Ok so I have family member that is abusive to his wife! It drives the family crazy because we tell her to leave him but she says she can't. He is the only one working and so he spends all the money on beer and parties. I should mention they have 3 children ages 3,5 and 7.
I can not belive that she has no rights here. She was broght here as a child and both of her parents have passed. So you see she does not have family...just us and we are her in-laws. But we see what he is doing and we want to help...but how.
THANKS TO ALL WHOM ANSWER
2007-10-02 10:32:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
she has called the police on him and has gotten a restrianing order on him. She does want to leave him. But she ( as any mother would be) is very afraid of losing her children. We have opened or homes,but he tells us that we can take his kids. He always telling her that she has no rights here!!! What a punk!!!
Anyways, we do not know what to do.
This is why I am asking you good folks. I am not tring to dump my family problems on you all, we truly do not know how we can help. Can he just call the immigration and have her sent to Mexico?
2007-10-02 10:50:25 · update #1
As a woman and a human being I feel for her. Keep trying.
As a legal citizen of this country I couldn't care less.
It's a lose lose situation.
Your relatives best bet would be to leave her husband. As a human being she has every right to live a peaceful and happy life. She does have the right to live
You obviously care, so keep trying to help. But you must also stand behind her and help her even if it means supporting her until she can get work. go everywhere ya'll can to get her husband to stop.
I donot hate illegals. I just would like for them to obey our laws.
I DO FEEL FOR YOUR LADY FRIEND AND GOD BLESS HER. Tell her to get out and keep her nose to the grindstone. don't let her shithead husband get away with his abuse. Abuse is abuse not matter who you are. keep on keepin' on.
2007-10-03 04:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all - has she filed her paperwork to become a resident?
Second, look up on google Immigration Law and Domestic Violence. There are some web sites that give you information. There is a particular article entitled "Immigration and Domestic Violence, a short guide for New York State Judges by the New York State Judicial Committee on Women in the Courts". That article is very informative and there is a regulation now where a woman can get her resident status if she has been abused and the spouse has used her alien status to keep her "in line."
I don't know where you are from but Catholic Social Services in Arizona assist persons with their immigration needs. Contact them or an attorney and make an appointment.
2007-10-02 18:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ana C 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Legal women go through this as well. Far more than people want to know.
From your discription.....the illegal is your daughter-n-law . Abuser...your son. (Since you said....she does not have a family...just us and we are her in-laws.)
She could give guardianship to you. She could give total custody to you. But...on the down side....you are the parents of the abusive husband. He could come in and bully you. You have shown no gumption to contain him. The kids could very well end in state custody where no-one gets them. You could give her money to flee back to her homeland to get away from your family. But then you risk never seeing the child again. Or ever knowing if a Coyote took them into child slavery or child pornography or prostitution or worse.
An abused legal citizen and woman risks it all for help....it's no wonder the illegal tolerate it. It's no wonder legal women tolerate it as well. But hey....lets just open the borders before we figure out what to do in these cases. We can't get custody and parental rights from state to state and now they want to open the border? Borders where men feel it's right and fine to do this? Borders where women are NOTHING. Children are nothing. Talk about putting the cart before the horse.
Doesn't help when we have people FALSELY accusing either. Should be a CRIME both ways.
There is a problem......we all pay.
2007-10-02 18:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kjerring has good point, but that doesn't applied to your case. If she has conditional green card as a spouse and domestic violence happen, she doesn't have to stay 2 years with him before "Condition" is removed. In that case Kjerring is right. In your case, she is illegal and this won't do.
Why can she leave ? She is illegal now, and she will be illegal if she left. No change. So it's not about Illegal or legal.
So there are no different between her and many other American women who get abused.
Thing is, she made her choice to stay. If you think she/children are in danger, call the authority. Other than , there are not much you can do. Just support her as much as you can.
2007-10-02 23:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by novak-9 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The link below may be of some interest. I know it speaks of victims of crime and you would need to do further research but it is a place to start.
I know it is not a permanent solution and, as it is a new rule, I strongly advise consulting an immigration attorney for the best way to proceed.
I am opposed to illegal immigration but there are times when we must lay aside our political views and look at the real-life human picture.
2007-10-02 18:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by skip 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first positive step You could take is to confront him. What is wrong with opening Your homes to them during the time it takes for her to get other help. I could say get the priest or minister involved but from the habits You claim He has that would be a waste. Another way to handle Him is to simply kick his butt. If You are her in laws that makes you his relatives. Have Him sit down and talk about it all to him. If necessary stop Him from leaving and let Him know the continued abuse will not be tolerated. Do not try and push Your family problems off without trying to resolve them yourselves.
2007-10-02 17:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She has the right not to be abused. Call the police and have the jerk charged with abuse.
As far as immigration is concerned, she's just another illegal alien. The people who said she will become legal are totally wrong and do not understand the law.
Please, get her out of that relationship before she gets hurt.
2007-10-02 18:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The Violence Against Women Act protects women in your family members situation. I highly recommend you contact your local domestic violence agency / battered womens shelter. They will have a plethra of resources to help her, including legal advice and counseling. If you are unaware of how to contact your local domestic violence agency, you can log on to http://www.pcadv.org/, click links and resources, and you will find the link to your state coalition against domestic violence. This agency will help you find a local domestic violence center. If that fails, call the Women's Center & Shelter of Greater Pittsburgh at 412-355-7400 and ask if they will look up your local agency.
2007-10-03 08:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Caleb B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that shows how selfish her family was to bring her here illegally. It also shows how selfish she was to have kids while she is illegal and with an abusive man. That's life. She needs to go back to her country
2007-10-02 20:32:52 · answer #9 · answered by ST 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she has all the rights that all abused people have. she can call the police...she can leave him.. and she an get a restraining order...she needs to press charges or leave him otherwise its never going to stop
ok..... is he on the birth certificate???? tell her to go and file for sole guardianship over the kids....nomatter whether she is a citizen or not those kids she has rights to. the only way he can take those kids is if he gets sole guardianship first of he proves that she is an unfit mother.
2007-10-02 17:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋