She wants to erase all my #'s out my phone because she dont like my friends well she have good reason they all do drugs and i use to also. She wants to do my message on my answering machine, and she wants to keep my phone one full day. I dont think this is fair. What do you think.?
2007-10-02 06:11:03 · 29 answers · asked by stinkyrichdad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I think she means well however you need to take control of your own life and let her control her life.
I must stress here that because you used to do drugs like all these people I think she is more worried then a control freak.
If your friends still do drugs like you said then may be its time you yourself tell them that you are trying to have a clean slate and only contact them when you have to see and make sure that they are ok and not exactly dead just call them to ask about their welfare and not buy/borrow drugs from them.
My husband had the same probblem except his friends are/were gamblers and and he gambled to due to which we have lost almost everything.
And I felt the same as your girlfriend.
But i did not take his phone away, I gave him choice either them or his wife and children, he cant have both.
Thank fully he is getting better, instead of going to casino every night to play poker he plays once a week in our local pub where you pay £6 to play and you get scampi and chips free.
Try and sort your life out, and tell your girlfriend to hang in there
Good luck
Just
2007-10-02 06:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by mummyyusuf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have been on drugs and you have friends who do drugs, you really have to prove that you are not deceptive and that you are keeping clean. It sounds like your girlfriend loves you enough to protect you and to help you stay on the straight and narrow. Any counsellor would tell you to cut off all the old contacts so she is doing the right thing. Not many women are willing to work with an ex-druggie so you should consider yourself a lucky guy. Why can't she have the phone for a day? You have nothing to hide? Or do you? If you truly want to be loved by a good woman and have a good life, let her erase all the old contacts, give her the phone for a whole week to show her how honest you are - and don't let this one get away! she might be saving your life.
2007-10-02 13:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if you were in her shoes? Try thinking about that and maybe you will understand where she is coming from. I i were her i wouldn't even be trying to make you a better person, i would have given up when you were doing drugs. It is clear that she loves you and she cares about your wellbeing. That is why she wants you to cut all contacts with your friends who are still on drugs. Try showing her that you have changed and you will never go back to your old ways. Best of luck - i think cutting your old friends from your life is the best thing for you.
2007-10-02 13:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by ziphora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're girlfriend is controlling and already trying to cut your ties with everyone you know. I don't think you should be hanging out with the ones who still do drugs just in case you get tempted but damn..she don't have a right to want them gone. What is with these friggin girls who likes a guy, gets with a guy, then wants to erase who he is?
If you let her keep your phone you're asking for it. She'll have every number written down, call them or just sit waiting for a call to come in. Thats your phone...tell her to get her own. Better yet...I'd be getting out of that relationship asap! She sounds way over possessed and is attempting to make your life all about her!! As for the message...thats because she wants to mark you as her territory...for some reason she's thinking you've got girls on the sly...and wants them to call and hear her voice...Dude...get out while you can!!!
2007-10-02 13:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELL,WELL,WELL. This is really not a hard one here. I think your girlfriend only wants whats best for you, but don't let no one tell you who your friends are because you and only you know that answer. Also why do she needs to keep your phone for? Now she is not being fair at all. You know whats best for you now you got to do the best for your own good. REMEMBER: ONLY U KNOWS WHAT BEST FOR U!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-02 13:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by ANT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm it's not about what's fair and not,.
but maybe she just care and worries alot, though i think she's overdoing it,. too much request and cares soo much.
if she doesn't want you to use drugs, let her talk to you and help you manage it.
u can keep the numbers and just avoid the illegal drugs.
well, drugs for others became part of growing up but the individual decides how to get out of it.
its like who goes in into something goes out by themselves.
and about that phone ONE FULL DAY, what for??
maybe she wants all your attention to her...
talk to her i guess.. there's things others opinion won't work but by solving it by the 2 of you. let her realize she's being over reacting, over requesting..
2007-10-02 13:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ä?³? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to say this...get away from here...its good she is tryin to keep you away from drugs and stuff but there is no reason anyone should try to completly take over someones life. There is no reason why she cant ask you to do some stuff but for her to tell you SHE wants to do all of that, its a bit much, and very controlling...you may be happy now but if thats how it is you probably wont be for long. Take it from someone who has been with similar people.
2007-10-02 13:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by sliman__85 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're being henpecked. But she's also looking out for your best interests, regarding the drug thing, however she's going about it all wrong. Your phone and it's respective contents are your business and you need to make this clear. But you should also make it clear that you understand that her concern is for your best interest. Thank her, then explain that trust and respect are main points of a solid foundation.
2007-10-02 13:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't be around friends that do drugs, those are the type of people that will always put their habit above you.
I don't know how people can be so foolish as to mess with both their physical and mental state like that.
2007-10-02 13:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by brettj666 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand her wanting to control what is going on. It sounds like she feels the need to control you in order to control what goes on with her life. Totally understandable. You being the boyfriend are a big part of her life.
But she has to be able to trust you. And if she can't, than she needs to let go.
2007-10-02 13:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋