Thanks.
2007-10-02 07:19:16 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
In case you are wondering, I'm a Christian woman. I asked men this question also.
Ladies - all your answers are great. It's going to be difficult to pick one, but I will. I wish I could get some more perspectives. Christians, atheists, pagans are pretty much covered. Only one Muslim answer I believe.
Thanks everyone.
2007-10-02 08:15:16 · update #1
Depends on how the person talking about "submission" means "submission".
I have no problem saying with pride that I do submit to my husband. My husband also submits to me. When we took our marriage vows, we "submitted" to each other. We declared that the "us" is more important than the individual "me" in our relationship. We prioritize our marriage and our family before our individual desires.
(Atheist.)
2007-10-02 07:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jess H 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
1 Corinthians 11:3 says: "But I want YOU to know that the head of every man is the Christ; in turn the head of a woman is the man; in turn the head of the Christ is God."
Christ is in subjection to God, man is in subjection to Christ, and woman is in subjection to man.
Jesus is not a second class citizen because of the subjection he shows and neither are women. It's an arrangement for the sake of order. (1 Cor. 14:33)
There has to be order. In human relationships, someone can't make all the decisions ALL the time or there could be too much confusion, bitterness and/or arguing.
In a marriage, man's word is final. He's supposed to love his wife as his body though- so he shouldn't "lord it over" his wife or be a bully. He considers her suggestions but if there's a disagreement, what he says goes.
The sexual needs of the husband, however,l are NOT placed above the wifes (1 Cor. 7:3, 4)
And children are commanded to honor their mother as well as their father.
I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses.
2007-10-02 14:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Xyleisha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means the husband is the ultimate decision maker; it doesn't mean the wife can't have imput, but the husband's say is final. Sometimes in the bible the wife actually did influence the husband to her way of thinking, as with Abraham and Sarah. Sarah wanted Abraham to send the bondwoman away and ultimately God told Abraham to hearken unto Sarah. So long as the husband is a God-fearing man the wife should be obedient to him. I am a Christian.
2007-10-02 14:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Capri 1230 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually, if you are referring to bible verse, then you ahve to look at the actual greek, and translate it more accurrately. The word used means sustain or support. Same term as in the OT when it talks about how eve was made to be a "Help" to her husband. I am sure that whomever translated this had a reason to order wives to submit, perhaps their own marital problems? But TO me, the reality of it is that a marriage is supposed to be a support system. Helping each other, supporting each other emotionally, working together, and equal partnership. THere is nothing submissive to it.
PS, I'm Mormon!
2007-10-02 15:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysa(ducky)bridesmaid 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your man you should feel for asking this question. Women and men are the same. No one is greater or lesser. In there is a fight then something you'll win and something the other person will win. I'm not married. But I'm sure that if there is no sexism in your marriage, then it will be a good marriage.That goes both ways.
Free thinker. I think there is more then science, but don't want to give my up brain. Sorry about the type-o. I think my brain very much and I do study science and enjoy it.
2007-10-02 14:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Doll 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She is to fit into his plans. He is to have the last say, and should consider her input as part of the information to consider in making an intelligent and wise choice.
Keep in mind that in the same section of scripture, we are told to submit ONE to ANOTHER.
The wife is protected by allowing her husband the leadership role in her marriage. A wise wife will follow her husbands lead.
2007-10-02 14:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by goinupru 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
To me, it means that the man is set up to be the head of the household. Women are to submit to their husbands in a Godly fashion. If the man is asking the woman to do something that isn't of God, she does not have to obey. Neither does it mean that we aren't allowed to work or that we are to allow ourselves to be abused or mistreated.
I am a Christian.
2007-10-02 14:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by The Apple Chick 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It means when two people cannot come into agreement someone has to be the leader and better the man as women are more easily deceived. That's the truth. I"m a Christian.
I asked God about the submission thing once and said "do you not like women or what?: he said:
"You are being protected not rejected"
end of subject for me.
2007-10-02 14:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by sisterzeal 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I am a pagan. I believe that saying a wife must submit to her husband is simply a method old cultures used to control women. It's oppression. Submitting to your husband is not a matter of morality. It's a matter of cultural norms, and many modern cultures submission is no longer the norm nor should it be.
2007-10-02 14:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by ivy91189 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
There is an order in God's kingdom - Christ is the head, then man, then woman. If a wife's husband is in complete obedience to Jesus Christ, she honors Christ by being obedient, or in subjection to her husband. If, on the other hand, her husband is not in complete obedience to Jesus Christ, she can pray to Jesus and get help from Him. A wife, whose husband is in complete subjection or obedience to Christ, will not have any problem being in subjection to her husband. (I am of the Baptist faith)
2007-10-02 14:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋