how do you ask her to respect your wishes if she uses the honor your parents claus? can she over ride your will and right to raise your kids the way you feel is right, or does your faith in God give her and a pastor that right?
2007-10-02 13:28:19 · 10 answers · asked by voice_of_reason 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
for those of you who caught the "boundaries" issue, congrats
others answered on que with justified boundary crossing and forced will defenses...scary
2007-10-02 13:35:26 · update #1
well thought out Shelly!
2007-10-02 13:53:08 · update #2
They are your children, not hers. Tell her, kindly but firmly, to butt out.
2007-10-02 13:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Mark 10:7 (King James Version)
7For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
A man leaves his father and mother, and becomes one with his wife. this is the family unit. They should not come between the husband and wife. Never.
If you aren't married, then it still remains that you are the parent. They do not have the right to ignore your wishes.
Jesus taught his disciples to go from town to town...and if people did not listen, they were to shake the dust of that place from theire sandals. i don't think Jesus was interested in forcing the issue on people. You mother seems to take the issue beyond what even a disciple would have.
the pastor...has NO RIGHTS WHAT SO EVER, and you are within yoru rights to ask him to flat out stay away.
How do you talk to your mother about it? If your honesty doesn't work, then the only other hting that will is using the lever of access. " If you keep it up, Mom...you aren't going to be welcome around my kids. not until I AM READY for them to hear the message. "
She can make up her mind on what is important to her...getting her way, or seeing her grandkids.
Honoring of parents is possible weven when you do not agree with them. Your parents are NOT ALWAY RIGHT, and that commandment is not intended to say you must do waht they say. It means to honor them...respect them for what they ahve done for you, be kind to them...it does not mean you have to be a doormat for any whim they have.
2007-10-02 13:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by Night Owl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, respect is a two-way street. Honour that parents is not about letting your parents do what they want just because they're your parents. Do you think God and Jesus would think its okay for parents to abuse their kids and its okay because the kids should "honour thy parents". If your mother doesn't respect your wishes, why should you respect hers? I do think children should be exposed to religion young but that is MY opinion and certainly not something I would push on anyone else. I've taken my daughter to church since the day she was born nine months ago. If you feel uncomfortable with your children being exposed to teachings you don't want them exposed to you're going to have to stand up to your mother. I suspect she has been using this "honour thy parents" to get her own way in a lot of things and will continue to manipulate you until you stand up to her. It may mean putting your foot down and saying "I'm sorry but until you respect my wishes, my children are off limits to you". No, she's can't override your will or rights unless you allow her to. Your faith in God is between you and God and not your mother or your pastor. If you are being pressured by your pastor, I would recommend finding another church that you are more comfortable in as well.
2007-10-02 13:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley W 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would ask her to respect your wishes, and ask her just to keep them in her prayers.
At that point, the honor your parent claus doesn't really apply the way it;s intended. I assume you are married now with your own family - and the BIble says when we marry - we are to leave our father and mother and cleave unto our spouse. THis doesn't mean to be disrespectful - but they are your children. Understand she means well - these are her grandchildren's souls she's concerned about.
One thought - when will you be ready, though?
2007-10-02 13:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by what's up? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont have that problem because:
1) Im an atheist
2) My concern for the other species on this planet means I dont believe in having children.
So Im really not the one to ask.
2007-10-02 13:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Move at least 2 hours away!
2007-10-02 13:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is God's Will that your children are learning about the Lord through your mother. Why are you holding back the wonderful Good News? Your children deserve to know... Kudos to your mother for "sharing Jesus" with your children!
2007-10-02 13:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sylves 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
If she did that then ask her how much she values seeing her grandchildren, make it clear that your boundaries will be enforced.
2007-10-02 13:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by neil s 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should be proud your Mother love,s your kid,s enough
to tell them about God,why would you not want her to,give
them a chanch to know God at least.
2007-10-02 13:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
No one has rights over yours. They are your children. :)
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2007-10-02 13:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by AuroraDawn 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋