and only been together for about 5 months and yall barely talk like that is there still a chance that the two of you will remain cool or whatever you want to call it.
2007-10-02 08:39:29 · 11 answers · asked by schrita_scott 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, you should have been more careful who you have children with. If you wasnt in a stable relationship with this man, why in the world would you want to have a child with him? But obviously, the damage has been done, so the only thing to do is move on. Whether or not you two get along, depends on how mature you two want to be about this situation. Youre both going to be parents, no matter how you look at it, so you need to act like one. If he doesnt want to be involved, that doesnt mean that you still cant be a good mother. Take him to court for child support and visitations, and try to get along as much as possible, even for just the childs sake. And maybe next time you will think before you have unprotected sex with someone. Good luck.
2007-10-02 08:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by MayMay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant changes the stakes considerably to where it no longer matters whether you're "cool" or not, but how you're going to handle your mutual responsibilities...every other consideration becomes a distant second. There's a chance he'll look at his little one and begin to see you again in a new light, on the other hand, it's also likely that he'll cave under the pressure of being a father and become even more distant. Life is about to teach you some deep lessons about your man in particular (and men in general), and you're upfront center at the head of the class. And watch this: stuff that's confusing to you now will be crystal clear once the baby's born...it never fails. In the meantime, take your pre-natal vitamins, eat appropriately, and keep every one of your OB appointments. (Invite "daddy" along too, then you guys can sign up for Lamaze classes...that's a good bonding experience to do together, and it will make him feel like a contributing part of the process (since he IS).
Some guys bounce right about now, and you'll barely see those jokers again in life.Other guys step up and take care of business. Which ones do you think are the happier guys? Nope! It'll be the ones who bounce (at least in the short term). Why? Because when the baby's here and diapers are flowing, the baby's crying, all your clothes are speckled with puke, and your hormones are returning to normal levels you two are going to bicker because you're tired, sleep deprived, and frustrated. Suck it up...you're still heroes. That's the job, and there aren't any shortcuts. Because there will also be times when the baby is asleep, he's worn out from exhaustion but he's holding his child and you'll look at him with a new pair of eyes. That's what's up, and that's the man I hope he turns out to be. Either way, though. Do what you have to do, Mom. God bless you and your family, and good luck with the birth.
2007-10-02 09:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ín this day and age family planning is a must. Gone are the dayz when mariage was forced and it the traditional way was to stay with your baby daddy so the pregnancy wouldn't be labelled taboo.
Today you have prosmiscuous sex , you either end up a single mother, or u catch AIDS.
You weren't in a stable relationship in the first place, why didn't u use a condom? I'm sorry to sound harsh, but u asked for it. Whether the guy was into you or u were just a booty girl, it''s not gonna work out if u are doing it just for the child. Both of you need to have feelings for each other and share common goals in your relationship. Try approaching him, about your pregnancy news and see what he thinks of it.
I'm soo sorry that an innocent child is in the middle of two lost parents.
Good luck!
2007-10-02 08:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by She-whom-shall-not-be-named 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you play the game. Don't give him drama or insist he has to be a good father. You really don't want to deal with the drama of all that. It will just be a ton more stress on you and the baby. If he's freaked out by the thought of having a baby, I wouldn't count on him to be around for long. Hopefully he will be proud of his baby and be a man. But if not, remember there are plenty of women that have raised good, well rounded children by themselves. You don't need a man in your life to be a good mom.
In the end, he doesn't have to be in a relationship with you, but it is kinda important that you two are cool and can at least talk to each other. It makes the situation a ton easier when you both get time with the baby and can be civil.
Best of luck to you and your baby
2007-10-02 08:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rayven Fairmoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happen to using protection, you meet a guy and sleep with him, and you've only been seening each other for 5 months. What do they not sell condoms where you live? your setting your self up, come on get with the program, can we say A.I.D.S . look let me give you some advice. A.I.D.S is not a meth it is very very real and until you learn that you're in for a really difficult life. and once this guy finds out that you may be pregnant he'll be calling the Maury show for a DNA test. But what ever.
2007-10-02 08:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always a chance you can "remain cool or whatever you want to call it". It depends on the desire each of you has to maintain some kind of relationship...or move forward in one.
2007-10-02 08:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want the kid to have a mother and father in his life, it would be best to maintain a civil relationship together so that you can communicate about your child. When he goes to school you may need to discuss important issues. IF he has a brithday party he would want you both to be there. Things like that.
2007-10-02 08:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a possibility, and if your talking about being cool while you keep the child and him sticking around you know better then anyone can answer if he's staying or not. Im sure you can assess the kind of person that he is.
2007-10-02 08:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Queen of the Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I don't want to know why you've already given yourself away after only knowing this guy for less than 5 months, but I'm not her to judge. It can go either way to the extreme either is can work out, or totally work against you.
2007-10-02 08:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to the two of you on what happens. You need to sit and have some very long talks, esp since there will be a child involved....be very HONEST and OPEN....talk about what you truly want and how you feel...please be honest!
2007-10-02 08:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by ifonlyiknewyou99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋