a friend is going to Vegas and is wondering whether it would be proper ethiquet to ask the girls to pay for their hotel rooms. They will all be driving from LA to Vegas already, so would asking them to help pay be too much, or would it be appropriate since they are already doing her the honor and joining her for such a joyous event? please advice . Thank you all in advance.
2007-10-02 05:27:37 · 14 answers · asked by plum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They pay for their own room. Bottom line. If you want to pay, or need to help them out, then do it. This is part of the expense of being in the bridal party.
2007-10-02 07:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of my bridesmaids will have just graduated from college so I am not planning on making them spend a lot. I want them to have dresses that they can possibly wear again. I will look at dresses under $120, hopefully less. They don't need to have matching shoes as long as they are the same color. They will pay for their own dresses and shoes, but I will pay for them to get hair and nails done. They can do their own makeup. All in all, I don't want my bridesmaids to have to spend any more than $150 for their outfits.
2016-05-19 05:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married in Vegas last year, and I did not pay for the hotel rooms for the bridesmaids or groomsmen. It was not even an issue! Everyone chipped in, we stayed 4 or 5 to a room, and did it as cheaply as possible. The bridesmaids paid for their dresses too. It's not reasonable to expect that the bride will pick up the tab for all your stuff.
2007-10-02 05:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think she should talk to her bridesmaids and work it out together. The practice of having a big wedding and pressuring your friends to shell out a lot of money for dresses and shoes and possible hotel rooms etc. is very selfish and inappropriate. Our society keeps following some of these customs to extremes, and then wonders why we have problems. Just talk with them, all at one time, and figure out if its too much for them to handle, and if it is, have the wedding in LA or pay for the rooms herself
2007-10-02 05:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by John M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think they should pay for their own rooms, or the bride can offer to split the cost of a suite the night before the wedding since she has to be away from the groom and it would be a good girl's night to do all the pre-wedding prep and giggle.
However, the bride needs to consider this in her cost so should choose a inexpensive dress, not require set shoes, hair, or professional makeup to help them with the costs. It's also her responsibility to call ahead and see if she can negotiate discounted rates for her guests.
2007-10-02 05:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally transportation, etc is the bridesmaid expense. However, in modern times the bride, groom and bridesmaids can work it out to be affordable for all. What are the groomsmen doing?
2007-10-06 03:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by chaosfrog81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you discuss and settle this at the time you asked these ladies to be your bridesmaids? Bridesmaids expect to pay for their own dress and shoes, but it's a bit much to pay for a dress you don't particularly like and will never wear again and then be repeatedly surprised to learn that you're expected to host a shower at your own expense, expected to chip in $150 toward a staggette party, expected to buy your own corsage, expected to foot the bill for having your hair styled at the bride's salon, and so on.
Now you are in the awkward position of asking them to, in addition to all the expenses they've already incurred and on top of all the personal time they've given up, fork over $100-$200 each for a place to sleep. Your alternative is to pay for the rooms yourself, perhaps asking the ladies to share rooms.
You know better than I how much money and time these ladies have already expended for your wedding AND how well able they are able to pay for the rooms. If they are already feeling "tapped out" on your behalf, I'd offer to pay for the rooms.
2007-10-02 05:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If at all possible get one suit for all the bridesmaids to share. This way the expence is shared amongst all the girls. Since its a destination wedding the maids are probably assuming they will be required to pay for a place to stay.
2007-10-02 05:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its unreasonable to ask the girls to pay for their rooms. If the bride feels to uncomfortable with asking them for the total cost of the room, maybe ask them for half of it. Its a big cost to soak up for the bride, esepcially when she has so many other things to pay for on that big day.
2007-10-02 06:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you help out? If you can't- tell them they need to pay for the hotel and if it's too much then it's OK to decline coming.
You don't have to pay but don't insist on people going. I had to tell someone that I was unable to go because of this and she was pissed. But always give people enough notice to decline!!
2007-10-02 05:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋