Couple A was invited. Couple A threw a fit that their adult children couple B need to be invited. After two cancellations, couple B would be invited but it's too close to the wedding now to send another invite. So I called couple B and they have not returned my call. Couple A sent back their RSVP card but I was told that they WILL NOT come (from my fiance's mom) without couple B since they don't drive.
So Do I-
1. Keep Calling Couple B to come.
(couple B and A live in the same house)
Or
2. Say Screw it and just Toss out Couple A RSVP and hope they don’t show.
If your answer is 1, how many times do you call before your like screw it!?
These are my fiancé Uncle’s family that he hasn’t seen in 5 years- they came by that one time in 5 years to show off their brand new truck and the time before that makes it 10.
So we don’t care if they come or not. I think they are not returning my call so they can show me just how insulted they are.
2007-10-02 04:35:26 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Couple B was not on B list, we had no back up invites. We were never planning on inviting them.
2007-10-02 05:36:50 · update #1
It's a $100 per person, there is no having extras, this isn't a outside party.
2007-10-02 06:31:38 · update #2
2. Toss out their RSVP. And toss their phone number. Forever.
People who "threw a fit" wrangling an invitation for someone else are not good people -- especially when those someone elses obviously don't want to attend that badly, seeing as they haven't called back.
With the date getting so close, you have too much on your mind to be stressing over this.
2007-10-02 04:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Donna 2 · 13⤊ 0⤋
(Im married). Calling once is sufficient. It's rude to not call back. Especially with family. It should be appreciated that you are very busy, and that you provided everything necessary to make RSVP'ing as easy as possible. So they are being stupid, inconsiderate and rude. You would be surprised how many peoples guts I HATED when I was wedding planning (HAHAHAHA), I got married in August, and to put it in perspective for you, it doesn't matter to me now.... But weddings are so stressful. Because this is family, and I know you said they aren't close family, but be the bigger person and try one more time to make amends. So you know, you did everything you could. Then, let it go. Really. They are wrong. You aren't. PS - I'm not trying to be a jerk, but maybe you could have called them prior and said "I am going to be sending out my wedding invites soon, and I just wanted to let you know, as much as we wanted to, we are not able to invite adult children because of _______. I hope this doesn't give you the impression that we don't value all of our family. It was a really hard decision. Maybe we can all get together after things settle down." Or something like that - I guess you COULD have done that - But don't beat yourself up about it..
2007-10-02 04:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl, you getitng married you don't have time to be chasing behind ppl. So _____ em! (fill in the word of your choosing). U have other things to be worrying about. If it mattered to them at all they would have returned the damn RSVP or answer the phone. Move on or let your fiance track them time don't stress out over mess like that. And Couple A is completely wrong because its your wedding so u can invite who U want.
2007-10-02 04:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by Miss. K 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you've already put forth enough effort with this. I say either you or your fiance should call once more and leave a message that says if you don't hear back from couple B by X date about their attendance, you'll assume that none of them are coming because you don't have the space to keep open for possible attendees. End it by saying that you'd love for them to come but that if you don't hear from them, you'll assume they aren't coming and that you understand. If you keep a (relatively) nice tone, it really just makes them look like idiots about being so petty. You've tried to accommodate them and now they're just being difficult. You've got too much else to do, and I imagine that no one will be any worse off if they don't show!
2007-10-02 06:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let your fiance handle it, if it's his family. If the couples live in the same house, you can also always tell couple A that couple B is invited to come (they'll pass the message along.) This just seems like mess up in communication. If you want them to come, so that there's no hard feelings or anything, have your fiance call them and ask them to come (or your fiance's mom - she can explain you did try to call). If you two really don't care, as seems to be the case, and since you never invited couple B in the first place, then just accept couple A's decline to come to the wedding and have your wedding without them.
2007-10-02 04:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
It seems that you've made plenty attempts to see if they were coming, plus you were kind enough to invite them in the first place. I'd say forget about them. You have more important things to worry about, than whether or not these immature adults will be attending the wedding. Stop stressing over it and start enjoying the rest of your wedding planning!
2007-10-02 04:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Three phone calls about 3-4 days apart, and then leave it alone. If they are going to act that way, do you really want them at the wedding?! It sounds like the invite was a courtesy anyways.
2007-10-02 06:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
screw it. its your wedding and you dont have to invite anyone that you dont want to. i would call couple a and tell them that you need a head count now, and since couple b hasnt returned your calls that they are not being counted. you will not be sending them a formal invite as well. if couple a is coming then they need to make that decision now regardless of if couple b comes, being that its your money and you need to know how much you need to spend and how many place settings you need. give them a strict deadline to tell you. i would also mention to them that its your wedding and you didnt appreciate them forcing another couple on you and that if they dont want to come to the wedding then just dont come.
2007-10-02 05:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Obviously they're just trying to get as much drama going as they possibly can -- guess we've all got a few rats in the woodwork when it comes to these kind of family members. I'd say screw 'em -- besides, with this much drama already, what's gonna happen when they get to the wedding??? Probably nothing but chaos, just to "prove their point" -- do you really want that kind of BS at your special event? Not worth it -- we may not be able to choose our family, but we can dang sure choose whether we let them screw up things that are important to us or not.
2007-10-02 04:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by baguzman_1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to say. Every couple has a limited # of people that can attend. You also have those that you invite and they can not make it. My point is don't put to much energy in them. You made the call and leave it at that! Don't let petty people like that bother your wonderful once in a lifetime day...
2007-10-02 04:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by proud_parent 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋