I'll been dating this guy for 2yrs now (there is a 20yr age different) but nobody knew his age until a few weeks ago. Remind you my mom was the 1st person i told she didn't have a problem with until the rest of the family find out. Now my mom is the only person that's having a problem with our relationship. I've been trying to explain to her that he is the same person no he don't look nor act his age. He is very good to me & my son so i don't understand what's her problem. As of now he is the person i want & planning to be with and if she don't like it o well is the attiude i starting to develop. What is it that she wants maybe for me to date someone that closer to my age that don't respect me or my son (NOT WILLING TO GO THAT ROUTE) How do i tell her to let go i'm grown and if she don't approve my choices tough luck. Me & my son are both happy. I feel she should be happy for me that
2007-10-02 08:33:52 · 12 answers · asked by san8483 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You kind of answered your own question. Your chances of having a quality relationship is much better with him than most younger men. If you are happy, really that's all that counts. good luck. P.S. I'm 59,& my wife is 33. We have been together 4 years, & it keeps getting better! #
2007-10-02 08:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a man who is trying to date this woman who is 20 years younger than me and I have the opposite problem. She and I have talked for a year. Tell each other that we love each other and even done some kissing and touching but that is as far as it has gone. She is scared of telling her family about me. She says that they will disown her and that she is not willing to lose them. She also is worried about what others in the community would say about it. So she is willing to let me walk out of her life without even trying.
I dont know about you, but I have come to think that love knows no age or anything else. That even if others dont understand and even if you dont understand it yourself, it is still love. I have lived long enough now to know that when you find love that you have to grab hold of it and never let it go because there is not much of it anymore in this world.
My advice is to hold on to him if you truly deeply are in love with him. If you cant think of yourself with anyone else ever, then hold on no matter what. No matter what anyone else says to you, hold on.
2007-10-02 08:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by ckingfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me see...im 22 years old and my boyfriends have ranged from 40 to 30 so i guess ive been in the same boat. Your makin a good choice and ur being very wise, sometimes its hard for parents to accept it but they cant be the boss forever. You mom has had her life and her chance to choose and pick now its ur turn to live yours. Do this...go rent the movie called "Because i said so" its with mandy moore. have ur mom over and watch it together! It brought me and my mom to tears!!! And if nothing else works keep ur head up and keep going...if you have a good man dont let anything or anyone tear u from that!!!!
2007-10-02 08:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a first cousin who got married at the age of 17 to a....42 year old...divorced w/ 2 children!
now, if i hadn't known them id think they were absolutely nuts, but since i do they are one of the happiest couples i know..hes a really good person!!!and they're married for like 11 years!!!! as long as they really love each other- that's really what counts!
tell your mom ur old enough to make ur own decisions and that ur the one who's dating...not her!
2007-10-02 08:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by yentappell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you :O) he sounds very mature,hopefully he's not too old like 50 and you're 30. but in any case,he sounds serious. your mom should be happ for you finding a guy like that.my bf is 6 yrs older than me and my family wishes he's a little older, hahah..
tell your mom that she shoulde be happy for you and the most importantant thing is you and son are happy w/him. that's what matters most
2007-10-02 08:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a big girl now, and can make your own choise's in life as much as you love your mom her appoval would mean the world to you but your plans and life choise will continue with or without her...
2007-10-02 08:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by dheck03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to tell you this , maybe you should listen to your mother. i had the same problem , i was dating a man who was 17 yrs older than me . our relationship did not work. my
mother warned me , but i didn,t listen. at first my ex was very sweet and later on , he changed, treated me badly. i learned
my lesson. i ask you to be careful because older men are controlling.
2007-10-02 08:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is 20 years older than my mom and they have been happily married for 46 years , so if you love him go for it.
2007-10-02 08:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by BILL 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi,be patient your mam will come round to your way of thinking.Good Luck to you all.
2007-10-06 08:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, age does not matter..
you should do what your heart tells you.
If she really loves you, she should respect your decision and not try to run your life.
And you need to let her know.
[good luck] [=
2007-10-02 08:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by miss Kapitan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋