My brother-in-law has moved to Costa Rica, but he refuses to give up his Irish name. What's worse, some of his ancestors were horse thieves in Texas.
Should I make him disavow his Irish name or his thieving ancestors first?
A friend suggested that I ask him to change his name to the Spanish "Que Bien" since that sounds like his current name, but I think this approach is somewhat dishonest and does not address the real heart of the issue. Not to mention this solution does not solve the horse thief problem.
I'm not sure if the horse thieves were of Irish descent or some other national origin, so I don't know how this affects the situation.
What should I do? I'm about to pull my hair out.
2007-10-02 08:41:42 · 13 answers · asked by Wiseacre 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should consider leaving your hair and your brother-in-law alone. Chances are that his surname has been butchered since the time of his ancestors anyhow. It sounds like his family has an interesting history.
It's peculiar that you are very stressed out about his name. It would be great to know more about that.
Anyhow, look at all the names that have been derived from the Scott/Irish horse thieves, they were also known as Border Reivers and their descendents are everywhere... there are many common names here: Archbold, Armstrong, Beattie, Bell, Burns, Carleton, Carlisle, Carnaby, Carrs, Carruthers,
Chamberlain, Charlton, Collingwood, Crisp, Crozier, Cuthbert, Dacre, Davison, Dixon, Dodd, Douglas, Dunne, Elliot, Fenwick, Forster, Graham, Gray, Hall, Hedley, Henderson, Heron, Hetherington, Hume, Irvine, Irving, Johnstone, Kerr, Laidlaw, Little, Lowther, Maxwell, Milburn, Musgrove, Nixon, Noble, Ogle, Oliver, Potts, Pringle, Radcliffe, Reade, Ridley, Robson, Routledge, Rutherford, Salkeld, Scott, Selby, Shaftoe, Storey, Simpson, Tait, Taylor, Trotter, Turnbull, Wake, Watson, Wilson, Woodrington,Young
2007-10-02 09:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This must be a big problem where your from. Maybe you should move if you are in fear that your brother would be persecuted because his ancestors were horse theives.
have you ever thought about just keeping the whole horse theives thing to yourself. Unless they have some type of DNA tracing program where your from then I think you might be OK if you don't tell anyone
2007-10-02 09:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by iampricelessru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is old enough to move then he must be a MAN!
and Men make there own minds up w/ the exception of when there wives tell them differently..lmao not there broth in laws for Pete's sake... and common do u continue to punish all white people cuz there ancestors owned slaves? I had nothing to do with that I'm a good christian woman and i owned no slaves so don't punish me as the same as ya family member... He did nothing wrong. His name is his name and who are you to even think of asking a grown man to change his name cuz of something someone else did many years ago? that's insane to me!!! seeks counseling SOON.
2007-10-02 08:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by killinshel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain why his ancestors who were horse thieves in TX are messing up his life NOW because of his last name.
Am I missing something? Why would he have to disavow his last name? Or his ancestors?
His ancestors were the problem, not him. What did I miss?
2007-10-02 08:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No they won't be your sister n laws just wives of your brother n laws but you can still call them your sister n laws no harm in that. Cousins, Uncles and Aunts are just part of the family. Grandfather and Grandmother also are known as in laws.
2016-05-19 16:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His name, is his name. You can't make a person change their name. Lots of people have ancestors that did something illegal once upon a time, but again, that's no reason to change a name.
You need to stop thinking you are in the right and let it go.
2007-10-02 12:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it your business what his name is or that his ancestors were horse thieves. You are not his parents or his spouse.
You need to worry about your own problems first.
2007-10-02 08:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's his name...you need to mind your business and quit trying to control him! Who really cares if his ancestors were horse thieves! Is he one? You're not even related to him except by marriage, so leave him alone and quit looking to cause trouble!
2007-10-02 08:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not worrying about it considering he's moved out of the country, and oh right...isn't your direct family member. It's none of your business what he does with his life, you shouldn't try to control him.
2007-10-02 09:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mayarosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter where you live, you should never give up your name, your heritage...anything that makes you YOU. What is your problem? Seriously. Go get a wig and get over it.
2007-10-02 08:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋