ok my ex dumped me 3.5 months ago because she thought i had given up on our relationship witch is not true but that’s how she felt...witch i think was just a miss understanding in both our parts...well after she dumped me we talked for the first 10 days and then i cut communication and all contact with her because she got a new boy friend rite away and well I figured she dumped me for him....anyways she would always message me on msn and call but i would never reply....until Thursday we were talking and i figured out that she really misses me...she told me she missed me and she was crying and she told me that she can't move on with her life without me in it and that she NEEDS me in it...now my question is was this guy just a rebound and she wants me but needs time or is it truly over because I love her so much and we dated for 3 years 9 months and I’m only 19 and she's 18...should we slowly start to talk again? what would u do?
THANKS
and she's still with him
p.s. I’m best friends with her bro and
slept over there last night and woke up for work at 630 and she was also getting ready for work, and in a very interested conversation making voice she said. You work 2day and all i said was yes and she asked me if i wanted her to make me something to eat...I don’t just more details
2007-10-02 01:39:02 · 8 answers · asked by Nanonan m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she wants to repair your relationship, then the other guy should not even be in the picture. I don't know if she is just playing around, but she'll have to make up her mind and prove to be trustworthy.
2007-10-02 01:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by VW 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you you and ex broke up, you did the right thing....You eventually cut communication off with her and ignored her.
You see you created for yourself to her that you were moving on with your life, you created scarcity, jealousy and even a greater attraction for you.
When you were together with her I bet you were like a wuss..meaning you were clingy, always there, always doing things for her, eventually became a yes man. After a period of time women get bored, take advantage and lose that attraction for that man... (Mr. nice guy).
When you stopped communicating with her and not being there and always available to her...you were now scarce in her life and she missed that..also you were moving on with your life and maybe she knew about you dating others...which sparked that jealousy emotion. You must also remember that people want what they can't have.
The other guy that she was dating was a rebound..but she was also looking for that spark and attraction she had for you when you guys were first dating. Now you've created that attraction and she wants you back. You see, If you had begged her back and cried and kept chasing her, you would have pushed her further away from you and she wouldn't want you. (But you did the opposite, which was Great!) Do this with any & all future relationships, and women will have a hard time leaving you again.
Everything that I mentioned aboved created attraction for you and she is now chasing you and want you back... Now the ball is in your court.. you can take the relationship any direction you want....you are now in control.
Remember do not go back to being super Mr. Nice Guy... be a man and live your life and do you. (You can be nice, but never be a _ussy. Do not live through her again...if you do she will feel that you are not man enough, she lose that attraction, and will leave you again.
2007-10-02 09:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to go back to this girl for starters she needs to dump re-bound man. Secondly and honestly it sounds almost as though she thought the grass would be greener and its not that way so now shes realizing what she had. Dont let anyone manipulate you and you become the guy she comes to when she needs something because she knows your down to do it. Dont allow her to have her cake and eat it to. If she loves you shes going to have no problem nipping that other relationship in the bud and taking things slow but i suggest you tread lightly because something about her from what youve described doesnt inspire trust.
2007-10-02 08:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Queen of the Scene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well not to rag on this girl but she seems to want her cake and eat it, she cant have you and this other guy can she? i mena you guys are still young, so maybe you should try just being friends for a while and see how things go. bottom line: if she really misses you, why is she with another guy? i hope it works out well for you, just dont get into a relationship you dont want to be in.
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2007-10-02 08:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by deceborg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's been with this guy for 3 and a half months now? doesn't sound like just a rebound. ask her what she's on about being with him. and tell her that if she plans on staying with him, stop playing with your heart and just let you move on, because if she does go back and forth, that's not fair to you.
2007-10-02 08:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont think you should go back out with her.
trust me. if it happened once, whose to say it wont happen again? and if she KNOWS that she can come back to you, then there is more of a posibility that she will dump you again for another guy on a whim.
2007-10-02 08:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Almay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow or you will get hurt again. she is just keeping you around in case the other one doesnt work out.
2007-10-02 08:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm bit long winded lost track!
she sounds a bit immature, move on she will only mess you around.
2007-10-02 08:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋