i love him but i just cant get over that he dumped me a few months ago out of no where, ignored me, started dating someone else, asked me back out then dumped me again for her again then we got back together, it was great over summer but now that we're back in school he's treating like he did before he dumped me the first time! what should i do?
2007-10-02 13:17:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forget about him!!!! you dont need him, he is just using you and you will move on...even if it takes a lot of time you will get over him!
2007-10-02 13:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to dump this guy and move on. He's basically just using you. I'm all for being positive but he's done this to you several times and that should be a clear sign. You deserve better than that and a guy who you can really trust and have love you back. Good luck.
2007-10-02 20:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont quite understand. So this guy broke up with you, then the both of you got back together, he broke up with you again, and now he's acting like he wants to get back together?
From a third person's point of view, I think that you shouldn't even waste your time with this guy. I mean, I dont know this guy so there could be something going on. But like most def though, I think you should ask him whats going on, because I don't think he really knows what he wants.
2007-10-02 20:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make one of those difficult decisions in life and leave him. I spent five years with a guy that still haunts my dreams sometimes. At one point in our relationship he did exactly what you are talking about - he left me for another girl he was interested in and then took me back - that wasn't easy at all. Even harder than that was when I realized that he was still interested in her and looking back from where I am now in life, I think he was still "with" her even after he begged me to take him back. About a year after that I finally came to my senses and left him. It was painful, but my life is so different now and so much for the better!
The point is - if he is so unsure that YOU are the one he wants to be with, then why should you hang around when there is a guy out there that would count his lucky stars every day that he's with the best girl in the world?
It's hard for you to see because it hurts, but he is not the one for you. Good luck!
2007-10-02 20:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by AnswerGirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, look at your statement. People who have a revolving door do not make for good dates, lovers, ect. You are part of his revolving door. Ask yourself this, if you take him back now, what is your guarantee he will stay, or will he stray again? Men like that are generally not going to change until late in life. They see you as someone they have on a hook they can reel out, reel back in, as they know you will say yes. Unless he is willing to commit, run like hell from this person. Value yourself. He isn't. People who love us don't do that to us. I won't like, it will be very hard to break this pattern. But you want someone willing to stick around and who likes your company and values you as a person. Too many fish in the sea to stay with this one.
2007-10-02 20:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by cruisepuppy7452a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. I know that it is hard but do not go back out with him. He has burned you twice. You do not need him. You deserve better than that. Hang out with your friends, volunteer, join some after school activities,tutor someone,get involved with your community. Do anything that will keep you busy and before you know it you will be over him and it won't hurt so much anymore. Good luck and keep your chin up.
2007-10-02 20:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say..."I love him .....BUT"...BUT is the key..you KNOW what you should do already. He is treating you like dirt and he can because you are showing him he can treat you like that and you will always be right there for him to come back to. Do you really need to suffer like that? Do you deserve to be treated that way? NO! Dump his butt and turn tail and RUN LIKE CRAZY GIRL!!
2007-10-02 20:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like everyone agrees to the same resolution. Good going everyone, we are a consensus. Next time ask about Global warming and pollution. Just be happy.
2007-10-02 20:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him
2007-10-02 20:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥just~me♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not talk to him. Thats what you need to do. He only talks to you when nothing is going on with his other girl. You're the place holder until he gets back with his girl or likes someone else. Thats stupid and you need to let that one go. Dont be a tool!
2007-10-02 20:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by fingerprint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt sound like he is worth your time
you deserve better then to be treated like second best. I would leave him and find someone else because there is always the wonder whether he will leave you for her again.
2007-10-02 20:21:05 · answer #11 · answered by fashionably_loud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋