I am the older sibling, my little sister is three years yonger than i am. She has always had the better grades and knows how to suck up to my parents. I have always gotten c's or b's and i voice my opinion. It seems like everything my sister wants she gets when she is the biggest brat and i am always shot down with my ideas or any decision i try to make in my life. How can i fix that? How can i show them i can make my own desicions and that i want to follow my heart not theirs?
2007-10-02 08:30:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you have an adult, mature conversation with them, sometimes it helps them see that you're your own person. I know it's not possible to do it all the time, but make sure that, as much as possible, you reflect the most grown-up version of you to your parents. Make decisions on your own when you can, and discuss them with your parents, to show them that you can make good decisions. I know it's a bit of a trial to have to prove yourself so much, but it's the best way- trust me, it doesn't work to just stop including them and taking care of everything yourself unless you talk to them first. They get panicky and take over even more.
Good luck.
2007-10-02 08:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to work hard to get better grades just for yourself. Don't do it for your folks, do it because you'll be in college sooner than you think.
Also, right now is the time to start figuring out what you would like to learn about in college. What YOU would like to do.
You may be one of those poor unfortunates like me who like doing things that make no money. If that is the case, then look for things that you can tolerate doing.
Example, if you are into the arts and think you won't make money or can't make a living, then think of something that you can do where you can do arts on the side.
If no one listens to your ideas, forget about it. Don't let others dictate your opinions. Don't look at anyone's path but your own.
Be responsible with your time and energy and blaze your own trail.
You can do it, even if no one is listening.
God bless!
2007-10-02 15:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by autimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your parents, telling them you would like to be trusted more and be given the opportunity to show them that you can be trusted. Being opinionated is cool, but make sure you're voicing yourself the right way. Don't be mouthy and rude and closed to other opinions.
2007-10-02 15:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by johnstonluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One...either improve your grades or two....move out. Voicing independence is fine but it has a tendency to fall on deaf ears when you're not really 'independent'.
Let things go and carry on with life as usual. Know when your opinion will be taken to heart? When you move out, get a job, your own place, make a car payment and become self sufficient. that garners respect and respect is what you seek.
2007-10-02 15:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should do something that your little sis cant do but do it to your best ability or do something she can do that your parents like that she do but do it better
2007-10-02 15:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let thing here make desiicions i hope turn better
2007-10-02 15:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋