i like this boy that has a gril friend and he has cheated on her with me and i feel bad.
2007-10-02 02:32:08 · 17 answers · asked by i am unknown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You,& him are sad.#
2007-10-02 02:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, did you know he had a girlfriend before you did anything? If so, don't look for pity because you're not going to get it. Anyone who will voluntarily mess around with someone who's already with someone else (even under the pretense they're going to leave them, because 99% of the time, they done - trust me, I've been there) sort of had it coming.
If you didn't know, that's a differant story because he's a really shitty guy then. Obviously he already is if he'll cheat, but, he is a guy.
I would tell her. I don't think cheating is right and if a relationship isn't ending and this intimacy didn't happen on the cusp of that breaking up, it's not right. She should know and have the choice to decide if she wants to be with someone who doesn't deserve her or if she wants to be an idiot and continue to be with a cheat.
Always remember, once a cheat, always a cheat. If he'll cheat on her, he'll sure as heck cheat on you.
2007-10-02 09:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Usual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel bad. You are no better than him. It does not matter if you knew beforehand or not. you know now, so do the right thing for all involved The best thing for you to do is gain some confidence and love for yourself and fellow (wo)man. I know you feel that you need him. But to be honest, you do not want to be with a man such as this. Do not fall into this trap. Learn from your poor decison making and dump him. If he will cheat on her he will also cheat on you. Please do not continue your cycle. What comes around goes around.
2007-10-02 09:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Esi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you feel bad, just don't get yourself in this situation again & everything will be fine.
Now leave them be & hopefully he'll realize he's not ready for a relationship. I mean, if they split, you're not considering going with him, are you?
EDIT!!! I just read your other posts. Grow up and learn how to respect yourself. The question you should be asking yourself is "why do I have such low self-esteem that I keep hooking up with guys that have girlfriends?" You are just as bad, if not worse, than the cheater.
2007-10-02 09:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jennield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you feel bad? is it because you feel guilty? or because you found out about her after you cheated or something? though i don't really know, i imagine you feel guilty. the best thing you can do is confront this girl and explain your side of the story. listening to the guy's side if it was his fault is kind of hard for some.
if you give her your side, you two can be a bit more honest both being women.
2007-10-02 09:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like him and he likes you but, is with someone else. Seems to me like he's having his cake and eating it too. I would tell him that you do not want to be with him anymore until he breaks up with his girl because it was wrong of your both to do what you did. You are getting hurt in the process of him being with her and imagine what she will think if she finds out that you guys did that. She will be hurt as well. Be honest but, don't continue to mess around with him, you will get attached and be upset even more because he's not really with you. I hope this helps. Take care
2007-10-02 09:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by smalltalk4you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I think you have to get out of that relationship... Remember the risk: once a cheater, always a cheater. No, it may not be true, but that's enough for me to remember!
It's unfortunately that it seems you have feelings for one another, but that really must end. He should tell his gf what happened and be honest with her at all costs!
You should move on and find someone more worthy and honest!
2007-10-02 09:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Curious Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved! Cut ties with him now. This guy is obviously a jerk cause if he cheated on his girl....he's gonna do the exact same thing to you once something more interesting come along!
2007-10-02 09:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by SuZe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you feel bad. boo hoo. What a crock. Oh what a victim, feeling all sorry for yourself. You did it, you jerk.
Feel guilty about it and move on. Be a better person in the future and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Listen to Jesus
2007-10-02 09:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better STAY AWAY from both of them....
'cause it doesn't make sense if you continue to be the "second" girl friend....i know you like him and that's hard for you...but unfortunatley it's your only opinion now...
let him now to choose...if he really deserves you he'll do all his best to be with you.
hope this can help you
2007-10-02 09:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him cos if he could cheat on his girl friend with u,that means he would cheat on you in future!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-02 09:48:51 · answer #11 · answered by Hally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋