why is it that i have never fallen in love or no one has ever fallen in love with me? i've always wondered what it felt to love/be loved...to feel butterflies in u'r stomach, to constantly think of that special someone, and all the 'symptoms' of falling in love......
why hasn't it happened to me? i mean, i am not a bad person, really...i'm not. i am driven, determined, kind, compassionate, intelligent, humble, down-to-earth...and other qualities that is generally appealing to those type of guys that would be my better half.
can n e one tell me, without being cynical, why i haven't met mr. wonderful or fallen in love yet???
2007-10-01 18:16:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'll be 23 this month
2007-10-01 18:23:06 · update #1
myspace.com/angelserendipity
am really that horrible? (lol)
2007-10-01 18:25:19 · update #2
Not sure if you want to hear this answer because it involves a bit of work (more or less) on your part. Let me tell you "my" story and see if you want to follow the same direction. The reason I'm building this answer as a slow pace is because of the action I took, TODAY I have 8 children and 7 grand-children.
I used to work a 3 PM to 11PM shift as a clerk. I got burned out with those every-now-and-then dates that were O.K. but there was no spark. Almost like dating my sister. One night in my one bedroom apartment I started taking to God out loud, just like He was a friend who had stopped over for a visit. I told God, if He would help me find "the love of my life", I would marry her and build a family. For 2 weeks I went to 6AM mass. I would show up about 20 minutes early, go up to the 1st row and pray for a wife until the service started.
Long story short... about 2 weeks later I met my Love and we started working right away on our 1st child and had a new blessing about every 2 years.
Not that this story is one of those, "Be carefull what you ask for...". God will find the perfect man for you and put him in your life. Now, "you" have to go to church THIS Sunday. Sit up front. I don't care if you are all by yourself and the next person is 2 or 3 row's back. You stay up on the 1st row, show up early and Pray for about 20 minutes "before" the service starts.
You may have to do this for 10 years...
So what???
10 years of no husband is better than 10 years of hell with the wrong man.
But... I know in the end you'll find "Mr. Wonderful"
And do not assume the every man that comes into you life during all this will be "the-one" because the devil knows what your doing also and will send you a few creeps just to upset your program.
Just hang in there and in the end you know the second your man comes in the room (even before you see him... you'll FEEL him arrive).
And the 1st time he speaks to you, you'll lose your breath, get all messed up in the head, and say all kinds of dumb things.
But, don't worry... He'll love you more for being yourself.
God Bless and name one of you kid's Tom and that will warm my heart.
2007-10-01 19:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by the3rdtom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i figured i'd come check out your question since you just answered mine lol..
anyways.. i tend to be a bit of a cynic with love.. but that's just how i am..
it just hasn't been your time yet.. all the good things in life take time.. maybe you'll be lucky enough to meet him without having to meet all the losers and failed attempts in between..
and you honestly seem like a good person.. from what you've listen you have very good qualities.. and no you're not horrible.. lol.. you're very pretty, have a great complexion and skin tone, and beautiful eyes..
give it a little more time.. you'll eventually get those butterflies.. and when you do i wish you the best and hope it lasts..
2007-10-02 02:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As to why, I can't really say. Give a little, get a little is the rule in this case. You have to give love to someone to expect it in return. Sometimes those expectations are met, sometimes not, but you can't be anxious about that. Be patient, as rushing things will only lead to trouble. Be a friend and let what will happen, happen. Don't give up. Good luck,
2007-10-02 01:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by pmu44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are. There are LOTS of other circumstances that could lead to that. That's not a question that can be answered so easily.
In case you're interested, I belong to a discussion forum where a lot of questions like these are discussed. I have made a lot of friends there, too. If you are curious about the site (yes, it's free), e-mail me, and I will be happy to give you the URL. Spam regulations prohibit me from posting it here.
2007-10-02 01:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least ur not in my shoes. I am in love but he doesn't love me back...not in the same way anyway. I'm 40 and will not likely ever know what it is like to really be loved by a man. .to have a husband... don't be sad. That's just the way it is and I live my life the way I choose.
Think of it this way. No stupid complications, tears,,and all that lovely stuff.
2007-10-02 01:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sadie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will happen in due time don't rush it because you sound like a great person and alot of those special qualities you have can diminish when you just settle for anyone and it isn't love. I wish you the best.
2007-10-02 01:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by G girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you hanging out in places where driven, determined, and intelligent people are hanging out?
I don't know who you are or how old you are, but if you are hanging out in bars, you will NEVER find the one that completes you.
Go to the places that you love, the places that make you feel good about yourself, these are the places you will find your counterpoint! When you LEAST expect it, you will find someone!
2007-10-02 01:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time, one day you will meet the right person. if they made it so easy to meet your one person in life then wouldnt we all be satisfied already??? there would be no adventures in life or any incredible love stories we read or hear about how they found or met there partners. it was never meant to be easy. but it will happen to you. be patient and dont pass up on opportunities it may lead you to your person.
2007-10-02 01:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts like no other to fall for somebody and then realize they don't love you back! So be glad that that's not happening to you at least. Other than that I don't know what to tell ya cuz it hasn't happened to me either.
2007-10-02 01:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Ophelia S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are you? 2nd of all consider yourself lucky, atleast you can say that you were not fooled into thinking you were in love with a phoney!!! Just hold out for the real thing my friend and your time will soon come.
2007-10-02 01:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by cuteness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋