Is it too late to change the way she views me?.......?

Question

I'm 19 years old, and I have been friends with this girl who I like A LOT but she just likes me as a friend. I'm not bad looking, but she and I have a lot of different opinions about things. Another thing that I think is ruining my chances is that she views me as a Really quiet nice guy. She said today that I was way too shy and she dosen't like shy people because she likes to have feedback on what she says. It bugs me because she has seen my crazy fun talkative side and yet she still thinks I'm too shy and she makes me feel like I'm boring because of this. Whenever I am outgoing I don't think she takes me seriously because she might think I'm trying to impress her. How can I go about being the fun crazy guy that I am without being annoying? I really like this girl and we have been friends for about a year and we have a lot good crazy memories. Serious answers only please

thanks

Answer 1

The thing is, on the occasions when you're being outgoing you ARE trying to impress her, so it comes across that way. Your question is an age-old dilemma for guys: how to get out of the "friend zone" once you're in there. There aren't any easy answers because for every friendship that blossoms into a full-blown love affair there's another guy hopelessly stuck in friend obscurity, never to be heard from again. Frankly, I don't think any guy knows any more about this issue than you do, but I think if you're even to have a shot at turning this around you have to change the way you see this woman, at least on some level. You probably have her up on a pedestal, and make her larger than life in your mind. This in turn causes you to put her outside of your own reach. So, try attenuating your focus of her a bit so that you'll see her more realistically. The more realistically you see her, the more realistically you'll respond to her. I wish you much luck with this, and while we're at it, how about wishing ME some luck with this, too?

Answer 2

I think u need to tell her that sometimes u arent quite all the time and u might be different sometimes. im the same way and things have always worked 4 me. U should try something, like either ask her out, or try to show her that u can be different. Hope this helps :)