I know that there are different standards of what is acceptable for different cultures and religious beliefs. For example, the way I was raised, one pretty much suppresses outward show of emotion. I know other cultures that expect and encourage an outward show and there are religious beliefs that tie in with this as well.
What are your views on dealing with grief, how do your beliefs affect this, and do you feel any positives from the way you deal with grief?
2007-10-01 18:58:43 · 12 answers · asked by Jack B, goodbye, Yahoo! 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
To J: Of course I've lost people close to me; you are correct that grief is an emotional torrent, but the ways people deal with that torrent are varied and dependent upon many factors.
Culture and religion play an immeasurable part in shaping the ways one deals with issues such as grief, and this is the focus of the question.
Grief may, as you say, never be lost, but it can become either one's definition or one's motivation, depending on how one deals with it.
2007-10-01 19:22:39 · update #1
We are decendents of diggers and thus we troop on in public ~ sometimes we share our grief in private but only with our most trusted mates.. but never in front of the women or children.
(I rely too much on spell check which seems to have disapeared today).
2007-10-01 19:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother always told us when she passed on to throw a party for her. She didn't want us crying and being sad because she was in a better place. But when she died last year before Christmas, that's exactly what I did. Nonstop for weeks. I could barely function. I still cry whenever I think of her, like now. Grief takes a long time to run it's course, and there's many different ways of dealing with it. What works for one may not work for another.
2007-10-01 19:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Becca 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I used to not be able to grieve right away; it was likely too much for me at the time. But up to a year later, when everything seemed stable and happy, then I'd let loose.
But lately, it's immediate. Tears come, I ache in my chest for days, and I get exhausted. When my mom in law died, I also had no tolerance for people outside of the immediate family, so I was reclusive for a week, until work and life (like needing groceries) forced me out of the house.
My grandfather died friday, and I was pretty much a wreck saturday, but I carried on, because I had to keep my business up and running. Likely it will also catch up with me time and again.
2007-10-01 20:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cheese Fairy - Mummified 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Have you lost anyone close?
Grief is not an intellectual discourse, but a human response to be tragic event. You may be able to suppress the emotion during the funeral, but the lost will be with you every day for the rest of your life.
Answer: True grief is never lost.
2007-10-01 19:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by J. 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You celebrate the person you're grieving over. You reminisce about good times, and speak daily to that person in your thoughts. You embrace the concept of "spirit never dies" and eventually, it's all right, and you smile in rememberance and tribute. It takes time,but you come out the other end. I know, I just went through it. These are positive things to do, and your
broken heart will mend. You'll probably have a few "good cries" ,and let it out when it happens...it's just a tribute to their goodness, and also healthy for healing emotionally and psychologically.
2007-10-01 19:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Recital Vinyliste 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
truthfully? no. i really don't think so. it seems grief is like any other deeply cutting wound. you can stitch it up and put medicated ointment on it, even take something for the pain but the wound will, none the less, take time to heal and sometimes the wound leaves a permanent scar.
2007-10-01 19:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by nebtet 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Culturallly speaking, at funerals, we put on a banquet, much as the Irish do, except without whiskey, we use vodka. Laughter and tears welcome. Taking care of each other is okay.
When someone young dies, it is always very sad. That is one exception. Another is war. War is never a fun way to die. Unless you are a Klingon.
2007-10-01 19:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By allowing the Lord Jesus Christ heal the wounds in my heart. I listen to some good, uplifting Christian music and I start worshiping God. He takes away the hurt and saddness.
2007-10-01 19:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by fairgirlbluezap 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my baby granddaughter died at 11 weeks, I planted a tree for her. Looking out my window I watch it grow.
2007-10-01 19:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete
2007-10-01 19:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋