Okay I'll try to make this short-- I was at a dance last weekend and I met this guy, he asked me to dance a couple of times [fast & slow] and then when I was leaving he asked for my number. Now heres where i sound like a nerd... guys dont usually like me and nobodies ever asked for my number before, I've never even been on a date... so yesterday he called but I was at dance so he left a message saying he was wondering if I would want to hang out with him this weekend and if so to call him back. My friend says not to do it cuz hes geeky looking but Idc about looks i only care about personality, and idk if he meant like a date or with a bunch of people but I dont know if i wanna ask him cuz then it puts him on the spot, I would def. wanna hang out with him though... so please help? any tips? where should we hang out? do you think he meant like a date or with a group?
2007-10-02 08:23:55 · 24 answers · asked by Harlequin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not call him back and simply say, you are sorry you weren't in when he called, but you would love to hang out with him, and where was he thinking of going as you want to know what to wear to meet him, was he meaning with friends and does he want you to bring a friend along. Surely you will get talking then and you can ask him anything you are concerned about. Don't forget, this guy likes you for who you are, not for who you are trying to be. you may think you are being a nerd, but he obviously doesn't see you that way. Just make sure when you meet it is in a well lit public place and that your family know exactly where you are going and what time you will return and who you will be with. Good luck.
2007-10-02 08:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a lame question at all..you're just not familiar with the dating scene and so forth..it's super normal! Sounds like if this guy purposely seeked you out...he wants a date..he would have mentioned the group setting if he wanted a group..haha he want YOU and him type of thing! And that's great that you are into personalities. congrats! I would def call the guy back! before he gets all nervous about u not calling him! I would call, but don't ask him if it's a group date or not bc then he'll feel like it has to be a group and ur not really interested in him, does that make sense? Hanging out spots? well a dinner is great then maybe a film? or go to a museum/zoo/ walk in a park? do something that is laid back and can get you guys talking...good luck hun!
2007-10-02 15:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by itsybitme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, if he asked for your number he may have meant like a date with just you and him. You should call back and ask him if he was bringing any friends so that way you could bring some of your friends. If he says he isnt say okay and ask where are u guys going so you can dress properly.
2007-10-02 15:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him back and ask him where he wants to hang out. This way, you don`t have to make the decision, but if he asks you, you could suggest the mall, the skating rink, or maybe just going to a near by park. Most likely he meant just the two of you : )
2007-10-02 15:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sammi♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is calling you, it is up to him to come up with a place to hang out. There is no reason to ask if its a date or not, just let it take its course naturally.
Friends may not have your interests in mind when they give advice, but may want your time all to themselves.
Go hang out, whether its just friends or not it still could be lots of fun.
Good Luck.
2007-10-02 15:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So... if YOU want to accept, then go ahead. And if it turns out not to be the kind of date you'd hoped for, don't accept any future ones.
What? You're looking for guarantees before even accepting? Life is full of risks. You don't know what a new food tastes like until you've tried it. Obviously it already smells good, if you're interested, but that's no guarantee. Take a taste.
2007-10-02 15:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Marc X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked if you want to hang out.
Call him back with a plan.
You pick the place and conditions.
Then you can be sure about the reality of it.
Hang out in a "public place" the first time you meet him.
Maybe a shopping center or coffee house or bookstore.
2007-10-02 15:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by "Steve Jobs" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out go on a dat have fun screw your friends
these are your teen years theyre supposed to be stupid and fun and awakward
just ask him the details of the date
if your worried about a one on one date say: my friend (preferably one that doesn't think he looks like a geek) and i were gonna hang out this weekend can she come too? and do you have a friend for her?
plus then your parents will be more ok with it as well
2007-10-02 15:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Andria W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phone him for a date and ask him to bring a friend for your friend. Don't meet him alone first time. Take someone with you. He is probably alright, but your friend saw him I didn't. She could be right but she could be wrong if you understand what I am trying to say. My advice if you want to meet him take someone along and meet in a public place, until you know him a bit better.
2007-10-02 15:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sally Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like a date but he might have meant a group. If you really want to go then go even if you are worried that there is going to be a group of people. You might even make new friends. You have nothing to lose. If I was you I would go.
I HOPE THIS HELPED!!!
2007-10-02 15:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by olamabukkake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋