hanging out with. You deserve someone who makes you feel comfortable, happy, and good about yourself.

Middle school it is a really weird time because everybody is growing up and going through changes with their bodies. Boys and girls are uncomfortable with their bodies so they try to act cool like your boyfriend's friends. This doens't mean anything though, lots of kids act like you aren't cool if you don't want sex, but actually not many people do it. Your boyfriend is probably not a bad person, but wanting to experiment with sex is more important to him than you are. Get rid of him and wait until you are older to experiment with sexy stuff.

Don't worry about him saying he will tell all your secrets. I know it seems like it would be awful but trust me, even if he does tell nobody will remember for very long. Even worse, this is basically blackmail. If he says things like this you know you can't trust him. Anyway, I'm sure you could tell him that you know a few of his secrets that you could share around, and if he tells yours then you'll tell his! :-P

Answer 2

You sound like a smart girl. My advice to you is stay as far away from this boy as you can! If he keeps bothering you and trying to pressure you into doing something you don't want to do, then tell your parents. 12 years old is WAY too young to be thinking about "the next level". I have a daughter and I know if some boy was trying to get her to do something like that, well, lets just say that my fatherly instincts would take over and I guarantee that he would leave her alone from that point on!

Answer 3

Young lady, if you were my daughter, you wouldn't see the light of day for about 6 years. You are way too young to be having these kind of things happen to you. Tell the little jerk to lay off - this is not cool, and the only one enjoying it is him. If he doesn't stop voluntarily, quit placing yourself in these circumstances. Tell your Mom & Dad or whomever has Guardianship-they will be glad to help you. Believe it or not, you are not equipped to deal with this yourself - get help before it does "go to the next level" and you regret it for the rest of your life. You don't even need to be kissing on these guys - gives them the wrong idea because their brains are in their pants right now. And finally, I agree, you are not ready! Please heed what I say - I would hate for my Granddaughter (your age) to be going through something like this. Sex is for a special someone in your life - it is not for any boy who has the urge for you to comply. Boys will be boys, but that doesn't make it right for you. Good luck and by the way, back hand the little prick the next time he touches you inappropriately - you have the right to defend your honor.

Answer 4

Oh my gosh im so sorry, hunn you need to tell your mom or counsler about this!! hunny this is sexual abuse!! yes i know you dont want the whole school to know your secrets but at the same time he seems like a guy that wont take no for an answer, hunny i think you should get yourself out of that relationship NOW!!! do it tomorrow ok? because if you dont you might be put into a position and be forced to do something you dont want to!

Answer 5

At the age that you are you are way too young to be doing anything like that. This boy is a bully he won't take no for an answer and then has to threaten you to get you to do things. Do you really want someone like him in your life, you can do so much better. He is only 12 yrs old, you are only 12yrs old, you have got the rest of your life to lead and it is going to be a long one and plenty of time for boys and boyfriends. I didn't even think of those kind of things when I was that age.

Focus on your schooling and find a boy that respects you and does not degrade you like an object. You have alot going for you and you don't even realise it yet. Don't let this boy degrade you and disrespect you and you don't need a boy to tell you that you are hot. Compliments are good and all but if you hold yourself high and respect yourself you don't need anyone to tell you that, believe in yourself.

A guy shouldn't threaten you to get you to do things for him. If I were you I would tell my parents what he is doing to you...as much as it is embarrassing as it will be you have to do it. do you really want this to keep going? Tell your parents he keeps on doing this to you and you have said no and that he has threatened to tell the whole school. Your parents believe it or not may be upset but really they are not upset with you..may be they will be a little bit as you never told them sooner but they will be looking after your best interests and your parents love you no matter what.

People at school tell rumours all the time you just have to act as if that's all they are which they are. Anyone who does that to anyone it is sick and you don't want someone like that in your life. People who believe those rumours well they have very narrow minds and you don't need them in your life, you'll be stronger for it and know to keep well away from people like this as if you don't hold yourself high and have more respect for yourself people like this will keep on doing it to you and it will bring you down. You have your friends and they will and should be by yourside 100% and thats all thats matter who cares what someone else that you don't really know or knows you what they think. Be happy and think of this as a positive sure it was a hard lesson to learn but you have experienced it and you know what to look for in a guy ad know how you should be treated. All these things in life are a learning curve.

Answer 6

umm this is really concerning. You need to discuss this with an adult. If you aren't comfortable with your parents, talk to your youth pastor or an older sibling or a counselor. He is completely wrong in doing this to you, he is violating you!! This kid has no manners and needs counseling. He has some serious problems ahead for him.
You deserve to be treated with respect!!! Not treated like an animal and paraded around like one in front of his friends. Seriously Hun you need to let an adult know so he can get some help. Who cares if he tells your secrets to everyone at school, he has no right to do that to you. Protect yourself, even though it might look scary you will not regret it. I really hope he can get some help.

Answer 7

You need to stay away from this boy. When you tell him no then it is no. Do not be alone with him. You are too young for sex, even you realize that. Do not let him blackmail you with the threat of telling your secrets. You need to tell an adult what is going on. If you can't tell your parents can you tell a teacher or one of your friends mothers? You need help with this. Please ask someone for it. Do not let anyone touch you or do anything to you that you do not want or that you are uncomfortable with.

Answer 8

Don't be afraid of this guy he is just being stupid! Break up with him if he wont listen to you. Tell your mum or a teacher that you trust, don't be embarrased about telling them, if you are worried about telling them, write down all the things in a letter and give it to your mum or teacher you trust then they can read it so you don't have to say it out loud.
Just go up to this boy and say "stop it , i don't like what you're doing" and then go and tell somebody.
Don't be afraid to stand up to him, because what he is doing is very wrong, and you shouldn't have to put up with it.

Answer 9

Dump his @ss! You're too young for a boyfriend. Tell your parents what he's trying to get you to do, I'm sure your father would love to have a chat with this little dumb@ss you are way too young for sex and I'm so glad that you know you're not ready. You shouldn't and don't have to put up with this. Tell your teachers if you have too, but I'd tell your parents first, then they will tell his parents so that they can know what a pervert their son is!

Answer 10

Don't you are young and you have your whole life to go You are still a child and you don't want to have a child at your age you can actully live your dreams and I don't think there is a child at the age of 12 is in those dreams