My bf and I have been going back and forth over this. He is the groomsmen for one of his best friend's wedding, and I've gotten quite close to both the groom and bride. I've also been getting into scrapbooking lately, and would love to scrapbook a page for them and frame it. It would be on 12x12 paper and in a special scrapbooking frame. I think we will probably pair it with another gift, perhaps off the registry, but I think it would be enough on its own. My bf thinks not, because he says the gift should be as much as our dinner at the wedding, but I think with the time I would take to make the gift, as well as the cost of the materials, (which can get pretty pricey!!) as well as the special handmade factor, it would be even. What do you think?
2007-10-02 04:51:13 · 27 answers · asked by missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with you. This is because it is a personal touch that would mean so very much, if they are close friends.
Things like that that is done with much thought and love , I think, is priceless!!!
But if the bride and groom are materialistic and calculative type of people, then it would be a different matter altogether. If it were my wedding present, I would be touched to tears!
On my 10th wedding anniversary, my husband and I renewed our vows and had a party. One guest made us a photo album with lace etc....so pretty! Another crotcheted a doll which has the skirt part as a container for odds and ends which are small...e.g. jewelry.
So it depends on the couple. If they are close friends you will know what kind of folks they are.
2007-10-02 05:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Globetrotter 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
The whole "the gift should be as much as our dinner at the wedding" is pure bullshit. How in the world would you KNOW how much it cost unless you were the bride or groom?
Ignore that gift=cost of dinner thing.
Buy what you want to buy with however much you want to spend.
I think the scrapbooking page sounds like a good idea. Put it in a nice frame perhaps?
Your friends will truly cherish something that was hand made from a good friend like you.
Tell b/f if he doesn't like it, then buy his OWN gift for the couple.
2007-10-02 08:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I got my sister a wedding poem and had their wedding date and names put on it and I had it framed.They really liked that.Its something they can hang in their house and see everyday.Just like the one you want to make for them.Scrapbook page with pictures of them is an excellent idea.Its something they will cherish and can pass down to their kids.Or you can make the scrapbook page and use it as one of the decorations at the wedding.My sister had a table where the bridal book was and there was a scrapbook frame there.That way all the family and friends seen it and the bride and groom gets to keep it.Then you can still get a gift for the couple also.
2007-10-02 05:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by shadowmonkeyblue 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that it is a wonderful idea. I would love to receive a gift like this. More personal and heartfelt. Gifts aren't about the money. They are about the thought and consideration that is taken when choosing them. I think it would be plenty on its own. However, if you want to include something from the registry that is also fine. I don't know who's idea it was to say that you should spend 50-75 dollars on a gift. Thats just greed. People should be happy getting whatever it is they receive, and if they are ungrateful they don't deserve anything in my book.
2007-10-02 05:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Gift playing cards are high-quality items. I bought a couple of whilst I bought married and I was once simply as comfortable as though I had obtained an genuine gift. Plus, it is alot less complicated to get a present card for any individual you do not know very good.
2016-09-05 14:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
General rule of thumb is to spend approximately as much as it costs them for you to attend the wedding.
I think that the scrapping booking idea is great. I am sure that the bride will love it. Putting in time and effort always means more.
If the engaged couple are very low on funds and need things from their registry though, I would go with the traditional spending limit ( depends on you and your b/f's financial situation as well).
Whatever you decide, I am sure will be fine. You know both the bride and groom better than any of us do. Maybe ask some other people who are close to the bride and groom as well, to see what they think. Good Luck.
2007-10-02 04:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by GoldenButterflyKisses 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think that's a perfect gift on it's own. I just recently got married and I would have loved to have received a gift with that much thought into it! Mostly I just received cash, which is nice, but it also means that no one wanted to put the time into actually buying a gift. A handmade gift is a wonderful idea!
2007-10-02 04:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Melanie 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Honestly....
If you can afford a regular gift I think you should get them one. It's one thing if you can't afford anything else other than you scrapbooking page but one framed page isn't really much at all. If you were going to go that route I think you would need to do something like offer to scrapbook the whole wedding album.
Not a single person who knows me would classify me as "materialstic and calculative" as one judgemental poster has suggested but you are really close with these people and scrapbooking just might not be their thing. My aunt makes homemade cards and everybody loves to get them but wouldn't consider that a gift in and of itself.
2007-10-02 05:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
I think that it's not enough. The framed gift can be from you but he should be spending quite a bit more for something additional since he is in the wedding. At least $100.
2007-10-02 05:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think it is a lovely thing to give the newlyweds, but I'm with your BF that it should be paired up with something else (or even cash).
I spend months hand-making some things (I knit and cross-stitch) and while the sentimental value can never be estimated, I often use the hand-made items as a supplement to another gift. Or give my hand-made items as little token "Thank You" type gifts.
I realize the time, effort and expense can still be significant for handmade items, but for a wedding, I would definitely add something to it.
2007-10-02 05:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋