They try to help w the baby but it getts on my nerves i wanna do it on my own but they interfeir. What should i do?
2007-10-01 21:08:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your in the best possible situation. Be thankful your parents are there to help you out. Maybe try and talk to them (maturely) about how you need to parent your child. I do agree a mother needs to learn and parent themselves, any outside influence can do more harm then good, but being that your single, having family support is a GREAT THING.
2007-10-05 19:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are low income housing programs all over the US. Get ahold of your local Family Services and see what they have available as far as listings of agencies. You could also look for a roommate and rent a house where you could live together and share expenses. If you can find another single mother with a child, then you can rent a 3 bedroom place and put the kids together and you each have a room. Then split all the expenses down the middle. Or, as a last resort, can you move out of LA and to a town away where the rent is cheaper? There are also programs where first time home buyers can qualify for buying a home that is based on your income. Check around and I know you can fidn help somewhere.
2016-05-18 23:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell them, politely that you understand that they are trying to help, and have been through all this before, but you can handle it, and take care of the baby, but that you appreciate how helpful they are trying to be.
Often grandparents tend to overstep bounds simply because they want to help their child out with their own baby, having been around the block so to speak when it comes to child rearing, they aren't generally trying to do it to bother you, but rather show you something you may not have known, much like they didn't when they first had you.
2007-10-01 21:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you want to do it on your own you need to get your own place, until that time make the most of the help you get because when you really are doing it all on your own it isn't easy. You are lucky to have people offering you so much help.
2007-10-01 22:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by shez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them how much you appreciate their help, but explain that if you don't learn to care for your baby yourself, you will never be able to do it independently.
I'm sure they just want to help you and see you succeed as a parent, but I agree they need to step back a little bit so you can parent your child.
Having said that, let them help a little bit, if they want to, you're lucky to have parents who are there for you!
Good luck, I hope you work it out.
EDIT: How do the people telling her to get a job know she doesn't have one? The question wasn't about finding employment and moving out! God, people are judgemental!
2007-10-02 00:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to do it on your own, get a job and your own place to live. Then you'll be doing it on your own. It can't be done while living with them. It's their house, you're their daughter and that's their grandchild. Are they just supposed to ignore you and the baby? Then they'd be cold and heartless. Can't move out? Then I suggest you see the blessing in front of you - parents that care.
2007-10-01 21:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♪BandMom♪♪ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to back off.It is one thing for them to help out and support but another to take over. Explain nicely and respectively that this is your child and while you appreciate the help you need to be allowed to do as much as you can on your own.
2007-10-05 12:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it. Your child is better off having your parents around to help you. Be grateful that you have the assistance.
While they are willing to help make sure you go out and finish your education.
Make sure you are on reliable birth control as well. No sense adding another child to the mess you've created.
2007-10-02 01:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
gina, the first thing that youre going to do is find a descent job so that you can support your child then leave from your parents house and bring your child with you find someone who can take care of your kid while your away. If you can do that then youre free from your parents...goodluck...
2007-10-01 21:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by torebeo humabon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Mom, Dad, I appreciate all your help, but I'd like to do this on my own so that I can learn to be great parents like you. I'm so glad I live with you because I know if I need help, you guys are here for me."
2007-10-01 21:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋