I'm single...over thirty and many of my friends and colleagues are married of course. I've often noticed comments such as 'lucky you, you've got your freedom' say when I'm heading off travelling. Or, 'you've got o many options, you lucky thing!'. I don't know whether they are saying this so that I don't feel bad about not having met my 'true love', or whether they really mean it but I'm inclined to think they often really mean it. Just would like to hear from others out there and their opinions.
2007-10-02 09:28:05 · 29 answers · asked by gentle girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I don`t,,,,,,,in fact it`s better to share...
2007-10-02 09:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hi there,
I'm nearly 30, married for 4 years, have 2 kids.
I was the first of my friends to get married and none have kids.
Sometimes I think of the clubbing days of old - I remember the best bit of the night out was always the getting ready part, having a few drinks, putting on the make-up, listening to the music. Then you got to the pub/club and it went downhill from there.
I couldn't go back to the single lifestyle now - but every once in a while it's nice to go out and party... but there's really nothingmuch 'out there'.
I think that any married person who feels that they are unlucky to be married are with the wrong person - I love my husband and kids to bit.......... my life now is both a person, wife and mother....... so much more fulfilled.
Hope this helps,
Sophia x
2007-10-02 18:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are times when I've envied single people for a specific item, like the ability to pick up and go someplace whenever, wherever. But I've thought the same thing about married people who have no kids, too. Besides a couple of specific things like this, I'm very happy to be married to a wonderful woman who understands me far too well, but somehow stays with me any way.
2007-10-02 16:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't envy single people - all my friends are married or engaged anyway and all the single people I know are at least 10 years younger than me. Don't get me wrong I have 3 kids and a husband and 2 guinea pigs and wish that I could have some 'me' time but when I do and I go out alone - i wish they were all with me!!
Personally I am very happy as I am, and if you are happy being single then you should stay as you are and enjoy yourself!
good Luck!
2007-10-02 16:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, i'm lucky, i love my husband very much and we are both very happy to give each other as much freedom as we need, neither of us would ever try to stop one another going out when we want to with friends but we also equally enjoy going out with each other, my husband is even going on holiday without me next month, he is a diver and i'm not so he's going to Egypt on a diving holiday, i don't mind at all as we still get to go on holiday together. I couldn't imagine life without him and love sharing experiences with him. However, i still think that if you dont' have that then you are better off on your own, never settle, just so that you are not alone, you're worth more than that and never forget it.
2007-10-02 16:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you have the freedom to do what you want. I'm married with 5 children, and sometimes I envy singletons their freedom and I tell them that. But to be honest, I love being with my family and husband. Your married friends are'nt patronising you, the grass is always greener on the other side after all. Whatever situation you are in, there are always benefits and drawbacks, thats all. Enjoy yourself whatever you're relationship situation.x
2007-10-02 16:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a happy marriage it ok.
If you are in an unhappy marriage then perhaps they would envy you. Either way sometimes we all have dreams of what we can't have. It's a human trait. You yourself seem to be enjoying your single state, so I say good luck and I hope one day when you are ready (if you ever want to be ready) you will find someone really nice who will make you as content as you are now. Bit of an enigma I know. That's life!!!
2007-10-04 11:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sally Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I envy the freedom enjoyed by those without children. My husband and I can't go to the places we used to and have to rely on babysitters (who are semi-reliable at best). I wouldn't change the children for the world but sometimes I envy those who can just take off like we used to.
2007-10-02 16:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by ☼ Jules ☼ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think some married people do envy single people. i don't know why, they chose to get married ,they can divorce & live a single life if they want to.
I think women who are expecting, SOME WOMEN IAM SAYING, envy women who are single
Single people like me, are always at the brunt of the jokes . once a married friend, who didnt need a job because her husband earned a fortune , said to me "how do you manage being single" I said "Its hard. But I always pay my way. some just sponge off there husbands" & she shut up.
Iam not saying all women do but if a lot were single they wouldnt have a pot to pi55 in .
FACT!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-02 16:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I for one do sometimes.
Recently I met up with some friends, I'm the only one with hubby and children. For the next few days I really felt 'trapped' in my life. I adore my children and my husband but I couldn't help thinking about the single life.
I guess we always think the grass is greener on the other side but it rarely is. I think both paths have their benefits.
X
2007-10-02 16:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Baby B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i'm happily married and love my hubby to bits, but i do envy single people at times as they can go out and have fun without feeling guilty, don't have to worry about what time they get in, don't need to pre plan holidays just go, etc.
My friend used to say she envied me as i was married, got a house, job security...so it works both ways, as long as your happy thats all that matters
2007-10-02 16:33:57 · answer #11 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋