Say you had known each other casually beforehand? Would you feel rejected if she didnt want to do it on 1st date and just said 'not now' ? Like say you really like her, would you just think 'ah , she's not that into me or she wouldnt be able to resist' or ' she's obviously not a sexy girl'. And then just leave it..not want to call her etc?
2007-10-02 01:40:04 · 25 answers · asked by Stefania 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most people buy into at least the 3 date rule I think
2007-10-02 01:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your hurry?
Think about it, if she had slept with you straight away, would you be thinking she is 'easy'? The fact that she is making you wait means she has self respect (saying 'not now' is not a flat refusal, she is thinking about it) and hopefully you will have respect for her by being patient.
Don't blow a potentially great relationship because this woman won't give you the goodies right away, when she is ready the wait will have been worthwhile.
2007-10-02 01:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by cadenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she may not want to have sex because she does not want to be used. I mean just ask the gal what she thinks about sex in a relationship, it's just that easy. If she gives you an answer you don't like, then you guys can sort it out like adults to see what's in store for the future.
I know it's easier to say than do, but just do it and see. I mean why must you have sex now, sheesh. Do you want to go in it that bad lol? Do you care about her mind or her body the most?
2007-10-02 02:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by danie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldnt be able to resist, haha you are obviously into yourself that is off putting for a start.
Give the girl a chance, you would probably call her a trollop if she had slept with you, be patient.
2007-10-02 01:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think its a good thing it shows ur not a pushover, i was with my gf a month before we did it so if hes really into u he will wait, if he wont then hes not worth it neway, if anything it should make him want it more, however dont be surprised if its all over quickly when u do decide to do it as the sexual tension will have built up and most guys dont deal with that too well lol not meof course lmao jus kidding
2007-10-02 01:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by skindiana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect her ten folds more then if she had put out on the first date.
In fact, if she had put out on the first date I would definitely not enter into a serious relationship with her.
Sometimes I use that as a test.
Just think, if she gives it away that easily for you on the first date, can you really trust her to be faithfull?
2007-10-02 02:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It dosent mean she ,dosen't want you , SEX is on a totaly diffrent level, all becuase uve known eachother as people casuslty has nothing to do with the fact that your PRIVATE PARTS have the same realationship(kindergarden style "are your private parts friends, did you build a friendship with her intimatily(, thats how we think guy , all women arent HOES you should be impressed by her ;)
2007-10-02 01:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by KayB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have more respect for a woman who respects herself enough not to just fall into bed with me and at least tries to be decent.
Why would you want to sleep with someone you barely know?
If youre upset coz u didnt have sex,youre dating her for the wrong reasons...
2007-10-02 01:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by jancoetzee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good sign. Personally I don't expect a girl to go to bed with me on the first date.
2007-10-02 01:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that is perfectly normal behavior, and I would ask her out again. On the contrary, I would have my doubts about a girl who is ready to go to bed with me on a first date.
2007-10-02 01:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋