MARRIAGE for some, the word evokes pleasant thoughts. For others, it elicits heartache. "I feel emotionally divorced," laments one wife. "I feel neglected and lonely all the time."
Can God's Word truly help?
2007-10-02 07:49:46 · 13 answers · asked by Jason W 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
OH YES, Jehovah God instituted marriage in the first place so He knows how it should work and what makes it not work.
Marriage is not a smooth ride for any couple. We all have pitfalls to cross and get to the other side, so to speak. Many times it's a person's frame of mind that gets a marriage in trouble. Stinkin' thinkin'. Many times in a marriage it takes 99% of one spouse and 1% from the other spouse. Then it will change the other way. Seldom is it ever 50-50.
The Bible has many Scriptures on how a husband should love his wife and how a wife should have deep respect for her husband. Never does it say that a husband controls a wife and God even told men in Bible times to listen to their wives.
I have been a Witness for 12 years now. My husband has only had 4 studies and I see many changes in him for using Bible standards in our marriage. It's a true blessing from Jehovah God.
Praise Jah, YOU people.
2007-10-02 08:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Suzy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The Egyptians had marriages thousands of years before there was a Bible.
2016-03-19 03:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Since the Bible is inspired by the One who actually originated the marriage arrangement, it is reasonable for its principles to be helpful.
The link below leads to an article that illustrates how Bible principles can be helpful for marriages.
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20030915/article_02.htm
2007-10-02 11:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by tik_of_totg 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One cannot just read the Bible and do nothing else. You must put into practice what God says in his Word.
As a couple, walking close to God is the best thing you can do for your marriage, your life, your eternity.
By "walking close to God", I mean taking his Word seriously, meditating on it and using it as the guide for your life and marriage. Prayer is also a part of walking close to God. Talk to God about your concerns and seek His guidance for your marriage.
2007-10-02 07:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Oh yeah - "Well, the wife and I haven't had sex for 7 years, but reading about God smiting people really takes the edge off."
I would argue that if the Bible is actually of any practical use in resolving life problems, any other collection of texts similarly lengthy and diffuse would serve the same purpose. In other words, you might just as well read the Koran, or the Brothers Grimm for that matter. What happens is that you pick a passage and interpret it with regard to your own situation. Your interpretation is not at all the original author's intent; but it makes sense to you. It's like an ink blot test. You're not really consulting God; you're consulting yourself.
2007-10-02 07:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
The Patriarchs of the Bible had multiple wives (and sometimes concubines). Women had to be virgins on their wedding night (or face execution), but men didn't. Women didn't usually have a choice as far as who they married (the father got to choose a husband for her). That's just some of the marriage traditions in the Bible.
You know that man who is being tried for forcing a 14-year-old girl to marry her 19-year-old cousin? Where do you think he got the idea?
2007-10-02 07:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Robin W 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
"Can the Bible help your Marriage?"
Yes it can, here's some examples:
(Hebrews 13:4) - "Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers."
(Proverbs 6:27-29) - "Can a man rake together fire into his bosom and yet his very garments not be burned? Or can a man walk upon the coals and his feet themselves not be scorched? Likewise with anyone having relations with the wife of his fellowman, no one touching her will remain unpunishable.
(Proverbs 6:32) - “Anyone committing adultery with a woman is in want of heart; he that does it is bringing his own soul to ruin.”
In other words, don't be a moron and cheat etc, God will "zap" your backside on judgement day if you do. You cannot get away with being risky, you will hurt yourself and partner because they WILL find out if you're cheating. Desiring other woman/men when you already have one only makes you sad and eats you inside. Cheating on your partner is cheating yourself, for you will not be happy.
(Colossians 3:14) - “Clothe yourselves with love, for it is a perfect bond of union.”
(1 Corinthians 13:8) - "Love never fails"
In other words, you're not going to be ridiculously stupid towards your wife/husband if you are loving (not just "in love")
(Philippians 2:3, 4) - "doing nothing out of contentiousness or out of egotism, but with lowliness of mind considering that the others are superior to you, keeping an eye, not in personal interest upon just your own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of the others."
In other words, don't be a selfish, arrogant idiot, think about your wife/husband, put them first.
(1 Timothy 6:9, 10) - “Those who are determined to be rich fall into temptation and a snare and many senseless and hurtful desires, which plunge men into destruction and ruin. For the love of money is a root of all sorts of injurious things, and by reaching out for this love some have been led astray from the faith and have stabbed themselves all over with many pains.”
In other words, don't be a fool and value your job / money / finances over your wife / husband. Don't neglect their other needs. Spending quality time with them is more important than making money.
(Matthew 5:27, 28) - “you heard that it was said, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
In other words, admiring the opposite sex when you're married is not harmless fun. Desire gives way to sin. Anyone watching pornography, for example, will likely cheat if they had half the chance. Keep your desires for only your marriage mate!
I could go on and on, there are too many wise words in the bible to help married couples!
Or you could save yourself a whole lot of trouble by just listening to this scripture:
Proverbs 31:3 – “Don’t waste your life chasing after woman” (CE Version) LOL! Don't take me seriously there, just something my dad used to jokingly advise me :)
2007-10-02 10:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by Paul S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was able to save my marriage thanks to my family and friends. I also read a lot about marital issues and tips on how to save your relationship. The ebook on this site helped me a lot http://savemarriage.toptips.org
Check it out it's worth it.
2014-09-26 01:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bible has an excellent placebo effect for many problems
2007-10-02 08:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Morality and good relationships do not come from a supernatural fictional entity or a book, they come from your own good common sense, judgment, communication, and empathy towards others. Don't let the Bible be your brain, use your own.
2007-10-02 07:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by Uliju 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋