Our daughter started kindergarten a month ago and a boy with a record of problems and bullying was reseated next to her. At first he was just mean, i.e. erasing pictures, small punches, kicks, etc. Then one day he grabbed her wrist and poked her three times with a pair of opened scissors. Then he cut off a few inches of her hair. School principle and administrators have no plan to remove him citing his 'right to and education'. We are networking with parents, lawyers, media, anything to get this kid out. We think he obviously needs a special setting or help of some sort. But the school is steadfast saying we can move our kid if we want. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as we are both highly disgusted, pissed and at our wits end. Thank you.
2007-10-01 19:16:05 · 14 answers · asked by RoyP 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
sounds like you are doing the right thing. it's obvious that the child ISN'T getting a FAPE since he's disturbed and can't handle himself in class - the school is responsible for his behavior and should have something in place to deal with this type of behavior. Your daughter has the exact same right to a free appropriate public education as that student. sounds like the school needs to realize that as well.
2007-10-01 23:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by People for the Ethical Treatment of Vegetables 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, the old "right to an education", goes along w/ "right to transportation". No kidding. Kid can bring a knife on the bus and he just gets moved to a PRIVATE bus.
Document everything - every day write down what little Damien says and on the bad days send a note (or email) to the teacher and principal inquiring about the incident and asking for her to be moved to a seat AWAY from this child. (This is probably the best you can get this year - a seat away from him).
You could try one polite inquiry w/ his parents "Angel says Damien stabbed her with scissors yesterday. Could you ask him to keep his hands to himself?"
You could also ask the other parents if their children are reporting the same behavior - if enough parents complain you might get some action.
Many school districts have a social worker on staff. Get an appointment with her and ask what you can do to keep your daughter safe. Key word: SAFE. They will not be able to tell you what punishment (if any) this child gets for his actions, and they certainly can't tell you if he rates an IEP (Individualized education plan), so you'll have to spend some frustrating time in the dark about ongoing action.
I sympathize. Our little bully now has his own personal aide who accompanies him every day. But my girls are safe from him. My tax dollars at work!
2007-10-01 23:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by DaisyCake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be angry too! I think if you already have parents, lawyers and media on it, there is not much else to do but wait. The bully may have rights to an education but so does your daughter. She shouldn't have to go to school every day afraid of what he might do next. I could just see this kid bringing a knife or gun to school one day. They should sit him in a corner by himself where he can't bother others and disrupt other children's learning. My daughter isn't in school yet but I worry about her going to school when she gets to that age. My best friend's daughter's school had a bomb threat the other day. It is so scary to think of your child in a situation that you have no control over. I really hope you can get this worked out and I think the school and administration owes your family and especially your daughter an apology.
2007-10-01 19:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I am sorry you and your daughter are having to go through this at such an early stage in her education. STAY INVOLVED! Your daughter has a right to an education without having to fear her classmates, too! Everyone has a superior, If the teacher and principal refuse to intervene, call the superintendant's office. If they don't help, call your elected officials on the school board and at the state level. That boy has crossed the line from bullying to assault with a deadly weapon and that needs to be dealt with now, not after he seriously injures someone. Most of all, continue to support your daughter so she doesn't become afraid of learning. Move her if that is possible, you shouldn't have to, but she needs to know she is safe.
2007-10-01 19:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Judy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you daughter is only 7 you need to intervene asap. I wouldnt send her to school until this is sorted, or speak to an older child whom can stay with her in the playground, as she is so young and can damage her confidence etc so much. Go and see the head master again and tell them you are not sending your daughter until this is sorted, he needs to sort it asap, or YOU will see the parents yourself and take it much higher. The poor girl is 7 and should NOT be treated this way, she doesnt really understand whats going on and may think its her fault, you need her to be a confident little girl. I was bullied at 11 and that was bad enough, and has always stayed with me. Luckily enough tsomehow he older children at the school found out about this and actually beat him up and the bullies father was called up the school and believe me, he got punished. She is too young to stand up for herself and needs the school to do something. Surely the bruises is proof enough. I hope you get this sorted.
2016-05-18 23:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that the child needs some sort of help, because he already has violent tendencies at such a young age. You have every right to be angry about the lack of responsibility the school is taking. You should think about taking your child out of that classroom, or even that school system if that is how they are going to react. While he has a right to an education, your daughter has a right to be safe in her classroom and not be bullied and hurt by someone else.
2007-10-01 19:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That kid isn't right in the mind.
Some schools have problems with dealing with bullying. If they still do nothing about this boy, I suggest you remove your daughter. I had a friend in primary school who was eventually moved to another school after months of abuse because none of the teachers did anything. Bullying is awful.
I do hope your daughter is all right.
2007-10-01 19:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Roofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sort of having the same problem with my daughter. she is in the 2nd grade and there is this lil girl in her class that taught her what a dick was. Talking about being pissed. The only thing the school tells me is that they will make sure they are not in the same class next year. BS what about right now?? Do what you feel is necessary. I can tell you one thing the school system doesn't care.
2007-10-02 00:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by devannichole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think going to the media is a great way to let the school know you mean business. Tell them (media) you may have to consider changing schools. Bullying is a big issue and one being bullied so young is a tragedy, I hope your girl and the bully both get the help they need.
2007-10-01 19:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would file a complaint with the police. Name the school and the "bully"- your child is there to learn, not fear for her life! If the school won't do anything, then I would take it the next higher up- and if they still won't do anything...get a lawyer. Good Luck!
2007-10-02 04:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mars1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋