Why do I feel fat and bad about the way I look?

Question

I have had 4 children I am 5'4 and a uk size 10, people tell me I have a good figure, but I hate my body. I have real small boobs and I feel like a boy one minute, then fat the next. Why cant I be happy with my body? I would love to feel attractive but I always judge myself because I am not skinny enough.
Why am i so obsessed with being skinny? I can be quite disciplined and lose weight quickly, but no matter how much weight I lose I always look bigger than other peiople who are supposed to be the same size as me.

Answer 1

After four kids a size 10 is tiny! Hey, its kinda small anyway. It sounds to me like you have low self esteem which is manifesting itself as a hatred of your body. You compare yourself to other people and always find yourself lacking, when the truth is probably quite the opposite.

Firstly, I would try talking to someone about this, maybe your partner or a close friend. Tell them how you feel, perhaps having someone to talk to will help you figure out why you are so down on yourself. Another thing to try, make sure you take the time to pamper yourself. A nice soak in the bath, products that make your skin feel great and some sexy undies all help me out when I am feeling down about myself. They are little things that are just for you, but they really can help you feel better.

If this has been a long term issue for you or doesn't improve soon it's advisable for you to go and get yourself some help. A trip to the Dr is a good place to start, although if you prefer you can always talk to a nurse or a health visitor if you have one.
Take care of yourself and I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 2

I feel as if I am reading a question that I asked myself...only I don't know what a size 10 in UK is. I am 5'4" and a size 7 -8 in U.S. I feel fat and disgusting but I look at others and think they look great. I am never happy with how I look. I think it's a natural thing for a lot of women. It's our society!!! It's the having to look like a model and how in the magazines they run down women who are not twiggy, you see a picture of a celebrity who may have a bit of a tummy and they, the magazine, says they are fat or gaining weight. No wonder our society has so many bolemic or anorexic girls/women! It's a sad sad thing.

Answer 3

First of the entire global is full of many issues,distractions, and turmoil. Everybody is continuously worrried approximately each person else whilst God gave everybody individuality. If each person could awareness on themselves this could be a higher global. Who cares if there may be fats individuals, anorexic, or intercourse addition, whilst individuals are equipped to difference they'll. the Real Issue is poeple who continuously critcize, pass judgement on and speak approximately different individuals and certainly not speak approximately there possess like. I dont care what you do in lifestyles someone do not consider it. Just be certain your no longer fats, aneorexic, or intercourse addition. so what addition do you may have why have been in this discipline. How approximately judging others your no longer God. Take care of you. I think dangerous for you due to the fact that you want God for your lifestyles. Remember whilst you pass judgement on any one else a few one is judgeing you. If you dont suppose so simply hold residing lifestyles takes turns. I think all of us have higher time to awareness on who're subsequent president can be , reduce price of top emerging fuel and well being care and to finish conflict that is rea quandary no longer this query come on deliver me a holiday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

we all have to live with the basic body structure & features that god has given, the persons who look nice haven't done much to look so, they have God given features, height, facial features, complexion etc are god given, barring slight improvements, but obesity is what needs to be tackled actively. Just dieting never helps exercise is a must & works wonders if you make it a part of your daily life- a habit, if you are concious of what u eat alongwith this - let me gaurantee not only would you start looking better but also feeling better. Just being skinny doesn't make you attractive, start loving yourself. The way i see it, if people tell you that you have a good figure with good female ht of 5.4" you must already be atleast above average looking. Go ahead, remain fit and love your self.

Answer 5

This is all phsycological. When a person is overweight/obiece for awhile it takes time for them to adjust to their new appearence. That is why anorexia and balemia are common problems. Someone begins to diet and can't seem to judge when it is a healthy time to stop. Losing weight is an addiction wether you belive it or not. The best thing to do is to ask your doctor if you are in a healthy situation weight wise.

Answer 6

Please stop judging yourself by the outward appearance of others. We do this to ourselves, honestly. Discipline your mind first, then your body. Discipline yourself to think better of yourself, then start doing just that. To hell with what anyone (including that nasty little inner self) thinks. Give yourself a bit of a break...walk more....drink more water, eat higher protein foods, lean white meats for example. Dark green leafy vegetables, some fruit for health and variety. You can enjoy breads, but mind how much, use flatbreads, flavorful crackers and toasts. Now and then, just now and then, dive face first into a slice of chocolate cake. It's a healthy thing to do for your soul, then next day, back on the regimen. You can do this kiddo. Hang in there. But first, please, think better of yourself.

Answer 7

you are looking at the wrong parts of your body, thats why you always feel bad, I know it's easier said than done but try to concentrate on your good points rather than the bad, and remember everyone is different, so even though you might not like what you see when you look at yourself it doesn't mean other people will feel the same

Answer 8

I am the same way, except for the four kids part. I feel like a blimp, compared to other people I don't look good. And I am obessed with wanting to be thin.

Answer 9

you maybe are being fooled that skinny models are who you are saposed to look like when there just air brush materialistic kaka- free your mind of that material b.s. and listen to your friends. small breasts are great exspecially if the person who owns them are happy-the definition of happy is to be content without pain. i know happy people who are in wheel chairs and there really fun to be with. unwind. everything in moderation including moderation.

Answer 10

You probably have low self esteem. Why don't you read books about it. Perhaps it will give you a whole new out look on your self.