I'm 16 and watch 3 kids on a regular basis ages 2, 3, and 5. The 5 yo has been having some behavior problems lately (gradually getting better) and after one incident that happened a few weeks back, and something else he did when he was with his parents, he lost the pleasure of having a birthday party and having his friends spend the night. Now his mom is giving him the chance of earning it back with good behavior. She told me that if he starts acting up to remind him about his party. And so far, it's been working. But i think i've been starting to use it as a scape goat, every time he does something, he's reminded of the birthday party. Is this like bribing him to behave? should i continue doing it as often?
2007-10-02 06:09:08 · 5 answers · asked by :) 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I see no reason why you shouldn't. It may be considered bribbing, but the way I see is being rewarded for good behavior. Every parent has done this. It's no different that telling your child they have to eat all their veggies if they want a peice of cake.
2007-10-02 07:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by TD R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥ Well you are only the babysitter and should follow the parents rules as they are set. However in this case I think you are right... that it is bribing. He will be bad until you remind him "Dont be bad you want to be good to have your party!'... but then 5 minutes later he is doing it again so that you can remind him. Sit down & talk with the parents. Maybe they will see where you are coming from and take your views into consideration. Good Luck!
2007-10-02 06:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just an FYI - children "act out" when they are feeling unloved. They act out to get "attention." If their parents won't give them positive attention (i.e., their time, their real undivided attention and interest, their affection) then children will settle for whatever they can get (or negative attention like yelling, punishing). Most 'behavior problems' are children's hidden cries for more time, love and attention from their parents.
If you want this 5 year old to behave don't bribe him, just TOUCH HIM with real affection, PAY ATTENTION to him and LISTEN to him with real interest, let him sit on your lap, PRAISE him when he does something good or right. You will be amazed at how quickly he will change his behavior when you give him love.
2007-10-02 06:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, its under the moms direction, and she's paying you to do that.
2007-10-02 06:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because he will never learn to behave.
2007-10-02 06:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by rosebud_loves_you_94 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋