Why is it I keep hearing women complaining about how they can't find a nice guy and they only find assholes...we do exist and we try hard to keep ourselves the "nice" guy but it's hard when every girl we get with play head games and cheat and do whatever possible to hurt us. My questions is why do we always hear you complain about there not being any nice guys but when you find one we get treated like dirt...?
2007-10-02 02:30:24 · 21 answers · asked by sakrificetheory 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you let them treat you like dirt thats why. yeah we love nice guys but not doormats
2007-10-02 02:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by million$? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women like assholes because they are a bit of a challenge and they find nice guys too much of a walkover.You can be a nice guy but also be a little bit firmer and not put up with certain treatment.
2007-10-02 02:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Paws 'n' Claws 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to answer this. I know you ask for a ladies advice but sometimes a man to man talk works wonders.
When you think of what a woman wants, you got to think "tug-o-war". Woman like to be challenged sometimes with the bad boy image. This does not mean you have to become one. Instead of emphazising the word NICE, use other words to describe yourself, such as adventurous, salsa dancer, hot shot in the trading floor...Anything that inspires more to you than just NICE. Are you catching my drift?
We all need variety in life and just being nice might not be a good choice of word for describing yourself as it might describe someone monotonous, boring, etc...
I hope this advices helps out somewhat. Good luck! And if things do not work out, just remember there is a lot more fish in the ocean!
2007-10-02 02:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by CHEPIBE72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every girl wants a 'good' guy .. but in reality every girl also wants a 'bad' boy too .. i think most girls just end up being used to the bad type because a lot of guys out there don't know how to treat a girl .. and usually end up treating them like crap .. but the unusual part is most girls like it in a wierd way .. i like both because you don't want too much of a nice guy .. but u deffinitly don't want a guy that will treat u like ur worthless .. i don't mind inperfection so that's what i go by .. girls find weakness .. and when guys are too easy or way too nice they will step on them .. that's why men need to step their game up .. just a/b where they have some say also
2007-10-02 02:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bella Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there has to be some kind of line between nice and a**hole. You can't be so nice that the girl feels she can just run over you. You will find the right one. Just don't waste too much time on the one you know is the wrong one.
2007-10-02 02:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the flip side of the matter is that many guys seem to only want hot, super-model clones and not be interested in regular looking girls & I could pose the question to you, Why do all guys think they are worthy only of supermodels?
I think for both sides is that, no matter how "nice" someone is, male or female, if there is no physical attraction, no connection will be made.
2007-10-02 02:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not all girls are like that, sure~ but when girl are complaining, like me, we're like talking about why cant we find the right guy! it's a sad matter not an angry mob kind of thing... Not all girls are like that okay? Lets just say where you are, girls are just different from where i live, hey i'm a girl and you dont see me complaining ^-^. It's a normal thing, some girls just aren't actting mature >_< don't worry about that.
2007-10-02 02:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by x_keke_x2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude you asking this question kinda makes you seem ecotistical like a bastard. you saying you are a nice guy is according to your own opinion. honestly its a ***** eat nice things world. you kinda ahve to be mean or at least overly confident ton get a girls attention then when your dating show her the nice side. so dont be nice be an *** hole for a lil bit. but dont get sucked into it cause thats how the cool nice guys lose the coolness. oh and dont do drugs haha.
2007-10-02 02:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by drumless30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you are hurting . I'm so sorry that you have had such bad experiences !
I have found a wonderful partner and we treat each other with love and respect ---even when one of us is acting like an "a$-----"
There are many good and decent people out there just waiting to find each other .
Take your time ----someone wonderful is waiting just for you !
2007-10-02 02:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're talking to two different groups of women...
one group is the really great gals, many of whom don't have a good self-concept, and are distressed by the men who are jerks.
the other group is the game players, who like the male jerks, do not value their relationship partners.
The gals who are complaining about mistreatment are NOT the same gals who mistreat their male partners.
2007-10-02 02:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude..girls dont like nice guys..and if your so nice then you dont think your self as being nice..I am sorry..my brother thinks he is a nice..but in reality he is not..hell I am not a nice guy...I have done time..wake up and deal with the reality..if your going after girls that on the whorish side they dont want some wimp they want a pimp...good luck..on your quest ..as for me...I like to pay for mine..no head games..just head...
2007-10-02 02:34:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋