Whos wrong here please be honest?

Question

# 1.Let me use your cellphone today since you will be working and you have a phone at work. Mine doent have any minutes, i have to take care of some business and i will need to do it on the phone i dont have a house phone. were a couple whats the problem with me having your phone while your working?
#2. I need my cellphone in case of and emergency so what i have a phone at work.

would you break up because of this conversation?

we broke up because she said i must have something to hide cuz i didnt let her keep my phone. She answer the phone and go thru it so i must not have anything to hide. Shes also the message on the machine...shes trippin i think...

im #2 my girl # 1

Answer 1

This would be a really stupid reason to break up, and would reflect the immaturity of both parties. The people are probably upset over the perceived lack of respect for their needs, not over the actual borrowing of the phone.

Person #2 is not required or expected to loan their phone to ANYONE unless 1) it is a medical or police emergency, or 2) the person who pays for the phone requests use of it.

Person #1 is probably acting a little spoiled and demanding, but their request is reasonable - Person #2 does not actually need the cell phone for this day, and has access to another phone. Person #1 needs to realize that they don't have the right to "demand" the #1's phone, and they need to learn to manage their time and their resources better.

So frankly they are both at fault - #2 is being spoiled and #1 is being selfish, and they are both being petty and immature at sacrificing the relationship over such a trivial thing.

Answer 2

well if you hadn't used your minutes than you could conduct your business on your phone and the fact that you aren't messing around on the other persons phone doesn't automatically mean you should be able to use it. Maybe you could have compromised, use the phone and get it back to the person at work asap. The other person should have known that you would get a hold of them if an emergency occurred. This seems to have other under lying issues that the two of you should talk about. if you really belong together you'll be able to work though anything.

Answer 3

Number 2 is right, because 2 is the owner of the phone.

1 should ask someone else or pay over for the minutes, or use a pay phone. 2 may be selfish, but it's their stuff. 1 would be taking advantage of 2 and being rude if he or she begged 2 to use the phone after they said no. 2 wants his or her privacy, and is entitled to it. 1 may be mooching.

No, I wouldn't, and neither would 1 or 2. If someone broke up over that, they had underlying issues. That wasn't the whole reason. They didn't like each other anymore. That was the final straw.

Answer 4

I wouldn't break up because of a simple phone argument. Instead of rushing in and getting hot headed try to talk it out with your partner. It's just a phone and you should be able to trust them enough to let them use it. No one is in the wrong, they're both good arguments. I just think the first one is being a little too demanding and controlling but has good intentions, while the second has a good reason. Just try to work something out, I hope everything ends up ok!

Answer 5

if you have the minutes to spare but dont want to part with your phone, youre definately gonna lose points with your significant other. however, they can't really hold it against you because they didnt think ahead to buy more minutes. basically, they're asking you for a favor. You have every right to say no, but you dont seem too interested in making their life any easier. its not a reason to break up with someone, but you might want to take another look at your relationship. if things like this happen alot then you might not be willing to really "share your life" with this person as much as they need.

Answer 6

No, I wouldn't break up because of this conversation.

If person x needs the cell phone, just for the day, and person y is at work all day, and has access to both a work phone and/or perhaps the cell phones of co-workers, I'd let person x use the cell phone, provided that I knew person x was a trustworthy person.

If you don't think person x is trustworthy, then by all means, don't give him/her your phone. Meanwhile, debate the pros and cons of being in a relationship with person x, if you don't think he/she is trustworthy.

Answer 7

No, I wouldn't break up because of that conversation but I also wouldn't give my cell phone to someone just becasue they ran out of minutes. I feel the same way, I need my cell phone in case of an emergency.

Answer 8

Nope, its petty. That is a stupid argument, nothing worth losing someone you love or care about. I mean if you fight like this all the time that can be an issue. Now to answer your question: Who is wrong?... The person that wanted the phone, should be responsible for having minutes, and if you don't want them to use it that's your decision.... Good luck and I hope everything works out.

Answer 9

I am assuming you need to use her phone because yours is out of minutes... .and she didn't want to give up her cell phone.
Hope I am right. No, I would not break up over this conversation. If you have not joined accounts, you are responsible for your own cell phone and the minutes you have on it. The fact that you ran out of minutes is not her problem. My girlfriend and I just got a family plan, to share minutes.

Answer 10

Oooo, that is a toughie! as in a couple, married, living together, what?? If you were to let them use it and they go over on your minutes, then YOU are stuck with a big phone bill. And I do see your point. Why should they use up your minutes because they were irresponsible and used up theirs to quickly. Hmmm...I would say, well, there is a pay phone...get a little change and start calling.