I've just had one more disappointing experience with a guy. I'm a woman in her early 40s and I cannot figure out why I keep meeting nice guys but getting disappointed after we date a little bit. What is the problem? I've had 2 long term relationships but in the end, I knew it was not satisfying enough for life, so we ended. Then, and I'm talking specifically about the most recent guy..I was crazy about him but he doesn't seem to feel that way..he likes me, but doesnt have the passion I have. Can it be so difficult to get love? I'm goodlooking, have a great body, good personality and job. I'm independent and not 'actively looking' for a guy, therefore I'm content alone but I'm human and need love. Lots of guys are attracted to me. Someone please advise. I started wondering, am I gay but I'm not because Im not attracted to women.
2007-10-02 01:24:19 · 17 answers · asked by profe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
additional: im a female
2007-10-02 02:07:14 · update #1
i am contactable by email now if anyone wants to share some thoughts with me.
2007-10-02 02:08:40 · update #2
Just take a long break and stay off from women and men is a NO No.
2007-10-02 01:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by $Mafia Girl$ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hey you have a lot more going for you than alot of people, "good looking,great body,lots of guys attracted to you!"
Maybe you just haven't met the right guy yet. Which doesn't mean you are unlucky in love. Just that you have not met the right one yet. And I am sure you will. Maybe things will work out with this guy. But if they don't you will meet the right guy and things will all fall into place. You will feel happy and satisfied. Because you will both be in love with each other, and you won't be disappointed.
Best wishes:)
2007-10-02 02:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Forgetmenotshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're good looking, have a great body, with good personality & job... so can i just ask.. do you set high expectation on your life partner?? Like wanting him to be as good lookin, with great build, personality n job?
I mean you ended 2 long term relationship coz you thought it wasnt satisfying enough for life... n wat's so not satisfying enough?? If you could lower your standards.. would you feel a little more satisfied?
Nobody is perfect.. it's definitely impossible to find someone that will meet all your needs n expectations.. so..
None the less.. i'll still wish you good luck in finding that special one soon.. ;)
2007-10-02 01:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lost the ability to love. I have fallen in love before, but nobody ever loved me back, in fact most girls hated me with a passion. 2 months ago I decided love will do nothing more than weaken you, and ruin your life. I've been through too much sh¡t to love again. Never had a relationship, never will. I still have emotion though I'm not a sociopath! The saddest part is I'm only 16.
2016-05-19 00:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it so difficult to build a long term (life long) relationship but don't think that it is impossible.
Wise men always advised to hide once passion partially because a man always looking for something new!!! So if they findout everything transparent and can see through you they starting feel boaring.
Now what would be the point you will make interesting to them is upto you but make sure you have to disclose it,however it would take a life long time!!!!
2007-10-02 01:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by friendly enmity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just going through a rough patch with guys right now. YOu just have to keep getting out there and fgiving it a try. Dont ever become discouraged. You have just picked some stinker lately. That doesnt mean a thing. Keep trying and you will eventually find the right guy. GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-02 01:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Theresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the "bad news", you are never going to find the PERFECT guy, they do not exist. But, if you have confidence in yourself (which it sounds like you do from your self-description), then you WILL find a guy that IS perfect for YOU!!!
After reading your description I have to wonder if you live near me, (hope, hope).
Many men are attracted to women they consider to be physically attractive, yet they do not believe that there is MORE to the lady than her looks. So when they do start dating her.........and find out that she does have a mind, that she is independent.............they tend to get "cold feet" about the relationship the two of you have.
I know it is hard, but be patient. You deserve to have happiness in your love life, to deprive yourself of that is what leads couples to "doubt" their relationships..........causing them to become dissatisfied and miserable.
Good Luck!
2007-10-02 02:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by redheadedstepchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate to your situation. I often feel jinxed too. But i try to keep my chin up and i believe that the one for me is out there somewhere. You know what they say...you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. We all need love but i intend to hold on for the right one, i ain't settling for anything less and neither should you. He's out there somewhere. Good luck. xxx
2007-10-02 01:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by moonworshipper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that there might be something wrong with you. Perhaps you're being attracted to the wrong kind of guys, or maybe you have expectations that no one can live up to. Some personal counseling may be in order for you.
2007-10-02 01:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try both - man and a woman - best of both worlds.
Life is what you make it - you can't make someone feel the same way as you do - unfortunately.
Open up your email - you;ll get loads of responses and offers
2007-10-02 01:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you least expect it to happen, that's when you'll meet someone. In the meantime, just be happy to date a variety of men (dating does not mean sleeping with).
2007-10-02 01:28:20 · answer #11 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋