Why did God allow my 38 year old precious daughter to die of brain cancer?

Question

My 38 year old daughter, a very cheerful, beautiful and helpful young lady passed away on september 6, 2007 of multifple brain malignancies. Her sister passed away 35 years ago at 3.5 years old. I have since became an Agnostic.

Answer 1

Why do over one million kids under the age of 7 starve to death in the world each year ? Simple answer to a simple question..."he does'nt exist. And I'm sorry for the deaths in your family.

Answer 2

I'm sorry about your loss but unfortunately I can't answer that question. No one here can. All I know is that God created life, and Christ conqured death. Life and death are their's alone. So the only thing you can do, is ask them.

God is truly a god of love. If you can trust that, you will find the answer you're looking for.

I hope you will also not be offended if I suggest you locate a support group for people who have lost loved ones to cancer. You don't have to be alone in this. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

It is normal and natural to experience profound spiritual distress--to have radical changes in your ideas about God and the Universe--when you lose a loved one to cancer. Your experience is very common to others who have been bereaved by this cruel disease.

Whatever your belief system turns out to be, you should know that there is real help and support for people who have been hurt as you have. I encourage you to check out a Bereavement Support Group in your community. For parents who have lost children, a really good place to start is with this site:

www.bereavedparentsusa.org

This nonprofit organization is not religiously-based, and its sole purpose is to help parents who are hurting as you are.

Another is Compassionate Friends:
www.compassionatefriends.org

Both of these groups can help you now.

It does not matter whether you choose to become agnostic or embrace any other religious tradition. But please know that help is available.

I honor your grief and am terribly sorry about your loss. There is better help available elsewhere than on Yahooo Answers, however, since some of the answers above are insensitive or even cruel. It may really help you to talk with other moms and dads who have been through the same hell--and lived to tell the tale.

Answer 4

I am very sorry for the loss of your daughter. She sounds like she was a great person. Just a couple weeks ago I went to the funeral visitation for the daughter of one of my former co-workers; she died of cancer. His daughter was almost 14 yrs old, she was a figure skater, and was very popular. Yet they have kept their faith through this difficult time, as did their daughter. Although they are obviously in great mourning, they also used funeral as a way to celebrate her life and her spirit. They even had her pets there...her dog, goldfish, and a chinchilla!

I know that I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. When the worst things happen in our lives, that's when we need God the most. Just remember although you're struggling with your faith; God has never left you, hard as it may be to believe. May it bring you a little comfort that your daughter is in Heaven with God and free from any suffering. Anyway I hope this helps you return to God.

Answer 5

I'm probley repeating what many have stated. Everything happens for a reason be blessed that God alloweed the time he gave her with you. Cherish the lessons, love, and meaning she brought to your life and others that knew here. There was purpose for her life as in her death. Celebrate her life do not mourn for her death or her death will be in vain and I'm sure she would have not wanted that. Always remember a loved one is never gone as long as you hold on to their memory and savor every moment they brought to your life. They will always be right where they once were, in your heart. My grandmother passed when I was very young and though I never really got to know her I will tell you she is with me everyday, we talk every day and I know in my heart that her death is not in vain and the little time that I did know her touched me for many more years than I am thankful for because I have a feeling that that was part of her mission but to be my guardian for life. Just keep praying, asking and once you really allow yourself to be free from the hate that you feel for God right now and the grief and pain that you suffer you will find your answers and love will once again come to fill your heart from both your daughters and God.

Answer 6

You once believed in God, but because God did not answer your prayers and allowed your two daughters to suffer and die you blame Him and or no longer believe in Him because He did not do what you asked.

God is Sovereign, and He does what He will. What ever He chooses to do or not do, whatever He chooses to allow or not allow, He doesn't have to answer to anyone.

The other facts about God that you forget:

God is gracious and merciful because He chooses to be.

God became flesh and shed His blood on the cross for our sins because He chose to.

God is Holy and Almighty, and those who are in His presence KNOW that God IS LOVE.

You may be angry at God because He didn't meet your expectations, but remember this:

He doesn't have to, neither does He owe you any explanation for what He choosed to do or not do.

Nevertheless, God does listen.

A woman asked God:

Heavenly Father, why did you put the burden of Parkinson's Disease on my earthly father?

God's response:

To say that I put the burden of Parkinson's disease on your father is to believe that I judged him for a sin when the wages of sin is death and My gift is eternal life.

Do you believe that I take pleasure in his suffering; when his suffering is the result of the sin he was born with and not My judgement?

How is it that those like your earthly father have the disease and not others?

There were those who had the palsy when I walked the earth, was that a result of My judgement?

Genetic diseases are the result of sin, not judgement. I could heal your father; because healing does not come forth speedily does not mean that I do not love him.

Do not cease praying for your father to be healed.

Her response to God:

Thank you for your reply. I noticed you replied to everyone who answered. I struggled many years with angry feelings due to my father having Parkinson's. He is one of the kindest and sincere men I have ever had the privilege to know. He has been the epitome of what I feel like a Christian should be. So when he was diagnosed I was very angry. But I have finally come to realize that bad things happen to good people and that's just life. He WILL be healed some day. If not here on earth, then when he reaches his heavenly home.

Answer 7

http://www.kingdom-gospel.com/faq.html

Q. Why do bad things happen? Accidents, death... does God kill?

A. Jesus said,

John 10: MKJV
10 The thief does not come except to steal and to kill and to destroy. I have come so that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

When the world was made it was perfect. God gave Adam authority over the earth, but Adam sinned and gave the authority to satan. God no longer can control the world, until all things are fulfilled when Jesus is given authority over the earth. If God tried to take control, He would break his own laws. For order to exist there must be laws. Example, without the law of gravity we would not be here. Is God therefore limited by gravity? No, he created it to bring order. Order without law would be an empty creation. And that was what was before God created. Therefore He made laws so His creation would exist in harmony.

All creation is in sin, including the babies who are born are in sin. Once a person is saved, then they have protection from satan and bad things. But only to the extent of their obedience. God does at times cover us with His grace and protects us beyond our obedience, due to our maturity in Christ. A toddler does need extra protection! He also protects us in His grace beyond our obedience for other reasons. But we should not tempt God and put ourselves in danger. Here are some scriptures concerning these truths:

2 Cor 4: MKJV
4 in whom the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelieving ones, so that the light of the glorious gospel of Christ (who is the image of God) should not dawn on them.

This shows that satan is now in control of the world, and not the true God.

Rom 8: MKJV
22 And we know that the whole creation groans and travails in pain together until now.

This shows that even the world and universe has experienced pain from sin.

Job 1: MKJV
10 Have You not made a hedge around him, and around his house, and around all that he has on every side? You have blessed the work of his hands, and his livestock have increased in the land.

This shows that God's people have a wall of protection.

Eccl 10: MKJV
8 He who digs a pit shall fall into it; and whoever breaks a hedge, a snake shall bite him.

This shows if you stick your hand through that wall, a demon will hurt you.

Psalms 91 MKJV
1 He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High shall rest under the shadow of the Almighty.

A great chapter of scripture that shows us to live in God for our protection.

In Romans it talks about what is sin and what isn't. Basically it's the faith of the individual. To protect yourself and loved ones, don't take part in anything you don't have faith for.

Rom 14: NKJV
23 But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because he does not eat from faith; for whatever is not from faith is sin.

Just remember when bad things happen, it is from satan, not God. I don't care what minister or book says otherwise; the Bible says satan comes to steal, kill, & destroy. Jesus (God) brings life.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Sorry Dave. God seems to be Blamed for everything these Days, from Tornadoes to Stillborns, and that's Not Fair. We Ought to be Blaming the Devil since its he that put our First parents on the Road to Rebellion. The Positive Thing we can all get out of this is that God's word promises the Following.Many have learned that the Bible holds out a wonderful hope for those who have died, for it tells us that at God’s appointed time, there will be “a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous.” (Acts 24:15; John 5:28, 29) Thus, the dead are now simply resting, as if in a sound sleep._Compare John 11:11-14.

Answer 10

Dave

first of all i am sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter, it is always a sad day when a parent out lives their child. For this reason I can see why you question your faith now and I cannot argue with you about it. Similiar events through out my life made me what I am today. A combination agnostic/ native american that believes the earth is alive but not a god.

so this happens a lot to people with deep faith esp when god does not come rushing doent to save someone so young of age.

Most Christians true or not will try to tell you that is was her time, or her calling or some crap like that. Easy to say when it is not your loved one gone!!

the only thing I believe for sure is that the soul is made of energy and energy never dies it only disperses back to where it came from, so her energy may have dispersed from its vessel, but that energy that made her alive is still alive out there i am sure. that can be believed by Science or Religion depending how you wish to view energy.

So it is good you question but even though I do not follow Christianity make sure that you choose your path because it is what is good for you and your loved ones not out of spite or hate that another failed you. Just advice and I hope it helps.

My brother was murdered in 2002 by a woman he knew when she was drunk out of momentary anger that most drunks get, only she was in a truck and decided my brother made a good target and crushed him against a tree. Lucky for me I already had my doubts and was not as Religiously impacted as you have been, for me it happened the first time when i was 8 and my grandmother died and it has never stopped since every year at least one or more people I know die not of old age but of something crazy. So i concur with you. keep on questioning, i know i am and untill I see un equivable proof I will not believe anything 100% other than that we are born, we live and we die.

Again I am sorry to hear of your loss, a parent should never out live their children. My thoughts go out to you and your family.

So don't let Religion get to you, just focus on your family and love them as best as you can every day. how we live life is the most important thing we have because all else we have no control of birth, death and taxes, but we can decide how we choose to live those few precious moments on this planet!!

Good luck! Keep questioning but don't give up hope on life.

(THIS is to everyone: HOW CAN YOU THUMB down anyone telling him they are sorry for his loss!!!! that means you are not sorry for it and shame on you!)

Answer 11

I can tell you that it did not happen so you would become an agnostic. Trials and hurts aren't supposed to push us away from the Lord, but draw us near. I hear in my heart "To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.................( Ecclesiastes3:1-8 ). Our lives are but a vapour and we don't know when our last moment is up. But we do know that Jesus loves us and death is not the end for His child, but the beginning of what life truly is. I am sorry for all your losses. We all face hardships and pains, but the question should not be "why?" but "What can I do so this won't defeat me, but strengthen me?" The devil wants you to crash and burn, but the Lord wants to take your hand and lead you through. Won't you let Him? It's your choice.