My boyfriend gets really stressed out and distant this time of year. He works several jobs…2 of which start back up in the fall. He is a loving boyfriend, perfect in a lot of ways but tends to be distant and wants to go out and drink a lot this time of year. I don’t know how to deal with this huge transition…I am usually feeling upset, lonely and neglected and I don’t want to treat him like that…what do I do!
2007-10-02 05:26:16 · 6 answers · asked by TueRef11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh come on this is not a big problem! just go and talk with him.. tell him u feel upset and lonely make him understand.. and afterall u already said he is loving too much.. just he lacks a bit is caring.. just make him understand that
2007-10-02 05:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by raxius 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay girl.. I know that you won't like this. But it sounds like this is going to be too much for you. Especially if you take this relationship to the next level. He might b/c a drunk later in life, and thats never good. But first b/f doing anything... You need to talk to him about it. If he says he's sorry. He most likely means it. But if he keeps on making up excuses like he's really tired b/c he works so many jobs and stuff like that.. maybe its time to make a change.. find a new guy. There's plenty of other fish in the sea you just have to look.
2007-10-02 05:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Raven 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow...that's a good question! I've been there with my boyfriend & this is what worked for us. I handed him a beer & said let's talk. We both discuss how we felt. About how he brought work problems home with him & how distent we've become. Now when he comes home or calls me. We can only fuss about work for 10 minutes. When he brings it up later. I just remind him that work should be left @ work, holding it with a smile.
2007-10-02 05:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Hugs 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive me, but if you really want to do what you suggest, for the bf you describe, you will get what you are getting. Treated like a doormat. Sounds like he KNOWS you're there, that's part of the problem, he's taking it (you) for granted.
After several years of living together and a close call w/ marriage, I finally left someone who meets your bf's description. 5 years (and one more failed relationship for him) later, he is now at AA, and admits he was a drunk workaholic who used both to avoid his problems. End of story.
For myself, I couldn't stay attracted to someone like this, so I left. If I were you, I'd find someone better.
2007-10-02 05:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make him want you to go with him. I'm not going into details, but im quite sure yuo can find ways to make him enjoy your company.
2007-10-02 05:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by Koozie the chemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him, "If you need me for anything, I'm here." And leave it at that.
2007-10-02 05:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋