Even though I was invited to the wedding, I don't think it is necessary for me to attend. I think it is sacreligious, since I still love the person, and I hate the "witch" that he is marrying. Should I attend, or should I ignore him altogether?
2007-10-02 06:15:08 · 52 answers · asked by allspiceglitter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There's certainly no need to crash the wedding. If you've made your feelings known and he has rejected you, then you must cut him out of your life and move on. If you have not made your feelings known, you could call him and tell him how you feel, but still wish him well, because the chances that he's going to call off that wedding are minimal.
Wish him a nice life and go on with yours. You should not go to the wedding.
Good luck! :)
2007-10-02 06:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by searching_please 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are such a miserable witch, you should most definitely not attend. Why are you saying you would be "crashng" the wedding if you truly were an invited guest? Or were you invited to attend WITH a true friend of the couple? If that's the case, then decline politely! You know the old proverb/commandement: Do unto others" Well, sister, what goes around, comes around and if you go and make a scene at this very special time, not only the girl will hate you, but the guy you supposedly love will hate you too. Not only that, but everyone who knows you will avoid you like the plague because you'll get the reputation of being a bit psychotic. Grow up, for heavens sakes, and put some of that energy into improving your personality and attracting a new guy.
2007-10-02 06:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't attend unless you truely wish the bride and groom happiness together.
This day isn't about you. It's about "the man you love" and his bride. If this man actually loved you back, he wouldn't have proposed to his bride. You shouldn't attend the wedding and you should make a pact with yourself to forget about him. I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but there are a lot of other people out there and your fixation with him is going to end up hurting you. He's fine now, he's got a bride, and they're going to start a life together, without you. So trash any dreams you may have of crashing his wedding. He's not going to see you at the wedding and have an epiphany where he realizes he should be with you. If you cannot meaningfully say that you wish the two of them the best of luck in the future, then you shouldn't attend.
You should just cut off all ties with him and try to find your own man - preferably one who isn't spoken for...even if you think his significant other is a 'witch'.
2007-10-02 06:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by miss_j 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay away. Nothing good can come of your attending the ceremony or the reception after, for anyone - including yourself.
A truly selfless, gracious, and magnanimous act on your part would be to send a nice congratulations card and gift certificate for $ 50,00 or whatever to the newlyweds. This shows how much class you have, and that you are above any petty squabbling or grudges, or any stalking nonsense.
Now it's time to move on. If he calls, tell him you have moved on, and he has too, so you`` hope he has a happy life with his new bride, and ask him not to call again, and hang up.
I know that you're hurting, but now is NOT THE TIME, to do anything but put it all behind you, and go on with your life. It's like they say - "there are a LOT of fish in the sea, and you can catch another if you don't mind the weight, and throwing some back". Good luck, I'm pulling for you Sweetie.
2007-10-02 06:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by jtrall25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the guy, so I have no clue if he's just afraid to say it. He may have been raised in a household where men don't express their feelings, and it sort of sounds like it going by that last part. But only you can really be the judge of that. I think you've got something worth hanging on to. He does care for you. Even though you've know each other for 3 years, you can't go by that. It may be that he didn't think of you in any romantic way before you started dating, so months in a relationship isn't so long that it's weird that he didn't return your declaration of love. But I definitely wouldn't plan a wedding, or even say yes to an engagement ring, until I heard the words. For me, part of loving someone is the trust and security of being able to speak your mind, and share your feelings.
2016-05-19 06:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not worth the embarassment. It will only make you look selfish and desperate. I know that you may love him. you should tell him that you do.... but BEFORE the wedding day arrives. Does he love you? You have to think that maybe he doesn't.... otherwise he wouldn't be getting married to someone else. If I were you, I would not go to the wedding. He's already hurt you, don't put yourself up to getting hurt again. Besides, it would be wise to remove yourself from the temptation of "crashing" the wedding. Let him be the fool for not choosing you, no need to make a fool of yourself in return. As hard as it will be, it's best to ignore him and move on.
2007-10-02 06:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by cindy1576 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allspice certainly sounds as if you haven't closed this chapter of your life and moved on from this failed relationship. Face the fact that the man you love is in love with another. As for crashing the wedding it would certainly put a damper on the day for them but in the long run it would be you that would end up with the embarrassment, so why even bother attending.
2007-10-02 06:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say anything about him loving you?
I wouldn't "crash" this event. You'll only embarrass yourself and then what?
I think because of your feelings for him YOU think it's "sacreligious".
This man obviously does love her if he is marrying her.
It's only in the movies where woman go to "crash" the wedding of the man of there dreams and they run away with him.
Doesn't matter what you think of her, you're not the one marrying him~!
2007-10-02 06:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by Numb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well what makes you think that even if you crash it things will turn out the way you want it. I would not even think of trying to make myself look like a fool going to this wedding and crashing it. If you still love him thats fine but he is with her so its not time to get over it and heal all wounds. If he still loves you only time will tell in his marriage and maybe down the road he will be with you again, if it is true love only time will tell.
2007-10-02 06:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you crash his wedding...it's not going to be a happy ending. You were invited obviously to share in the celebration, not wreck his wedding. Is it worth ruining the friendship you guys have (you must have one to have been invited) to make a scene? He'd never talk to you again if you did anything even close to that! If you can't go and honestly be happy that he is happy, then stay home and move on.
2007-10-02 06:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋