lately ive become really annoyed and frustrated with my dad. today just seemed to be the icing on the cake cuz i just cant take it anymore! he always watches tv, talks about his stupid antigue car, talks about things i really dont care about, and he SLEEPS ALL THE TIME IN FRONT OF THE TV! this is getting old cuz he tells me that im always on the coputer (wich im not) and he cant see that hes always watching tv and sleeping! also he told me that my little brother (hes 4) asked why i dont call my stepmom mom, so he wants me to call her mom! im not calling my stepmom mom! and lastely, today was my stepgrandmas birthday and we were supposed to go out to eat but my lil bro had a tummy ache during lunch so my dad is makin me stay with him and my lil bro while my stepmom goes out to eat! im tired of all these little things! im sorry if it seems like im just unloading all this but im just fed up! what can i do to release my extreme frustration? btw im 15.
2007-10-02 10:50:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you are going through a tough time , it 's all part of being a teen .Whatever feelings you are dealing with ,try to put them into something that you like to do like writ ting ,working out ,drawing etc. Family is something that you will always have to deal with no matter how old you are.You do not have to call your stepmom MOM unless you want to. Try to have a conversation with your dad,your dad loves you he will listen.
2007-10-02 11:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ana C pisces1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when I'm feeling really frustrated I do a variation of things. Oh and I'm 15 too. I write poetry, call friends, or listen to music. Music could be your best bet. There's always a song out there that refelcts how you feel. Also I mean can't you just talk to you dad or maybe even your stepmom. It seems like your in a 'no way out' situation I'm sure that these little things may turn into big things if you don't at least try to talk to them. Also if your really that frustrated there's this thing called Hopeline. Google it. They talk through e-mail and phone! Hope I helped you! :D
2007-10-02 18:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by gryffie_chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Andrew sorry for your troubles you could make a deal with your dad...tell him when he changes his annoying habits that you will work on the step mom thing I am with you tho I cant not stand people that constantly stay on the couch I always got rid of them.I know have a man that never gets onthe couch unless I make him sleep there,,,lol ok look you are 15 in 3 years you will be grown.Take a breath and step back you are not going to have to watch this forever but of coarse you want things to be bareable while you are there.
2007-10-02 18:10:26 · answer #3 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad is the same way...sleeps eats poops and watches tv, thats it, and he's always telling me i need to do more stuff, but he works all day so when he gets home i guess he has the right to just relax, and everytime i ask him for money i apprieciate how much he does for our family. so you gotta give your dad a break cus he's probably working hard too. and you should explain to your little bro why u don't call your stepmom mom and then tell your dad you talked it out with him and its cool now
2007-10-02 17:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you teach your Dad how to use the computer for fun? You could start by showing him the web pages from his favorite shows! Then show him how to do AIM. When he sees how much you can do on the computer (Including watching shows he missed) he will be less likely to say you are using it too much. Hopefully you have more than one computer. Then you can IM with him while IMing with your friends at the same time.
As to calling your Step-Mom Mom, just explain CALMLY why you do not want to. If it is because you want to keep that name only for your Mom, tell them you do not want to hurt her but the Mom titled you would like to keep only for your biological Mom. Then ask her if there is some other name she would like that you could use. But if they come up with another name you should use it. I know it is difficult with a step-parent, but try to be nice to her. It will make your life easier. Try to meet her as a friend. Then maybe you can do stuff together. Some day when you have nothing to do and you want to go shopping, why don't you ask her for a "Girl's Day Out" where you can shop, eat lunch, get your nails done, etc.... She will be ecstatic and you may find out you like each other when you are not fighting each other for your Dad's attention (If you are honest to yourself, that is the real reason you do not like her! :) ).
As to the Babysitting, why not ask your Dad if you can get paid for Babysitting? Tell him you would like to start saving your own money so you do not always have to go to him for things you want. If you also open a savings account and save 20% of what you make he will LOVE It! Just make sure you do it, if that is one 9of the points you argue, to get paid.
Do not know if he will do it, but it is worth a try. You could always offer your babysitting services to other neighbors at the same time you take care of your brother. That way you will get paid at least for the second child. I was in a family with 5 kids and I was always babysitting! My Momnever paid but the neighbors did so I would just watch other kids at the same time. You could also ask for advance notice that you will have to babysit unless it is an emergenct!
Good Luck!
2007-10-02 18:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by B. D Mac 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well just be happy that you have a dad ok..... but what you can do is get a job thats what i did to get away from my mom and the whole callin you stepmom mom dont unless you want to i didnt till my mom got with a guy that was there for me when my dad died and i felt like he was my dad even though he wasn't. dont do or say anything that you dont want to do you best bet is just to get a job youll get out of the house more and have money to... i had 2 jobs at 15 now at 17 i have 4 so i think that you can do it.
2007-10-02 18:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by $Peaches$ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my dad didnt work, he was a drunk, but had been in constuction,and navy, but not with us kids was born, we were rasied on welfare! ok then he beat my two older brothers, cause my dad is a mean piece of piss, he never gave hugs, nor was he nice, he had fun dont get me wrong, just no family time, he never took my brother's or I on not one family trip, not even to the movies!....so you need to ask yourself, is my dad working, taking care of me, does he love me and make a safe home for me, and how can I get my dad off the couch can I suggest we go to a car show (since he likes cars), or to the movies, or zoo, or theme park, and why dont you try having a little heart and be nice to his wife and sit down and explain why you dont feel like calling her mom, and be happy that's all you got to complain about in a dad...when I was a little girl I wish that's all I had to complain about in a dad.
2007-10-02 18:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here, bro. Just write in a journal or in your blog? Or see a therapist like I am.
2007-10-02 21:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by I Am Rich!!!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋