I know that my boyfriend is cheating, I saw him. BUT. I want to wait until his entire family is around to reveal the news. See I'm my own private eye, and I tend to follow and take pics. That's exactly what I did, see when i come at you, I want to come with the facts, and documents, always good. Do you think I'm wrong for wanting to do this in front of his moms and them?
2007-10-02 06:49:21 · 32 answers · asked by Paradise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nope if he introduced you to his family then lay it out on the table for them to know about there son but make sure your right
2007-10-02 06:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Codey S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think you are wrong for doing it in front of his family. That is issue is between the 2 of you, not his entire family. What exactly will you get out of airing your personal business in front of his family? Ever consider that his family may already know about cheating ways? Don't waste any more of your time waiting for an audience. End the relationship and get on with your life.
2007-10-02 06:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by nievmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a personal thing that should be taken care of between u and him, maybe his friends also. If it was horrible, like he slept with her and everything, then yah maybe he deserves it. That's ok, but it sounds like pretty good revenge. But at the same time, think if u were in his shoes, if u made a huge mistake (cheated on ur bf) would u want ur parents to find out, like that? Just think about it hard before u do it cuz u don't want any regrets. U don't want him also coming back and u with crap for revenge either.
2007-10-02 06:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jayde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it feels good to get back at a person, but will you be embarassed afterwards, about making a scene, etc. Would it be worth it? Do you plan on taking him back if he apoligizes (the whole 9 yards) and everything, because personally, if I did, I would feel wierd around his family then. I'm sorry to hear about that though, I'm sure you deserve better than that. But I guess you situation all depends on what kind of person you want to be. Good luck =)
2007-10-02 06:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by 570Chicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why waste your time? He has won! You have gone through all this trouble because you are hurt badly. As the old saying goes the "Worst reaction is NO reaction!" Which means that if you just up and leave with no word or any notice and don't call or try to contact him he will wonder about if you ever cared about him! Trust me I have done this and 6 months later she was trying to get a hold of me and I wouldn't waste my time with talking to her. Ya see people want closure and when you deny them this it bothers them because it is an ego thing. Just walk away and he will be the one feeling like crap!
2007-10-02 06:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by mrjamfy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you should do it in front of the family. I understand that you want to make your point but, you can do that with out involving them. If the family comes to you and asks what happened then I would let them know other wise I would leave them out of it. It will only make you look bad and show that you wanted to reveal this in front of them. Ultimately it's your choice to make!
2007-10-02 06:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by smalltalk4you 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should confront him first alone and then go with him and make him tell his parents. They hate it when they are put on the spot and that is exactly what he needs. Whether to stay with him or not i always say once a cheater always a cheater. Dump him and move on. We always try to stick it out and make it work and that is mwy so many guys think they can get away with it. Open his eyes to reality and show him that we are not going to put up with the shitty treatment anymore.
2007-10-02 07:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty vindictive, just be a good person and do it in private. Following the dude around to watch him cheating makes you seem like that bad person not him.
2007-10-02 06:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do, For one thing its ok to do that for your own personal peace of mind. Eh you took it alittle far acting like paparazzi but hey you caught your fish. But to do that in front of his family is going to make you a) appear to be a psycho b) make you look kind of low in front of these adults. The best secret to get to someone is to be that better person and if they do talk **** you dont look like the horrific person they say that you are. So pull him on the sidelines, talk to him and let the rest fall into place. He'll reap what he sows but if he really pisses you off then put him on blast in a blog, I would only if he undermined my intellegence and really got me mad.
2007-10-02 07:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Queen of the Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gonna do what your gonna do... you already made up your mind by actually following him and taking pictures... so what we say wont change your decision but my vote is yes its wrong because thats just distastful and you really dont need to waste time on something like that with a cheater!!!
2007-10-02 07:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by Caynmarko23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have a talent. Put it to more productive uses. I saw one answer that said you should work for the FBI. Good idea!!
Dump him--that is a no brainer.
Show more class for yourself, and don't bring his family into the mess--it will only hurt them, and believe it or not, embarrass you.
2007-10-02 06:56:06 · answer #11 · answered by william 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋