I've been noticing a lot of huggy people recently. I think they're a bit weird. I've always thought hugs were supposed to be special and intimate, but all these people keep hugging me, and it's turning me on when I don't want to be turned on.
I just wish they could either shake my hand or something and be friendly, or just skip the niceness and give me a damn good seeing to.
Actually, scrap the last one. There's a ring missing from my finger. Needs to be there before I even THINK of stripping off for anyone.
So in a way, these prolific huggers make me very nervous indeed. Being from the country, I'm not used to all this tactile behaviour.
Is there anyone I can complain to?
Don't get me wrong, I know it's just friendly and loving, but it makes me feel awkward, especially when I get so....charged by some random stranger.
Even THINKING of the next hug is making me need a cold shower and a 'lie down'.
2007-10-02 00:51:46 · 14 answers · asked by Binary Purple 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Oh thank you so VERY much, HBR2. After reading your answer about open up, come to enjoy, and then a HUG to top it off....
now I gotta go change.
You are one mean, mean bunny
2007-10-02 01:10:30 · update #1
want a hug-lol-sorry but i just dont see a problem here-should be able to turn down any hugs you dont want-and really dont see anything wrong with you enjoying the physical sensation of being hugged-------enjoy the day
2007-10-02 00:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by lazaruslong138 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. People need to respect other people's space. When some one comes at me to hug me I just put my hands up to block them and then offer my hand to them for a handshake. Another thing you can do is not hug back just stand there stiff with your arms at your sides.
My director at work is normally the ice queen. She's a cold evil, manipulating, self centered, egotistical, cantankerous woman. But suddenly, the day before Christmas she wants to go around hugging every one at the office. Well, when she got to me she received a pretty cold response and she's never hugged me since.
(I forgot two adjectives - She's heartless and cruel in addtion to all of the above.)
2007-10-02 01:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by tas211 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand it. If you're not my chick or my mother, then don't hug me. I didn't grow up in a touchy-feely environment, so I find it very uncomfortable when people I barely know touch me. I also can't stand people who feel the need to say the words "I love you" 300 f'n times a day. Loses its meaning after a while.
2007-10-02 01:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you are like me I don't want anyone getting into my personal space. A hug from family or close friend is fine but not just anyone . My husband's cousin use to give me a hug every time he came over I hated it I think he was just trying to cop a feel.
2007-10-02 00:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't always about getting your *ahem* 'delights'. There is a love that should be shared by everyone. A simple case of respect and compassion, that these hugs symbolise.
As for you getting 'charged' by it, I think that's more of a psychological barrier.
You really should think about opening yourself up a bit more and becoming more receptive. Maybe you will come to enjoy the closeness and unity, instead of resenting the intimacy that is not actually intended.
((((hugs))))
May peace go with you throughout your life
2007-10-02 01:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bunny Hugs 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
OK, How about if I just give you a friendly punch in the shoulder? LOL
BB,
Raji the Green Witch
2007-10-02 03:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cold shower is the problem. If you never shower, no one will hug you.
2007-10-02 00:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You seem to mix with only the touchy-feely types
Don't even think about complaining or making a fuss.
Get used to them or move on
2007-10-02 00:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, but writing too many love letters can cause people to become one and become mentally depressed.
2007-10-02 00:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by American Dissenter 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I almost had three nervous breakdowns but I will survive.
2007-10-02 00:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Max R Waller 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋