seems kind of stupid but its something thats been in the back of my mind for a while now....?

Question

... my boyfriend and a few of our friends were sitting around having some drinks.. just having a chill low key night. after a while we went to bed and my boyfriend (of almost a year) and who was pretty drunk ...looked me right in my eyes and said "i love you ..you're the one.. will you marry me". It didnt click at first and i said "what?" and he said "nothing" kissed me and went to sleep. I know that people say the truth comes out when you're drunk but thats an extreme thing to say. I just wanted a little feed back on what he may have been thinking or was it just an empty drunken rambling. thanks..

Answer 1

Truth does not come out when you're drunk. Drunk people can't think straight and say stupid stuff. He meant what he said, for that moment. After he thinks about it some more, he'll realize he didn't mean it yet, is not ready for that yet.

Answer 2

Truth does come out when you're drunk, people tend to say things they might want to say while sober, but use the alcohol as an excuse to say it and perhaps pretend like they didn't mean it or even that they don't remember it. However, alcohol and physical closeness also can create false emotional closeness and people will say things that feel right at the moment, but they don't actually mean. Has he said I love you before that? I believe he actually did mean that part, but the rest kind of accidently came out and while it was probably something he'd been thinking about, it came a little too fast for him and freaked him out, so he doesn't want to repeat it.

Answer 3

i happen to believe that there is truth in just about everything we say. doesn't mean that everything we say is absolutely true, it just means that what we say originates with our thoughts, our minds, our feelings - and therefore has some truth to it.
so he was drunk...we say a lot of crazy things when we're drinking. he probably does love you (you may already say that to each other normally), and maybe he does feel like you are the one. maybe he's considered marrying you, or maybe he was just coming on to you. you may never know the motive behind what he said, but i wouldn't completely underestimate it. you should ignore the proposal - if he wants to propose to you, it should be better than that! but i would take it as a sign that he does think about your future. if he doesn't remember it, i wouldn't bring it up. he'll broach the subject when he's ready.

Answer 4

Did you two discuss his drunken ramblings on a SOBER note? If not, I would recommend it! If he is usually an honest person then I would take what he said seriously, but then again, who wants to be told something like that while both under the influence? It just doesn't hold as much meaning. Just ask him! Best of luck!

Answer 5

That's a hard one to figure out. From my own personal experience when I'm drinking I tend to a lot more verbal with my thoughts and feelings. I know it must be like having a big pink elephant in the room. The thing everyone wants to talk about but they are waiting for the other person to say something first. I would say if you love him and think he's the ONE talk to him about it and figure out if your both on the same page. I see no sense in keeping it buried inside and letting it bother you or consume your thoughts. I hope all turns out good for you and your boyfriend.

Answer 6

Drunk or not this how he feels. You can let time pass to confirm you feel the same way about him, just know how deeply he feels about you so if you are not anywhere near the page he is on then you should clear the air. Otherwise enjoy the fact he is in love with you and go from there.

Answer 7

Well maybe it is something that he has been pondering for sometime now...yet hes not really ready to blurt it out just yet. And during his drunk nite he got some balls and told u.....So yes I would take it in too some consideration that its there in his heart..But don't bring it up and let him tell you when hes sober and confident on every level to ask you.....I hope the best for you...enjoy goodtimes now and let the future unfold before your eyes when its time

Answer 8

It's not so much that people tell the truth when they're drunk. It's that they tell whatever pops into their mind. Whatever they happen to be thinking iwll just come out. Let a weekend go by to see if he issues a sober proposal. If not, talk to him about it.

Answer 9

He may have wanted sex or he may have simply said what he wants to say, but does not have the courage to do it! If it is the courage thing, perhaps you could drop subtle hints about marriage. Like if you see kids (And you want kids) you could say "I can't wait until we have children!" Or mention other friends weddings etc....

You could also just ask him if he was serious. Tell him if you were goofing that's OK but if you were serious, I want to make sure I answer you because I would love to spend my life with you.

I would do the later but then you have to be ready for the answer. He may say nope I won't be ready for marriage until I am 40 or some other answer you do not want to hear. You may not want to hear the answer but it would be better for you because if that is his view and you want kids, perhaps he is not the man for you!

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Definately get back with him on this...drunk or sober, he would never say anything like this if he didn't mean it and have thought about it prior to the asking....the heart still works fine, even when the body is messed up...i believe it was genuine."... all of his feelings were "rolled up into one" ..be glad!..Bye!