Is it fair for my husband to make me get rid of my dog just because he refuses to get along with him? I think he refuses to get along with him because I got the dog with out telling him and it is just a way to control me. I've had this dog for 5 months and we are very attached to each other. Yes, he growls at my husband when he come near me but my husband antagonizes him and Rocco knows my husband doesnt like him. My husband usually works out of town and hasnt spent much time with the dog. He is home semi-permanently now due to an injury and I'm pregnant. So I feel obligated to end the constant bickering which is affecting my and the babies health by getting rid of the dog.
But, is it fair of him to ask for that?
2007-10-01 18:06:50 · 36 answers · asked by dynamiteholly 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
It wasn't fair of YOU to get a dog and bring it into your JOINT household without asking your husband first. Even if he isn't home much, he should've been part of that decision so the dog would accept him as master as well. I know I sure wouldn't want to come home to a dog that growled and didn't want me there.
If you love your husband, and this is the only problem, I say get rid of the dog. It will only make hubby bitter and angry with you & and the dog if it stays and they continue to fight. If hubby can't act like an adult and treat the dog properly, then it's best to remove the dog from the house before it attacks your husband and all hell breaks loose.
You're going to have your hands full enough with a baby. You don't need to worry about this conflict at the same time. You can always get another dog at a later time.
2007-10-01 20:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Maebnus 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have watched the Dog Whisper and it is a show that actually shows people what they are doing wrong that creates the attitude of the animal. This guy is amazing and he can reform any dog to become a good dog.In situations like this one, most of the time it is because you permit the dog to treat your husband this way. If you did not permit the dog to growl at your husband then your husband and the dog would have a chance to build a good relationship and you could keep both of them. I think that it was selfish of you to get a dog knowing that he did not want a dog, but at the same time I can understand it because you are at home alone a lot of the time and it is so nice to have a friend around like that. So I think that you just need to stop the dog from growling at your husband and once that stops hopefully your husband will start to act more mature and quit teasing the dog and you can become a wonderful family, because every child should have a dog. If the situation is too far out of hand and you live in the U.S. you should go on the internet and see if the Dog Whisper will come to your house and help you train your husband and your dog. Good Luck!
2007-10-01 19:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by gigi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband hates dogs because he had an experience with a dog before. (that is usually the reason why people hate dogs) Talk to him, ask him if he ever had a dog or if he ever had a bad experience with them. Maybe he will tell you, then you will know why he hates them so much. Then try to make dogs seem better. For example, Reasons to have a dog: They are loyal They can be a guard They are a best friend They will never betray you And they will always love you I hope I helped Good luck!
2016-05-18 22:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not fair. But it sounds like he is jealous. In some twisted universe he feels threatened by your love of the dog. I don't think it is fair for him to expect you to get rid of the dog. Dogs are not disposable, you cannot just get rid of them for a dumb reason like that. I know alot of people get a dog or a cat and decide down the road when the puppy or kitten has grown up they don't have much time for them, or when someone decides to have a baby and they often get rid of the dog because they dont' have any more time. Let your husband know he is being immature for thinking he can get you to get rid of that dog. Besides he is going to get better ( injury) someday and I'd think he would appreciate knowing Rocco was home with you and the baby while he is away. He is rediculous.. if he doesnt listen.. tell him he can walk! :)
2007-10-01 18:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your dog and your husband might be spoiled brats. The dog probably growls at your husband because he thinks that you are his (the dog's) property, and your husband is probably jealous of the dog for the same reason. I suggest getting the dog into a good behavior modification program, and getting your husband involved in the training, as well (if possible). There's no reason for them not to get along-tell the husband that the dog stays, and get the dog into training, he needs to learn that growling is not acceptable.
2007-10-01 22:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Leigh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no, it's not fair you got the dog without involving your husband but it 's not fair to the dog you have to throw him away. Why can't you and your husband work together as a team and train the dog. Sign him up for classes, obedience training would be good with a new baby on the way. You and your husband needs to be equal leaders of the pack and your dog needs to know this.
Have you explained how you feel about this dog to your husband? That you got Rocco because he works out of town?
You must not let Rocco growl at you husband, I would be upset to if my husband let one of our dogs growl at me.
Hope you can work it out so Rocco can stay
2007-10-01 18:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Buster 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, your husband can't make you get rid of a dog-- it's a commitment and getting rid of a dog is like getting rid of a kid. If you've ever seen how sad shelter dogs are, you'll know they miss their families.
I bet the poor dog knows your husband doesn't like him, and he probably doesn't even understand why. And if your husband acts aggressively toward the dog, the dog has every right to dislike that man.
I would ask your husband toenter counseling with you. The aggression toward the dog most likely has an underlying problem attatched...and don't forget, a person cruel to a dog may also end up cruel to a child. So keep the dog and take the hubby to counseling so you can get to the bottom of it. Your husband shouldn't make you get rid of the puppy that did nothing to hurt anyone. No one has a right to control someone else's life, including your husband. The dog isn't hurting him, and it's healthy to have a pet.
I'm sorry you're stuck in this, I guess I'm lucky my fiance loves animals.
2007-10-01 18:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by mathaowny 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
hi you shouldnt have got the dog without the pair of you talking about it first , but you cant turn back the clock and the dog is here now , try getting your husband to talk with you when you are both in good spirits and explain how much you love the dog and you want him to love him too , as regards the dog growling at him then you need to show that dog who the boss is and its not him ,hes home all the time now so the pair of them might learn to love each other , you have a child coming so it needs sorting by then obviously , if my husbands dog growled at me everytime i went near my hubby i would be pissed too especially when i wasnt informed or asked my take on getting the dog , hope you work it out ,xx
2007-10-01 19:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a hard one, and a very good question, I think because you have bonded with your dog, the dog could be jealous and that is why he doesn't like you husband. And dogs do know that people don't like them, the have no verbal skills to tell you so they growl and bark. really I don't know what to tell you to do, but I love my dogs and I probably give up my husband first. They listen, they don't tell your secrets and they love you no matter what.
2007-10-01 18:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by flannelpajamas1 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no, it's not fair for him to ask you to do that. animals are not disposable objects and when you get one you are responsible for it forever, anyway thats my feeling. i have 3 dogs, they all needed homes desperately, so we took them in. 2 are pit bulls. one of them can't stand my husband, he can't even be in the same room with her, it's that bad. but i can't give her up, she has issues with EVERYBODY except me, so basically she's unadoptable. my husband isn't happy about the situation, but he puts up with it. he knows how much she means to me. can you get a dog trainer involved. i think that could help a lot. they can do wonders to train both the dog and the humans!
2007-10-01 18:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by odin 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋