If you guys fought a lot? My boyfriend broke up with me because he says he was tired of fighting ...and he says we are too different . But we also love each other very much. and both of us are very sad about this break up. But to me it's not enough of a good reason to break up.
2007-10-02 05:07:18 · 26 answers · asked by Talk Talk 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank you all very good answers.... I guess We'll see what happens
2007-10-02 08:29:25 · update #1
Just because you love someone doesn't mean they are automatically the one for you. There's a lot more to a relationship than just love. There is compatability and compromise, trust and the ability to feel safe and secure. You need to know that your partner will always be in your corner, even if you're fighting.
Fighting is normal, but there might come a time when all the love in the world isn't making up for the words that are being spoken in the heat of the moment.
You could try going to couple's counselling if you're serious about this relationship working. It might help you both gain some insight into why you don't seem to get along.
2007-10-02 05:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe the fighting was making him unhappy (not saying whose fault it was) and he likes peace in his relationships. Maybe it was HOW you fight... did you two do/say things that were inappropriate? Sometimes we find that some people bring out the worst in us... not on purpose, just happens that way. To think that two people can have a relationship without ever disagreeing is a bit ridiculous. Sometimes we have to agree to disagree, as hard as that might be. When you say you fought 'a lot' does that mean it happened every time you were together? If so, that's quite a negative thing and some wouldn't like to be going out with someone who they knew they would be fighting with every time they met. I think that if you guys love each other, you can work with your differences and by respecting the other person, you can learn how to disagree but not be fighting quite so much. Maybe you can convince him that if you both tried a bit harder, you could work stuff out. Your call.
2007-10-02 05:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend really love each other, then you should stay together. All couples fight, but the love and trust keeps them together. He musn't have loved you enough to break up with you over some silly arguments. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 whole years. We will be getting married in a couple of weeks. Trust me, we have fought many times, but that's part of being in a relationship. We got through it and made our relationship work. You and your boyfriend have to work together and trust each other. Many couples split for lack of trust. If there's no trust in a relationship, then there's nothing. Just remember that. Hope this helps you.
2007-10-02 05:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Manapazza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes love is not enough to have a successful, long term relationship. Two people must be able to get along and communicate in order to build a foundation that is necessary to have a lasting, happy relationship. If you two are fighting now and cannot resolve your problems, then perhaps its better that you each have a chance at happiness, separately, than to live together in misery for the rest of your lives.
2007-10-02 05:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by Heart of Fire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone handles confrontation differently. He may not be able to be happy in a relationship where hostility if the primary form of communication whereas, you feel better able to get your point across via confrontational circumstances. I am in a relationship that will most likely be ending soon based on this problem. I hate fighting and cannot be happy in a relationship where fights occurr daily. My partner loves to fight and cannot be happy unless we are yelling at each other.
2007-10-02 05:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up with someone if we fought all the time. It is too exhausting to fight all the time, and it seems nothing can move forward in the relationship because most of the time together is spent bickering.
2007-10-02 05:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by IJToomer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not being honest and talking to his ex. He obviously still likes the other girl. I mean who wants to be in love with a person who doesn't fully love them? What I would do is confront him and ask him what this is all about. If he came clean an promised to never do it again then I would give him a second chance. However if he wanted to lie about it I would drop him like a hot potato and walk away.
2016-05-19 05:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good reason to me. The only solution is if both of you work at the relationship and pick your battles betters. Not every little thing is worth fighting about.
2007-10-02 05:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that'd be a dealbreaker for me. No matter how much you two may care about each other, constant bickering and arguing is exhausting and if the root of the issue can't be discovered and dealt with, I'd definitely take it to mean that those 2 people just aren't a good match.
2007-10-02 05:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It very well could be enough of a reason. Fighting (ESPECIALLY unproductive, repetitive, cyclical fighting) wears a person down and syphons all of the joy out of everything, and it's easy to not want to put up with that for long. Think about it this way: You HAVE to go to work, you HAVE to go to school...people have all kinds of obligations they HAVE to honor, so who wants to "fight" with someone they "choose" to spend their free time with? The payoff isn't worth the effort put into it over time.
There are legitimate reasons to fight, and issues worth fighting for, but no one enjoys fighting all the time for any reason. I hope this insight is helpful to you.
2007-10-02 05:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋