Does it bother you that the overwhelming majority of these people with these problems don't even realize that they are the problem and that their versions of the stories are so biased, they can't even tell. Would you agree that almost all, NOT ALL, of these problems are these people's owns fault. And when a situation arises that doesn't appear to be their fault that they probably did something previously to bring about the issue they are complaining about? They don't even realize. Does bias drive you crazy? I find the reason I'm successul at all (and don't misunderstand. I am no miracle but I'm not a useless piece of **** either) is that I always look to see if a problem is my fault and look at my biases first. I think the worst thing is that the people who this applies to the most are the people who can't even imagine this applying to them!
2007-10-02 05:50:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most problems are self-created.
2007-10-02 05:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There tends to be 1 more side of the story than there are people involved. If a couple is having problems, there will be 3 sides to the story (his, hers, and the truth).
Most people see their issues from their own perspective, that's just human nature. Are they to blame? Maybe...maybe not...probably to some degree.
People come here to vent or get advice or just talk about what's troubling them...hopefully they don't base their life/death decisons on what strangers on a free website say to them.
2007-10-02 12:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're generalizing quite a bit, but you do have a point. Pretty frequently if you complain about only attracting losers, the problem isn't them, it's you. I don't believe it's possible to completely eliminate bias, but you do have to be aware of it and be honest about it, both with yourself and with a serious potential mate. Particularly important to be honest with yourself about it.
2007-10-02 12:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are a lot more people out there that will always look to blame others for their problems.
2007-10-02 12:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree entirely. can you believe some of these weird questions. you can tell theres not alot of maturity out there especially in todays youth. they havent got a clue !!!!!!
2007-10-02 12:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by flatfootfred 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋