my son is 15 months old and out of control i need help!!!?

Question

my son just turned 15 months and he is crazy he has this ear piercing scream that he does all the time and he throws stuff he doesnt listen to me only his father i dont know what to do i love him so much but i am getting so annoyed with him i need to find a way to control him better any suggestions?

Answer 1

Set up a pack 'n play in your living room, dining room, or somewhere in your house. Put him in there for a 2 minute time out when he throws a fit. Of course, give him the chance not to throw the fit, but if he persists, put him in the crib. Even if he doesn't understand fully the concept of time out, he knows that he has to go in there if he screams or throws things. Plus, whatever he throws, stick it on top of the fridge or on the counter so he can still see it but can't have it. If he asks for it say, "sorry, you threw it and you can't have it back for another X amount of time."

Answer 2

Those tiny humans we call children can be quite difficult to deal with. Rather than tell you to do this or that, let me take a moment to explain what is going on.

Children have feelings and emotions just like you do. They are just as powerful as the feelings adults struggle with. The problem is the child does not understand these feelings nor do they know how to control them. They act them out because that is all they are able to do. They don't do it just to annoy us.

Children are also smart. If they can get what they want by acting in a certain way, then they will do it. So what can you do?

You need to be smarter and more understanding then they are. 15 months is too young to understand reason or punishment. When a child acts up and freaks out, all you can do is let him go. Place the child in a relatively save place where he is not likely to injure himself and let him vent. Then, when he finally wears out (the emotion subsides) just ignore the outburst and cheerfully try to engage him in some positive persuit, such as drawing or playing a game.

If he freaks again, he goes back to the safe area until he regains control. Then cheerfully engage him again. Do not point out his behavior, do not scold him. He is not doing anything evil, he is just acting on his emotions.

Eventually, if you remain consistant, he will realize that the outbursts do not accomplish anything and cooperating with you is much more enjoyable. It takes a lot of time but it always works. Soon, the child learns that he actually can have feelings and act out emotions in more acceptable ways. This is the first step towards controlling himself.

You must help him learn to control himself, you cannot control him. Give him plenty of attention when he is behaving well and provide him with lots of interesting things to do.

You will find that your relationship with him improves dramatically.

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Answer 3

My son is just shy of 15 months..will be 15 months on the 5th and I FEEL YOUR PAIN and FRUSTRATION! If I had the answers I wouldn't have posted a similar question eariler today. My son does the same thing that your son is doing. My son does listen to me, however the tantrums that he throws for me, he doesn't throw for his father and i truly believe it's because daddy is at work all day long and he and I are together all the time. He misses daddy without a doubt..that I know..but the tantrums are so difficult to deal with, I know.

I do believe that at this age, they are too young to be placed in time outs. I dont know about your son but there's no way that my son would sit in time out! And no I don't want to have time out in his crib or pack n play..for a very good reason. I dont want him to think that either place is a bad place to go and then you will have created a new dilema. No thanks to that!

When my son throws his tantrum, as hard as it is, I just get down, look at him and say quietly that when he's done I will be more then happy to play with you. That's all that I do and go about my business. Sometimes the tantrums go on and on, sometimes they stop. sometimes I'm able to re-direct him before the tantrum takes off, sometimes not. With this age it's difficult because they can not communicate all their needs, they are aware that there's so much to learn and explore and that they are individuals.

I don't believe that you and your husband need therapy or counceling simply because of the tantrums you son is throwing. That's just ridiculous! Our sons are 15 months old...just one year and 3 months that's it! We just have to figure out a way to not let them annoy us, because they feed off of that, I swear!!!

Good Luck to you and know that you are not the only one..I'm in the same boat as you woman! My mom tells me that it's motherhood and it's boys!! :-)

Answer 4

I nanny triplets.. and not one of them throws a "tantrum" or screaming while I am around.. but the mother walks in and they are on the floor throwing things.. screaming, kicking, punching.. and the first thing she does is say.. what can i get you, what can i do for you.. and then they make their demands lol. Just be careful your not giving in too fast. He might just feel thats his way of getting your attention b/c it worked in the past. Hope to help. When the kids tried the whole screaming technique when I first started I calmly said, I cannot help you if you dont stop. And just repeated it and repeated. AS IM READING OTHERS ANSWERS I FIFURED ID ADD... NOOOO SPANKING AND NOOO TIME OUT!!!! lol it will not work!! especially if you want the respect your son is showing your husband. you dont want your child to fear you.

Answer 5

I would speak to your pediatrician about this. Your son may need some behavorial therapy. I intend no insult by this, but you and your husband may need to attend some counseling or classes for parenting tips. It may be that you two aren't on the same page in front of your son. He sees this and becomes confused, which may be leading to some of his outbursts. You also need to have a FIRM discipline plan in place and don't be afraid to follow through! And I am not necc talking about spanking (although it does have it's uses). I am thinking more of designated "time out" locations (seats, corners, mats, rooms, or stairs) where your child WILL spend time when he acts up. (say 5 minutes time out for each year he is old or whatever works for you). Also, take away his favorite toys, etc. I think if you talk to your doctor, maybe try some couseling as a family and implement a good discipline program, you will find that he improves. (And btw, he should be on a good sleep and eat schedule. That goes a long way to improving behavoir in children.) He is obviously in his "terrible 2's" so some exploration and acting out is to be expected. Hitting, throwing, and biting on the other hand are behavoirs that should NEVER be ignored or overlooked. He needs to be strictly and strongly (but still lovingly) corrected on this stuff. NOT to panic you, but you also want to rule out any emotional or mental disorders that might be causing him to act socially inappropriate.

(And as a note, it is NOT true that time out doesn't work with tots. At about the age of 1 they began to learn about cause and effects. It is very simple to make them understand that if you bite mommy, mommy will spank you and put you in time out. It is NOT cruel. You and only you are responsible for teaching your child what is app at this age. While ignoring a tantrum is ok for the first few minutes, there are times when a true correction is needed and (believe it or not!) DESIRED by the child. They LIKE to have boundaries and are much, much happier when they know what is and is not ok. Your child IS old enough to grasp such simple things as do NOT hit, bite, or throw things as ANYONE. And you can all this while still showering him with love and affection! GL GL! You will get it figured out I am sure!)

And spoon's suggestion for a regimen is a great one and HIGHLY effective!!!

Answer 6

First get down on his level, face to face. And tell him the he is acting naughty, and it isn't nice. The quieter you talk the more he'll listen. You may have to do this a few times. Then after you tell him to stop, say "ok?" and let him answer you. Then tell him if it continues he will go to time out. Then if he is still acting up, sit him in the corner away from toys and tv. Once he gets quiet, time out will start. Not until then. You just have to be consistent with whatever you choose, never slacking off.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I feel your frustration. My son is also 15 months. I can tell him "no" a hundred times and all he does is smile and do it again while he looks right at me. It's like he's testing me (probably is!). If his father says "no", he stops and frowns and even sometimes cries. He is also very destructive. I think is normal behavior for their age. I think they are learning their boundaries. I'm not giving up!! Everything I read says consistency is key. Try not to give in to him too much. Oh, getting annoyed is totally normal.

Answer 9

He sounds like he is developing normally! Not "out of control" in the least.
He is a toddler, a YOUNG toddler who is learning his boundries. Time out will NOT work with a child this young, they cannot grasp the concept.
If he throws toys you can tell him in a calm but stern voice "No throwing. Do it again and I'll take it away." If he does it...take the toy. Tell him he can have it back when he calms down.

I ignored my daughter's tantrums. Most of the time though there was another cause. IE: She was tired, or hungry. I would solve those problems and see if it went away.

The little ones are just learning about their emotions but do not know how to deal with them yet.

Answer 10

Well, first of all...you being a parent, it will be hard to discipline your child because you dont want to hurt them. Well, you are not hurting your child by giving him a little tap on his hands or on his legs to let him that what he is doing is not acceptable. You must learn how to love your child and discipline at the same time. That's how you teach your child right from wrong, and when he grows up he will become immuned to the discipline, knowing that if he does something wrong, mommy or daddy is going to be after him. Spanking your child is not abusive, hitting the child excessively is. When you spank him, just say something to let him know that what he is doing is wrong and if he does it again, he will get another spanking. Kids are smart, they hear you, and they know when to cross the line and when not to cross the line. It's up to the parent to teach the child control. If you are out of control, so will your child be. SO...take control, let him know that mommy is not playing, and he will do what you tell him to! AS he gets older if this continues, you must learn how to take things that he likes away...it teaches a lesson, if you do what parents tell you, then you get what you desire, and if you cant respect and follow the rules, then you loose privillages. It's better to start disceplening now, than later, because it will be too late when he gets older!!!!!!