My mother is now away from me. As child I was the one with the beat with a stick and never given time alone with father to see all the family together. I am now pruod father and not wanting to make same mistake I have very close with my 2 beatiful daughter.
My mother is in my dream for long days now. I will call her if it please me but i feel the hurt now after this many tears. Sometimes i see her head in the dustbin. she is cold. i did not want her this way but she carried on hurting me. Will i now have peace to my heart.?
2007-10-02 00:53:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
whether good or bad a your mother will still be your mother. no one else will. please just forgive her no matter what happened in the past but make sure she understands how you want her to treat you know.
if by any chance (God forbide) your mother dies today you will regret it for the rest of your life why you never made peace with your mother. do it to put your heart at ease believe me if she were to pass away you will never be in peace..
rest you heart now...... you have suffered too much and i know your mum is suffering too now because she already lost you... at least let her also be at ease. yes it is difficult but time heals and you still have time to make things right... please do so... make peace with her..
2007-10-02 01:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by baby gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, thank you for wanting to be a good and attentive father to your daughters and husband to your wife.
Sadly what is past - is gone. I don't know if you believe in the judeo-christian testaments - and that doesn't matter, really. But i suggest you read the book of Genesis anyway - it's pretty powerful stuff. Begin in Chapter 18 - and read the story about Sodom and Gomorrah. Most importantly, read about what happened to Lot's wife. She was expressly told NOT to look back - but she did - and was turned into a pillar of salt. Actually, she didn't really turn into a pillar of salt - but rather she turned into a bitter, mean-spirited, dried up old hag who lived with regret for the rest of her life. In truth, I would have rather turned into a pillar of salt.
But the warning is still there - if you continuously look back at the past - then you too will live your life filled with regret and emptiness. And you too would wish to be a pillar of salt.
All you can do is put this in its proper perspective. God (or however you address Him) does things in His own way. A lot of times He makes good out of evil. Such as in your case. Look at it this way - from your parents' abuse - you have learned how to be a good father and husband. And your children and wife will benefit from your hard-won lessons.
And for that - you are truly blessed.
2007-10-02 01:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sad for you god is with you just say a prayer that you dont want the thoughts each time they come to mind and they will go.....otherwise write down what bothers your mind and tie it to your arm then cut it off (not your arm) the letter put it in a bowl and burn it then scatter it away from your home the thoughts will be banished i was told this yesterday in glastonbury as i wanted a thought out of my head.....i havent done it yet so let me know if it works
2007-10-02 01:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by rosina103@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control what your Mother did or didn't do for you. You need to let it go. If you let it go and learn to love and forgive and forget what she did then you'll be a better person for it. Let it go in your mind and your heart because whether you know ir or not this woman still has control over you. Let it go.
Good Luck
2007-10-02 01:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by Linda S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WTF speak english lol??
2007-10-02 01:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋