i have read on here that it is bad ediquet (sp?) to put in invitations where you are registered, but i registered at Macy's and they sent me a packet with little cards to put in the invitations to let people know I am registered there. Why would they do that if it is known not to do that? should I use them?
2007-10-02 05:24:00 · 36 answers · asked by nytengayle13 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You can put them in the bridal shower invitations and hand them to your parents and important points of contacts to hand out.
Just because Macy's doesn't care how tacky it looks, you should! Their worried about making money, and could care less about how you appeared to family and friends.
2007-10-02 06:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is in extremely poor taste to make any mention of gifts whatsoever in a wedding invitation. The little cards the store has given you are for the bridal shower invitations, not the wedding invitation. Personally, I threw those cards right in the trash when I registered. I feel it's in much better taste to let people know where you're registered only if they ask. Plus it is so easy now to look up a registry online, why push it on your guests with those tacky little cards? Trust me, people will find out where you are registered through the moms and your wedding party.
2007-10-02 05:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why does The Wedding Industy do anything? TO MAKE MONEY, of course. They are interested in profit, and don't care if you make a fool of yourself with a major etiquette goof!
Now that the "Printers" section of The Wedding Industry has managed to convince people to print cunning little RSVP cards, brides have quite a few problems that didn't exist when RSVPs were done the old fashioned way -- by phone.
Like your problem, for instance. When people RSVP'd by phone, that created the golden opportunity for them to ASK what sort of gift the couple would like. THEN they were told "They both love fine wines and gardening, and they're registered at Macy's, and I'm sure they'd appreciate any contributions toward the honeymoon fund."
Then there is the problem of people crossing out the "Two, One, or None attending?" question and writing in "Seven." Try that on the phone and it gets nipped in the bud.
Last of all is the trouble of personalizing all those tiny cards, not to mention paying for them in the first place AND paying for and positioning a postage stamp on each one.
(You do RSVP by phone by including a ph# beside or beneath the RSVP on the invitation. You don't need to handle every call personally; friends and family can return calls for you.)
2007-10-02 05:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know too much on this topic, having never planned a wedding of my own, but I've been involved in a few, and attended several and almost always recieve the little cards in addition to the invite. Most recently I recieved a shower invite with two little registry cards. This maybe a bit different, since it was for a bridal shower and not the actual wedding invite. I didn't think it was poor etiquette at all, but found it quite helpful. I was even a little put off when we recieved an invite for a wedding from a couple we don't know very well (second marriage for the mother of my bf's friend) that didn't include those inserts...I had NO idea where to even start looking for a gift! I think what is really a "no no" is including registry info on the actual invite itself.
2007-10-02 05:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by missy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Those are for the shower invitations, not the wedding invitations. The whole point of a bridal shower is to bring gifts, so its okay for that, but a wedding invitation is formal and gifts are not required so putting those cards in the wedding invitation is like saying "Hey, come to my wedding, but make sure you shop here for my gift!" Which would be rude. You don't want to be rude, do you? Keep them for the shower and if you're not having one, then toss them. People will ask you or your mom or bridesmaids where you are registered if they want to know.
2007-10-02 07:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I did included a card with where I was registered, I also stated that presents where not expected. I did this because My friends who aren't still in the college I graduated are spread across the whole of the U.S. so I knew I wouldn't be having a bridal shower in any form with my friends. I also only put these notes in the cards sent to the people I invited, F-M-I-L was against it ever being placed in them, she felt her family would throw me a bridal shower, I wasn't about to attend a shower where the only person I knew/talked to was my future mother-in-law.
I believe people feel this is bad etiquette based upon two things. first is the assumption that you'll be having a bridal/wedding shower, this is when everyone would find out about where you are registered and most likely where you would receive your presents. Secondly, if you just put a we're registered (fill in the blank) slip with your invitation, it comes off as demanding gifts in repayment for the invitation. I notice that everyone who has done this has never placed it on the actual invitation and it's always just a card or slip of paper, also everyone tends to try to make sure that this is just in case the person wants to know where you are registered and gifts are not required or expected in the least.
2007-10-02 06:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Manny 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Those do not go in the invitation those are for you and your mom, his mom, bridesmaids, etc.. to carry around and hand to people as they ask where you are registered or what you like for you wedding maybe even a possibility to send them with your bridal shower invites. If your having a time of the day shower, etc... Not in your Wedding invite. People will ask where and you can say " Oh were registered at xxxix , I have a card if you like one?"
Good luck in planning and best wishes on your special day.
2007-10-02 06:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by typicalcagirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not put those in invitations!
The reason they send those is because recent trend is for people to have the bridesmaids put their registry info into their shower invites (which I think is just as bad but it happens)
Technically what you should do with those is hold onto them, give a few to your parents and the bridal party. When somebody ASKS "Where are you registered" You tell them X, X, and Macy's. Oh, by the way here is a card you can use to access our registry at the store so it's easy to remember
2007-10-02 05:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
NO, NO, NO....please do not use them. You are correct that it is poor etiquette to put anything in the invitation about gift registries.
You ask why would they send these to you? Because they are a retailer, not an etiquette expert. Retailers want your money any way they can get it. So, if that means going against proper etiquette, so be it! Retailers will tell brides that this can be done. They send you the little cards telling you to put them in your invitations when, if fact, it is in poor taste. And why? The almighty dollar is why.
So, you are correct in what you have read, so please throw them away! Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
2007-10-02 08:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course Macy's wants you to put them in! A lot of couples register at more than one place, so Macy's wants to be sure they get the first jump on customers.
It is poor etiquette to mention gifts AT ALL in the invitation. I know others have suggested that you put that information on the bridal shower invites, but in my opinion, that is poor etiquette also. You just don't solicit gifts on invitations. Period.
2007-10-02 06:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by eli_star 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
As a guest, I want to know where the couple is registered, makes my life easier and I want to give a gift that is wanted.
I have no problem with the card from Macy's in the invitation as I don't want to have to track down a family member or the bride for this information.
2007-10-02 05:59:13 · answer #11 · answered by Earl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋